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My employer has just removed single sexed toilets to be more inclusive!

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Dhama · 27/05/2025 14:32

In light of the SC ruling. Wtaf

Previously we had men, women and a unisex accessible toilet. They have now, in the guise of being inclusive, removed all signage and all are mixed sex.

The toilets are all individual, lockable with washing facilities included but that’s not the point. I hate using a toilet after men have been in there fgs.

We are a LA so unsure what the provisions are in other offices across the county.

I have emailed the head of facilities but not sure if I can do anything else.

am so cross

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GreyskySexRealistsky · 18/08/2026 22:24

So that's two misogynistic posts implying women somehow "brought it on themselves" by clarifying their rights.

Abuser's language.

PollyNomial · 18/08/2026 22:20

Dhama · 24/06/2025 17:23

Just as an update

All subsequent emails requesting a copy of the EIA and Risk Assessment have been ignored 😕 still no sanitary provision in all toilets either
I have submitted a FOI request to get sight of the EIA and RA I have also asked for copies of all conversations/minutes etc around this decision

Really frustrating and not sure what I will do after that

Own. Your. Victory.

GreyskySexRealistsky · 18/08/2026 22:19

TIRF · 18/08/2026 21:58

Sorry, but it appears your employer is attempting to follow the law following the lawfare by GC activists. Realistically, despite the claims above, these toilets appear legal. Posters who post about the EHRC guidance should read that this is a workplace so doesn’t apply, and even then it makes clear that such provision is legal. Frankly, you should be directing your complaint at For Women Scotland, who changed the law by undemocratic means, and the consequence of a legal claim that doesn’t fully consider all the consequences unlike a careful statutory process.

What law did they change?

Name it.

Delphigirl · 18/08/2026 22:17

We had this at work. We put a flouncy wicker basket in one loo stuffed full of sanitary products with a big sign decorated with hearts “if in need help yourself” and voila. Men use the other loos 🤣🤣🤣

ArabellaScott · 18/08/2026 22:17

TIRF · 18/08/2026 21:58

Sorry, but it appears your employer is attempting to follow the law following the lawfare by GC activists. Realistically, despite the claims above, these toilets appear legal. Posters who post about the EHRC guidance should read that this is a workplace so doesn’t apply, and even then it makes clear that such provision is legal. Frankly, you should be directing your complaint at For Women Scotland, who changed the law by undemocratic means, and the consequence of a legal claim that doesn’t fully consider all the consequences unlike a careful statutory process.

You have not understood the guidance, or discrimination law.

Nor has OP's employer, unfortunately.

TIRF · 18/08/2026 21:59

Nameychangington · 24/06/2025 18:57

Some of the males who want to be in women's toilets raid the san pro bins for used san pro to...use themselves for umm... gender euphoria purposes. So I wouldn't advise leaving it where it can be accessed by males with that interest.

What utter BS. Grow up with making up false claims about trans people.

TIRF · 18/08/2026 21:58

Sorry, but it appears your employer is attempting to follow the law following the lawfare by GC activists. Realistically, despite the claims above, these toilets appear legal. Posters who post about the EHRC guidance should read that this is a workplace so doesn’t apply, and even then it makes clear that such provision is legal. Frankly, you should be directing your complaint at For Women Scotland, who changed the law by undemocratic means, and the consequence of a legal claim that doesn’t fully consider all the consequences unlike a careful statutory process.

Nameychangington · 24/06/2025 18:57

Theunamedcat · 24/06/2025 17:57

Flush tampons the first blockage may change their mind or you could wrap them and put them in a bin that people can see because surely they don't expect you to take them home right?

Some of the males who want to be in women's toilets raid the san pro bins for used san pro to...use themselves for umm... gender euphoria purposes. So I wouldn't advise leaving it where it can be accessed by males with that interest.

MarieDeGournay · 24/06/2025 18:32

MrsSkylerWhite · 28/05/2025 11:40

As I said above, @BunfightBetty . The trans community represents a tiny, tiny proportion of the population, as you know.

The number of that community behaving in the way you describe is likely even tinier.

The amount of scaremongering on these threads is entirely disproportionate and I suspect makes the lives of trans people just trying to go about their business, not hurting anyone, even more difficult than they already are

I don’t need information about something that in reality affects very few women, myself included.

Your point that the 'The trans community represents a tiny, tiny proportion of the population' is very true.

Since that is the case, do you ever wonder why on earth such a tiny, tiny proportion of the population demands that the vast majority of the population accept changes in the law, medicine, education, the English language, the media, etc. etc.?

And on the specific subject of toilets, do you ever wonder why a tiny, tiny proportion of the population, who are perfectly capable of using the toilets designated for their sex, are very aggressively demanding that special toilets should be added to the existing women's/men's/disabled people's provision, regardless of the cost and disruption?

Why shouldn't that tiny, tiny proportion of the population just go about their business, not hurting anyone, by respecting single-sex spaces and using the toilets designated for their sex?

If there is scare-mongering going on, it's not working on me - I am not particularly scared of a transwoman using a women's toilet, no more than I would be of any other kind of man using the women's toilet.

I just believe in the principle of respecting other people's spaces; any man, trans or not, who uses the women's toilet should not be there, on principle.

They don't have to frighten anyone or attack anyone to be in the wrong - by failing to respect a single-sex-designated women's toilet, they have removed themselves from the category of 'people just trying to go about their business, not hurting anyone' .

They have revealed themselves instead as people who stubbornly insist on going where they know they don't belong [cf the UKSC ruling, for the avoidance of doubt] and where they know they are not wanted.

That's just wrong on principle, scary or not.

Theunamedcat · 24/06/2025 17:57

Flush tampons the first blockage may change their mind or you could wrap them and put them in a bin that people can see because surely they don't expect you to take them home right?

Ddakji · 24/06/2025 17:41

Time to go public I reckon. Or, is this an LA? Contact SEEN in Local Authorities?

Dhama · 24/06/2025 17:23

Just as an update

All subsequent emails requesting a copy of the EIA and Risk Assessment have been ignored 😕 still no sanitary provision in all toilets either
I have submitted a FOI request to get sight of the EIA and RA I have also asked for copies of all conversations/minutes etc around this decision

Really frustrating and not sure what I will do after that

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BunfightBetty · 31/05/2025 11:05

Aquacrab · 31/05/2025 10:22

Rather have a heart attack in a ooo than be raped by a dolatowski.

Well others may feel differently. More importantly, that’s not the actual choice.

The reality is that single sex toilets with door gaps are actually way safer in terms of sexual assault as well as in the case of serious medical events. An attacker can push you into a single sex occupancy facility with full height doors, lock you in with him and nobody can hear what’s going on. The door gaps in single sex facilities mean the attack would be seen and heard by others and help can be had.

The problem with Dolatowski is that people were under the impression that, as a man, he was entitled to be in the women’s loo if only he said the magic words ‘I’m trans’. And everyone was too scared to raise an objection in case they were accused of bigotry or some dozy copper slapped them with a non-crime hate incident record. Now, everyone is clear that no male is meant to be in the female facilities, no matter how hurt his feelings if he’s told to leave. So males will now once again stick out like a sore thumb and be seen as a potential threat, rather than a ‘poor ickle most vulnerable of all’, whose comfort should be prioritised higher than that of actual female, whose safety and dignity should be ignored.

Keeptoiletssafe · 31/05/2025 10:29

Aquacrab · 31/05/2025 10:22

Rather have a heart attack in a ooo than be raped by a dolatowski.

That doesn’t make sense. The unisex toilet is private and resists sound. The occupant can’t see out to warn them someone’s near the cubicle. People outside the cubicle can see and hear how many people are in the cubicle by how many feet there are. The latter point actually is a good incentive for something not to happen in the first place. Perpetrators don’t like witnesses.

Nameychangington · 31/05/2025 10:26

Aquacrab · 31/05/2025 10:22

Rather have a heart attack in a ooo than be raped by a dolatowski.

Or, and this is a bit of an extreme suggestion so bear with me - we could just have single sex toilets so we could be both safe from the likes of Dolatowski and safer if we fall ill and need rescuing?

Oh wait no that might make some men sad, so we can't have that. Better to risk women's safety then mens feelings.

Aquacrab · 31/05/2025 10:22

BunfightBetty · 27/05/2025 18:29

Not paranoid, it has happened lots of times. I’m gobsmacked you are ignorant of this.

In any case, what about the safety aspect? if you were to suffer a cardiac arrest in a public toilet (not so far fetched, as this happens also. People have an urge to use the loo when they’re suffering a cardiac event), would you rather:

a) be in a women’s toilet, where there are gaps around the doors, and people could see you slumped on the floor, hear any sounds you make and get help quickly; or

b) be in a unisex fully enclosed loo with a locked door, where nobody can hear or see you are in need of urgent medical help. As a consequence it is several hours until you are found.

Which would you choose?

Rather have a heart attack in a ooo than be raped by a dolatowski.

Muffinmam · 29/05/2025 14:07

beAsensible1 · 28/05/2025 12:05

so you would foul a single enclosed toilet with blood.

maybe that’s what the men smearing are trying to achieve.

Tablets. It’s just colouring in corn flour that is released in water.

Keeptoiletssafe · 28/05/2025 20:26

Walkden · 28/05/2025 20:16

The Health and Safety at Work Act (1974).

Surely this applies to teachers and school staff rather than pupils though?

I'd imagine separate legislation covers arrangements for pupils...

No it applies to the environment that is created by the employer. Pupils are in that environment. Who the employer is, depends on the type of school.

Edit: I got that schools have to abide by the 1974 regs directly from the DfE.

Walkden · 28/05/2025 20:16

The Health and Safety at Work Act (1974).

Surely this applies to teachers and school staff rather than pupils though?

I'd imagine separate legislation covers arrangements for pupils...

Arran2024 · 28/05/2025 20:03

Lavender14 · 28/05/2025 14:20

I agree tbh. So many toilets now are accessed by workmen/male cleaners etc anyway. Outside of an all female work place I'm not sure completely single sex bathrooms really exist anymore. Never mind accessible bathrooms are all mainly mixed sex facilities.

Obviously noone is disputing that men can carry a level of risk towards women, we all know that. But I do think some of the language used when it comes to trans women in particular is just intentionally inflammatory and it shuts down any chance of a genuine and constructive conversation about women's safety which is what this really ultimately comes down to rather than being about trans women at all.

It's not just about safety, if by that you mean the risk of sexual assault. It is about dignity and privacy and feeling safevtoo.

Keeptoiletssafe · 28/05/2025 19:49

Walkden · 28/05/2025 14:46

"I am discussing what employers (including schools) should be doing.
For example secondary schools in England have to justify to the DfE why they are not having the new standard full height doors, even in single sex toilets. This makes no sense when there’s around 9 children with epilepsy and several more with diabetes in each school. There’s not a safe toilet for them"

Bit strange to be talking about schools as employers in the context of children though....

It’s in relation to The Health and Safety at Work Act (1974). A lot of toilet legislation doesn’t apply to schools but this one still does. It discusses a duty to safeguard and provide a safe environment and adequate facilities.

A lot of my research is from schools as they’re the canaries in terms of new loo designs.

maltravers · 28/05/2025 16:16

beAsensible1 · 28/05/2025 13:34

If you are worried about a criminal man putting cameras in the loo then don’t use any public toilet. A women’s sign is not a barrier to criminality. It just guarantees all the videos will be of women.

it could be done by a male cleaner, handyman or plumber. A colleague who comes in early or late or just slipping in unnoticed.

I would have thought it self evident that dozens of men using a loo (anonymously) are more likely to lead to this than one (traceable) cleaner or a man taking a chance of sneaking into the ladies.

To me your post has tones of “why bother to try to safeguard women”. Was this your intention?

Walkden · 28/05/2025 14:46

"I am discussing what employers (including schools) should be doing.
For example secondary schools in England have to justify to the DfE why they are not having the new standard full height doors, even in single sex toilets. This makes no sense when there’s around 9 children with epilepsy and several more with diabetes in each school. There’s not a safe toilet for them"

Bit strange to be talking about schools as employers in the context of children though....

Keeptoiletssafe · 28/05/2025 14:40

beAsensible1 · 28/05/2025 14:23

But they were always single sex self contained units. There was never an option for raised cubicle type doors.

there are group toilets on different floors so in a work scenario a person with epilepsy would be placed on that floor not this one as it’s not accessible

I am discussing what employers (including schools) should be doing.
For example secondary schools in England have to justify to the DfE why they are not having the new standard full height doors, even in single sex toilets. This makes no sense when there’s around 9 children with epilepsy and several more with diabetes in each school. There’s not a safe toilet for them.

There’s also the question in the school design brief which asks whether your school toilets are going to be unisex or single sex. So that’s why some schools justify having all unisex toilets.

Design guidelines are all over the place. Document T attempts to sort this out from 2024. Schools are under different rules but are still employers.

beAsensible1 · 28/05/2025 14:23

Keeptoiletssafe · 28/05/2025 14:09

This is really important as disabled people in the workplace are supposed to get reasonable adjustments for toilets. With 1% of people having epilepsy, it is likely that there will be at least one person who will need door gaps for safety reasons in a large workforce. And in schools. Which mean single sex designs.
Thats not even factoring in all the other medical conditions like diabetes, heart conditions etc. There’s a great emotional load families carry with them when a member has a health condition and there’s extra barriers to their safety that could be avoided. It’s not just the event itself, it’s the anticipation and factoring in risks.

But they were always single sex self contained units. There was never an option for raised cubicle type doors.

there are group toilets on different floors so in a work scenario a person with epilepsy would be placed on that floor not this one as it’s not accessible

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