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Gender clinic backs off after family successfully challenges direct contact with adult daughter

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BonfireLady · 15/06/2025 09:49

I don't think there is a thread on this article yet. Please do correct me if I'm wrong and I'll delete this one.

This feels like a HUGE watershed moment for parents of vulnerable teenage children and young adults.

The preamble

There are plenty of threads on here which cover how children are being pulled towards believing that they may have a gender identity that differs from their sex. Most of this seems to happen in schools, where the influence of what they're seeing online becomes consolidated by staff Being Kind - and parents are then encouraged to embrace their child's new identity... and potentially reported to Children's Services if they don't.

The net effect is that many of these children enter legal adulthood believing that their concerned parents want to do them harm - by denying their authentic selves - and, from the age of 18, they have the autonomy to make decisions that they may not fully understand. In fact, it's earlier because cross-sex hormones are available from 16 in the UK.

This applies to autistic children and young adults too, despite the obvious red flags that you'd hope would be picked up by Educational Psychologists, Speech and Language Therapists and Occupational Therapists regarding how autistic children might experience the physical and emotional changes in puberty as distressing and confusing. However, we know that autistic children and young adults are being failed here. So all hope is lost right....? They get to 18 and they're straight into the gender clinics getting "treatments"....?

The achievement

No! All hope is not lost. Here is the incredible story of how a family of an adult was able to get the gender clinic to back off. The logical conclusion is that the clinic was fearful of future litigation. Good 💪

https://www.pittparents.com/p/the-girl-in-the-tinkerbell-dress?r=n5nv9&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

This has the potential to stop clinics from beginning a "gender affirming care" treatment pathway for vulnerable young adults. But it also has the potential to get them to back away even once care has started.

Here is a link to the survey that is referenced in the article:

https://genspect.org/resources/gender-dysphoria-support-tool/

Obviously it doesn't end for families when the clinic backs off - young people are still distressed and need support. But it's a significant step forward if that young person can't access irreversible medical interventions while they work through their distress.

The Girl In The Tinkerbell Dress

Pushing back against the gender clinic saved our daughter

https://www.pittparents.com/p/the-girl-in-the-tinkerbell-dress?r=n5nv9

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Kalalily · 15/06/2025 16:48

RhymesWithOrange · 15/06/2025 15:26

Surely the clinic should be investigated for malpractice??

This was my first reaction too. I hope they have been reported to the Care Quality Commission. It makes my blood boil that gender clinics can get away with this.
Thank you for highlighting this OP and solidarity to all in the same boat, myself included, watching and waiting and praying that doctors will do no harm in the meantime.

RhymesWithOrange · 15/06/2025 15:26

Surely the clinic should be investigated for malpractice??

POWNewcastleEastWallsend · 15/06/2025 15:06

I tag all my website Bookmarks (Favourites) and started adding the tag "winning" in August last year.

It felt a bit over-optimistic when I added the first one, like, would it be worthwhile bothering?

That first one was a Newspaper report that Pornhub, YouPorn and Xhamster were set to be shut down in Germany. There are obviously other things that I could have tagged "winning" a lot earlier, starting with the Forstater judgement.

This PITT article is my 40th to be tagged "winning" and the hits do seem to be coming more frequently. It did bring a tear to my eye reading that story. So much heartbreak and such a hard slog to get there - but they won! And have passed on tips to help other families win too! ❤️ 💪 🥳

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F1rstDoNoHarm · 15/06/2025 10:36

I have noticed this article too, thanks for posting. I have read so much on this topic that like other parents in a similar position I feel like I should have a PhD on Sex and Gender by now. Sometimes I think my own mental health would benefit from not knowing or reading quite as much as I do about the harms. However this article has huge practical benefit and I’m glad I’ve read it and not missed it. The survey is on my todo list after a formal complaint to school. Fingers crossed.

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 15/06/2025 10:27

Oh @BonfireLady, I am really sorry to hear that. It feels like you need to be in a state of constant vigilance, doesn’t it? So exhausting and overwhelming. And frankly fuck these schools that push/allow this to be pushed on vulnerable kids. I hope you have a good support system. Sending hugs.

BonfireLady · 15/06/2025 10:24

Edited to add: I had intended to quote @TwoLoonsAndASprout

❤️💐💪

I think there are many who will feel as you do. My daughter is still at significant risk of becoming gender questioning again. I've not posted the latest info but the pressure to believe that she might have a gendered soul that differs from her sex is ramping up at school. Just as I expected, it's been a gamechanger (not in a good way) that a female who identifies as a boy joined the autism unit (Resourced Provision) at her school. I won't derail my own thread with more on that but suffice to say, I felt teary too on reading this.

Hopefully word will spread about what this family has achieved - and about the resource that enabled them to do it. Their story adds the human layer that explains the value of this resource.

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MrsOvertonsWindow · 15/06/2025 10:20

That's such a moving piece. Thanks @BonfireLady

It offers a bit of hope for families caught up in this nightmare, desperately trying to safeguard their vulnerable children. Flowers

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 15/06/2025 10:02

@BonfireLady, thank you so much for this. Am somewhat teary reading it - too much familiar in that story.

But what a great family and a fantastic resource they were signposted to (and are signposting others to).