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Mumsnet Obsession With Penises

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Manfreglory · 29/06/2025 18:33

My controversial opinion is that most of the Mums who obsess here over penises, uteruses and chromosomes, would pick more important and interesting topics if their own child was trans.

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GallantKumquat · 30/06/2025 03:08

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 29/06/2025 18:34

I thought this was going to be a fun sex thread ☹️

😭

POWNewcastleEastWallsend · 30/06/2025 02:35

Manfreglory · 30/06/2025 02:30

The origin of this post is that Mumsnet users were asked to share a controversial opinion.

This opinion has been reinforced beyond my wildest dreams.

Clearly this is a forum for mothers who've never loved and cared for a trans person. Or are able, even, to comprehend what that entails.

Too bigoted to understand that no, we don't all look and feel the same; yes, throughout history people's childhoods have been blighted by gender dysphoria and that: yes, it's a real, actual, come-by-it-honestly thing.

"Its absurd! It's made up! It's ideology! We cannot imagine it and we've never seen it so it must be a plot!"

Go back to your Daily Mail: I'm done.

"Mumsnet users were asked to share a controversial opinion."

Were we? Who by?

POWNewcastleEastWallsend · 30/06/2025 02:33

MarieDeGournay · 30/06/2025 00:40

There have been some 'interesting' thread titles recently - presumably, because the OP doesn't usually follow up on them, the whole point is to get something 'anti-GC' in bigly letters on the Feminism: Sex and gender discussions board.

But this one is just weird.Hmm

Reminds me of the exchanges between Tom Swarbrick and Rachel who called in to LBC:

https://x.com/LBC/status/1504855407373787143

Manfreglory · 30/06/2025 02:30

The origin of this post is that Mumsnet users were asked to share a controversial opinion.

This opinion has been reinforced beyond my wildest dreams.

Clearly this is a forum for mothers who've never loved and cared for a trans person. Or are able, even, to comprehend what that entails.

Too bigoted to understand that no, we don't all look and feel the same; yes, throughout history people's childhoods have been blighted by gender dysphoria and that: yes, it's a real, actual, come-by-it-honestly thing.

"Its absurd! It's made up! It's ideology! We cannot imagine it and we've never seen it so it must be a plot!"

Go back to your Daily Mail: I'm done.

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POWNewcastleEastWallsend · 30/06/2025 01:36

RufustheFactualReindeer · 29/06/2025 21:59

A highlight fir me was when they said that being trans is like eating curry in the 1950’s

😂 🤣 😂

Please bring back the laugh emoji, Mumsnet! 🙏

Manfreglory · 30/06/2025 01:31

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 30/06/2025 00:44

Still waiting for the OP to let me know how they're so sure they're not trans.

Fear they may be shaking in a corner frothing at the mouth having an identity crisis.

prob the same way you're sure.

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RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 30/06/2025 00:58

Manfreglory · 29/06/2025 18:33

My controversial opinion is that most of the Mums who obsess here over penises, uteruses and chromosomes, would pick more important and interesting topics if their own child was trans.

What about the Dads here?

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 30/06/2025 00:44

MarieDeGournay · 30/06/2025 00:40

There have been some 'interesting' thread titles recently - presumably, because the OP doesn't usually follow up on them, the whole point is to get something 'anti-GC' in bigly letters on the Feminism: Sex and gender discussions board.

But this one is just weird.Hmm

Still waiting for the OP to let me know how they're so sure they're not trans.

Fear they may be shaking in a corner frothing at the mouth having an identity crisis.

MarieDeGournay · 30/06/2025 00:40

There have been some 'interesting' thread titles recently - presumably, because the OP doesn't usually follow up on them, the whole point is to get something 'anti-GC' in bigly letters on the Feminism: Sex and gender discussions board.

But this one is just weird.Hmm

BeGreatKhakiOtter · 30/06/2025 00:33

Here's a fun gif

Chicken My Body Is Ready GIF by giphystudios2021
SternJoyousBee · 30/06/2025 00:18

WithSilverBells · 29/06/2025 23:42

Woo hoo @Manfreglory . You've got a friend now. @Christinapple will show you the ropes

And Chris is an expert when it comes to penises

NPET · 30/06/2025 00:13

I'm 21. Of course I'm obsessed with dicks, willies, dongs, nozzles & ding-a-lings.

After all I SO wish I had one!
(Oh, sorry, isn't that what I'm supposed to say?)

RareGoalsVerge · 29/06/2025 23:57

Also, male people suffering from dysphoria and feeling terribly disconnected from their male bodies never can and never will know what it would feel like to exist in a female body. If all other less damaging and drastic treatments fail and they eventually get surgery to change certain parts of their male body (which hopefully might bring them some measure of peace, and successfully does so for some), what they will experience is existence in a male body that has had some cosmetic surgery. It will not be the same as the experience of existing in a female body and their medical, social and psychological needs will continue to be those of a male person that has had some cosmetic surgery. No trans identifying male child has the faintest idea what it feels like for a girl either. The narcissistic arrogance necessary to believe otherwise is breathtaking. The idea that women owe these males the collusion of reassuring them that of course they are just like us - which is a ridiculous lie - is not kind. It will make their inevitable disappointment worse.

But all that is irrelevant because caring about whether or not a trans identifying male has or hasn't had a penisectomy is of entirely zero interest. There will be no genital inspections because no one wants to look and it doesn't matter. Males are male and do not belong in the womens facilities so why would checking to see if they have had surgery be a worthwhile exercise. Each individual knows the information about whether they have the body type that was born with a penis (or very rarley, born with a known and identifiable condition that means their male genitals developed differently) or whether they have the other kind of body (whether or not it is fully functioning). We'd really rather not be mentioning penises as thet aren't that interesting, but it's an easy enough means of helping any given individual who is hard of thinking to work it out for themselves. It is not misgendering, insulting, othering or denying the humanity, value or existence of male people to identify that they are of the male sex. Sex and gender being independent phenomena, they may have any gender identity or none, and this information is irrelevant for whether they are allowed in female single-sex facilities.

WithSilverBells · 29/06/2025 23:57

Manfred came to MN thinking it would be a GC version of trans/reddit, but was horrified to discover intelligent women armed with evidence, wit and curry recipes. Chris has now pitched up to prevent Manfred from actually starting to think for themself.

Iamnotalemming · 29/06/2025 23:50

What is going on here this weekend? Are you and BeeSouris friends?

Waitwhat23 · 29/06/2025 23:44

BettyBooper · 29/06/2025 23:28

I genuinely could do with a curry recipe. I'm not a curry fan but my young daughter is, so a mild chicken curry recipe would be awesome.

If youre being serious, I'll preface this with the disclaimer that this is in no way authentic but my wee one likes it -

Saute until soft one large chopped onion and two diced garlic cloves. Add teaspoon each of ginger powder, turmeric and cumin and a teaspoon and a half of medium curry powder and gently heat to realise the aroma/oils. Add a handful (ish) of dessicated coconut and boiling water and a veg stock cube (don't ask me how much water - l do it by eye). Simmer until soupy and then add browned chicken breast chunks and cook for about another 10 minutes.

WithSilverBells · 29/06/2025 23:42

Woo hoo @Manfreglory . You've got a friend now. @Christinapple will show you the ropes

Christinapple · 29/06/2025 23:39

Manfreglory · 29/06/2025 18:33

My controversial opinion is that most of the Mums who obsess here over penises, uteruses and chromosomes, would pick more important and interesting topics if their own child was trans.

There are several threads on here from posters who have a family member who is trans or has trans supportive views. The outcome is a thread here saying they have became estranged with them and other family members. A lot of posters post about being kicked out of online or offline friend groups for being overly obsessive and negative about trans people.

You don't win friends with salad gender critical views.

PeehS · 29/06/2025 23:39

BettyBooper · 29/06/2025 23:28

I genuinely could do with a curry recipe. I'm not a curry fan but my young daughter is, so a mild chicken curry recipe would be awesome.

For a mild I will throw a curve ball and say I’d try a Japanese curry, grab the curry roux boxes online or at an asian store.

https://www.justonecookbook.com/simple-chicken-curry/

Japanese Chicken Curry (Video) チキンカレー

With tender chicken, carrots, and potatoes cooked in a rich savory curry sauce, Japanese Chicken Curry with rice is a classic weeknight meal!

https://www.justonecookbook.com/simple-chicken-curry/

BettyBooper · 29/06/2025 23:28

Manfreglory · 29/06/2025 23:08

Do you really need that? Because I can but tend to think you're just looking for something to trash.

I genuinely could do with a curry recipe. I'm not a curry fan but my young daughter is, so a mild chicken curry recipe would be awesome.

Boiledbeetle · 29/06/2025 23:26

Or maybe this was the right thread after all!

❤️

Waitwhat23 · 29/06/2025 23:24

Gerbils...
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh.
You may feel you are a mouse,
But biology says you're really not that at all,
Carry on, carry on,
Your rodent genus matters.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 29/06/2025 23:21

Boiledbeetle · 29/06/2025 23:16

Gerbils are playing guess the song

ETA bollocks, this is supposed to be on the Bluestocking thread!

Edited

Actually, how did Freddie Mercury know that the silhouette-o he saw was of a man? Transphobic of him to assume.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 29/06/2025 23:17

Boiledbeetle · 29/06/2025 23:16

Gerbils are playing guess the song

ETA bollocks, this is supposed to be on the Bluestocking thread!

Edited

I see a little silhouetto of a mouse, scaramoosh scaramoosh can you do the fandango

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 29/06/2025 23:16

Yes because...say it proud ladies!.... trans women are men!!!!

Now you're getting it!!

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