Can’t we say lesbian anymore?

Under the beliefs of GI - if you say lesbian and you're male, then everyone claps and shouts stunning and brave.

If you say lesbian and you're female, you are suggesting that you are an evil homosexual who would reject a man as a sexual partner on the grounds of his sex instead of his inner stated self as an identified as woman.

So you're obviously bad and naughty and evil. GOOD women say queer, which does not imply any vaginal gatekeeping or boundaries that would inconvenience men in the use of women's bodies.

Under the SC - lesbians are women, end of. But obviously very naughty for saying so. (They don't care.)

You’re forgetting men who want to breastfeed

'Lesbian' went out of fashion a long time ago, it had association with dungarees, man-hating and woolly jumpers, allegedly. We were 'gay women'. 'Queer' is more recent.
Now that the very definition of lesbian is under attack from TRAs, it seems to have regained some status

The queer antenatal group will also be for women who describe themselves as non-binary or transmen or for women with trans identified male partners.

But yes, there has been loss of lesbian spaces because of this rebranding as 'queer'..

In modern parlance "queer" means a straight person with spicy haircut.

I was more than a bit irritated yesterday by the press release English Heritage put out to announce the blue plaque for the Gateways Club. There was the word "lesbian" large as life on the plaque itself , but the release cited only Lgbtq etc women repeatedly. I was lucky enough to have gone to the Gates just a few times before it closed in 1985 and a good friend of mine was enough of a regular to have been featured in the documentary that Toksvig fronted for BBC4. No-one I met in there would have gone along with that kind of mealy-mouthed forced teaming.