I looked into this and was told that we could bring a case against him but that we would be questioned on why we don't just move schools. Also, my son is possibly neurodivergent (getting tested for ADHD) and I don't want to put him through any more turmoil. I worry that his character might be questioned, as some users have here, when although he is very bright, he does question things. Also, he hasn't gone out of his way to 'misgender' but it has come up 3 times in 2 years.
( the rest of this message is a general reply to all)
Although it's hard for adults to tell the difference between a prepubescent boy or girl, kids know the difference straight away. He's asked me why X is a boy but says he's a girl. He's said he looks like a boy, talks like a boy so why is he saying he's a girl. How can you possibly explain that to a kid other than say the boy is confused.
The trans-identifying boy's gender distress is imo, being driven by his parents. When he used his boys name recently, the parents reminded him that he was now 'girlsname'. He obviously is very confused because if there's a boys v girls game he doesn't know where to go. He teases classmates that he is a boy.
There is a clique of blue-haired parents in that school who are determined to stamp out any dissenting voices and have targeted my son and labeled him a troublemaker. They've brought false complaints against him and only for we were witnesses we might have believed them. We've seen him play normally and be perfectly well-behaved and they've still found some reason to give out. That was recently and it was the last straw for us.
So it's through the entire culture of the school and noone else will stand up to them. They are on the board of management, the PTA and the woman I think is behind it all has the principal in her back pocket. We all have to twist reality and walk on eggshells to suit the needs and whims of 3 special families. The whole thing is toxic and abusive and the best thing to do is get as far away from these people as possible.
My husband and I were so angry at the treatment our son has received that we considered lodging a formal complaint. The principal herself has mistreated him. I won't go into details as I'd be here all day. She talks a good talk though and could probably justify (in her mind) everything she's done. It's very hard to prove she has bad intentions towards our son even though we strongly feel it and all the evidence points to it. Now, we've decided to just get the hell out of dodge and concentrate on helping our son recover and rebuild his confidence.