My DD hates that I’m a TERF!

I would absolutely rip the piss out of them. Then watch them try to pay for their own uni education without my support. Not happening. Suck it up buttercup. People can’t change sex.

In my experience they do relate it to racism and homophobia which it isn’t. I’m not sure how to convey that. They have lost their minds to trans ideology.

"...not to expect her to want to spend time with me when she leaves home."

I see she's up to speed with the emotional blackmail gambit, she must be learning lots from her 'friends', it's a pity it's all the wrong stuff.

Teenagers will be teenagers though, she'll grow up, you haven't lost her yet.

reading a perspective different to your own might help.

I agree with you here.

Which GC writers have you found most helpful? And which gender ideologist writers would you recommend?

Mine is the same. :-(

Or just the usual inability to be accurate/truthful.

Her perspective is based on ‘gender’ not ‘sex’, hence the term ‘transgender’.

again, reading a perspective different to your own might help.

I just don’t talk about it with my adult children-I’m too scared of losing them. I imagine how I would have felt if I had discovered my parents were racist or homophobic. That’s exactly how it would be for them.

How did "seek some professional advice" become ‘Seek medical advice’?
Freudian slip perhaps? Always chosing the medical path.....

I’d start with the religion analogy. Some people believe TWAW. some people are gender critical. Some people believe Jesus is the son of god. Others don’t. We live in a pluralistic and tolerant society where different people with different beliefs can still be friends. So ask if she can be friends with someone with different beliefs. And if not, why not?

give her time and space to think, don’t expect to change her mind. Just listen and work towards a state where you agree to disagree.

later as she gets older, she may move closer to your point of view.

It’s good to open your mind, but not so much that your brain falls out.

Don't worry, OP. My ds is appalled at my views and my liking for JK Rowling. He says I am wrong, that I am cruel etc etc. I've simply said we will have to agree to disagree.

He's 16. He is kind and gentle and has never experienced cruelty or violence. He still has a rosy view of the world, as I'm sure your dd has.

But he'll go to university or college and eventually one of his new female friends will confide that she's been attacked, and then he'll start to realise that not all men are like him, and in reality a fair proportion of men are pretty nasty, cannot be trusted and that's why single sex spaces are so important. That a man in a dress is still a man.

Your dd will work it out too. She may not admit it immediately, but she will.

You just have to continue to be calm and honest with her. Science is not something to get heated about. Truth is truth.

But her daughter's perspective is not based in reality is it? Human can not change sex. .
Teens should not be given false information

‘Seek medical advice’ 😂😂😂

maybe open your mind to her perspective, given that you’re her parent and could set a great example of open mindedness- the Trans Issue is a good place to start.

I’m afraid you will embarrass your teen - that’s par for the course with teens … you’re her parent not her friend.

What you’re saying is the legal position, recently confirmed in court. But - I’d stop trying to educate her on this matter. You will not win. Stop mentioning it, and close down conversation if she raises it trying to draw you into an argument.

She might change her mind or she might not. You can’t demand that she spends time at home with you when she’s an adult. But she might come to realise that things are actually pretty good at home. This might well blow over so I’d try to minimise discussion.

If she becomes very unpleasant on the matter, and I was you, I might go for a tougher response, depending on her personality. If I thought she was basically goading me, then I’d make it clear that parental contribution to university accommodation etc is dependent on decent, respectful behaviour.

If she has genuinely been sucked in by it, and you’re worried about her mental health, then I’d seek some professional advice.