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TW who supports the SC ruling - AMA

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VanishingVision · 16/05/2025 22:55

Hello! I was thinking of doing this post for a little while now as the previous posts doing this by the rather wonderful trans men here were really interesting but I didnt want to take up too much space here or take any attention away from much more important things here than what I have to say.

But I figured to just go for it before I have a big old break from the Internet for a while.

So like the title says, I'm a transwoman who accepts the SC ruling: ask me anything if you'd like to and I'll do my best to answer.

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 18/05/2025 10:49

illinivich · 18/05/2025 09:31

No one thinks that fertility is the definition of sex. Otherwise children and women past the menopause would be sexless.

What this conversation shows is how often the trans argument is linguistic. They are changing the definition of words to fit their world view, not using language to clearly articulate their position.

They claim we can't say women are of the sex that becomes pregnant because some women cannot become pregnant. But they are changing 'can become' from potentially to definitely.

Similarly the discussions around trans in general is hard because they refuse to define and jump to different groups when it suits. Trans is an identity, a diagnosis of GD, a GRC or surgery and hormonal treatment at any given time.

Exactly.

JamieCannister · 18/05/2025 10:19

VanishingVision · 18/05/2025 09:37

Respectfully, you are wrong.

I had no influence from the trans community and I had no trans friends growing up. No influence from the media as it wasn't a topic when GD became prevalent in my life and I've typically always been someone who doesn't pay much attention to the media, much preferring to stick to my more niche musical and artistic topics. So no social contagion for myself. I also had limited access to the Internet in fact until I was 18.

GD showed itself truly as I going through puberty, after 'working it out' I tried to transition twice but failed out of fear (my experiences of SA was the cause of being scared to do so). All that happened was my GD just got worse and worse throughout my life until I eventually made the steps, I transitioned AFTER puberty. Also, psychiatrists in multiple sessions concluded that SA was not the course of my dysphoria and I believe and agree with them. I respect your position but I'm afraid you are wrong on this one.

Respectfully, I do not believe that either of us know for sure. You have the advantage of closeness to the issue, but given the issue is you, you are maybe too close.

Mental health practitioners of all sorts appear to me to be deeply flawed due to bias, and they are practicing something which seems to be art s much as science.

And that is before we get to my issue which is that aside from things like pinning back ears or reducing the size of a very large nose or skin grafts to hide a facial scar, all surgery should be for medical issues. I do not accept that there is evidence that BIID should be treated with amputation, and no evidence that GD that leads to surgery or hormones is anything other than Sex Specific BIID under a different name.

And even if surgeries were categorically statistically seen to benefit the mental health of an individual we still need to consider whether the financial and other costs to society are worth the price.

As far as I am concerned truth will always matter and truth must always win. I simply do not believe that individuals or society benefits in the mid to long term by lies.

GnomeDePlume · 18/05/2025 10:17

Unfortunately the moderate voices always get shouted down.

VanishingVision · 18/05/2025 09:55

Helleofabore · 18/05/2025 08:18

Perhaps people with transgender identities need to start a campaign of ‘not our crimes’ and start sorting the data like feminist groups started doing. But as mentioned, to do that the group collating the data will have to define who is transgender for the purposes of data collection. Therein lays the issue that may well prevent the campaign even starting.

I agree, as much as I feel like I would love to see something like that happen 'not our crimes' I also can't imagine it will considering it would likely involve some of witch-hunt to determine who and who isn't genuine. The trans community's attitude is typically 'believe everyone who tells you who they are'.

Maybe in time, a result of the ruling I want to see is that the opportunist men's ability to access single sex spaces being something that dissuades these kinds to persue transition. So, maybe if that happens it could maybe become a possibility 🤷‍♀️

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VanishingVision · 18/05/2025 09:47

ReynaudSoWhat · 18/05/2025 01:02

Hi OP, thanks for this thread, you sound like a level-headed & likeable person. Can I ask you something? Earlier, you said that it was women who encouraged you to use female spaces. Do you know why they did that, and what their reasoning was?

IMO, the current (difficult) situation is also the result of women’s actions on behalf of TW. They never seem to think about the impact on other women.

Awh thanks!

I suspect they felt like it would make my life easier and safer, primarily it was the group of women that I worked with whom I was close to. They started taking me out with them alot and pretty much dragged me in with him 'no this is where you go now'.
I had no real intention or plan to change spaces, I wasn't using either at the time so it wasn't something that even crossed my mind. I was aware they didn't speak for all women, but they convinced me most women wouldn't have a problem or even notice me in there and I believed them at the time. Unfortunately, I have a tendency to be a little naive.

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VanishingVision · 18/05/2025 09:37

JamieCannister · 18/05/2025 06:51

I suspect / guess (and obviously I have little to nothing to go on) that maybe your dysphoria would have resolved if you had gone through puberty naturally and normally, having not been abused and having not been influenced by the trans movement. I say this based on the "80% desist if left alone" stats

It is perfectly possible that that the gender dysphoria came first but SA (and social contagion) are the two reasons you are trans today.

Respectfully, you are wrong.

I had no influence from the trans community and I had no trans friends growing up. No influence from the media as it wasn't a topic when GD became prevalent in my life and I've typically always been someone who doesn't pay much attention to the media, much preferring to stick to my more niche musical and artistic topics. So no social contagion for myself. I also had limited access to the Internet in fact until I was 18.

GD showed itself truly as I going through puberty, after 'working it out' I tried to transition twice but failed out of fear (my experiences of SA was the cause of being scared to do so). All that happened was my GD just got worse and worse throughout my life until I eventually made the steps, I transitioned AFTER puberty. Also, psychiatrists in multiple sessions concluded that SA was not the course of my dysphoria and I believe and agree with them. I respect your position but I'm afraid you are wrong on this one.

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illinivich · 18/05/2025 09:31

No one thinks that fertility is the definition of sex. Otherwise children and women past the menopause would be sexless.

What this conversation shows is how often the trans argument is linguistic. They are changing the definition of words to fit their world view, not using language to clearly articulate their position.

They claim we can't say women are of the sex that becomes pregnant because some women cannot become pregnant. But they are changing 'can become' from potentially to definitely.

Similarly the discussions around trans in general is hard because they refuse to define and jump to different groups when it suits. Trans is an identity, a diagnosis of GD, a GRC or surgery and hormonal treatment at any given time.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 18/05/2025 09:08

Annoyedone · 18/05/2025 08:18

Fuck right off with this shit. You do NOT get to weaponise my trauma as an infertile woman as a gotcha. stop it now. How dare you? How do you have the audacity to claim anyone thinks a an infertile woman is not a woman. If I wasn’t a woman, I wouldn’t have cared about not being pregnant, cried every time my period came or put myself through frankly humiliating and invasive tests and treatments. Go away and boil your head.

As a fellow infertile woman I hear you and I would also say that the only ppl who have ever tried to equate my infertility with not being a woman are TRA.

so much be kind/RSOH

illinivich · 18/05/2025 09:04

This Swedish cohort study by Dhejne et al. (2011) followed a population of individuals who had undergone surgical and legal sex reassignment involving hormonal and surgical treatment between 1973 and 2003 (324 in total) and compared them to a matched control group of their birth sex.

Not the current definition of trans, and not the requirements to get a GRC.

What it interesting is that even with surgery and hormonal treatment, the rates of offending is the same as all other men.

GnomeDePlume · 18/05/2025 08:53

Trans rights organisations really do need to get their houses in order. They have allowed themselves to be taken over by an aggressive, vocal minority.

I see parallels with the way the Labour Party allowed itself to be taken over by Momentum.

Perhaps there is simply a population of aggressive, vocal people who are constantly on the look out for a new cause to shout about.

JamieCannister · 18/05/2025 08:26

Annoyedone · 18/05/2025 08:18

Fuck right off with this shit. You do NOT get to weaponise my trauma as an infertile woman as a gotcha. stop it now. How dare you? How do you have the audacity to claim anyone thinks a an infertile woman is not a woman. If I wasn’t a woman, I wouldn’t have cared about not being pregnant, cried every time my period came or put myself through frankly humiliating and invasive tests and treatments. Go away and boil your head.

One consolation is that we all know that these TRA types are so illogical, ill-informed, nasty and cruel tht we rally can pretty much ignore them 100%

Annoyedone · 18/05/2025 08:18

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:59

I'll ask you one of my own - have you always thought that infertile women aren't women because they don't have a "reproductive role" or was that a recent position you've adopted?

Fuck right off with this shit. You do NOT get to weaponise my trauma as an infertile woman as a gotcha. stop it now. How dare you? How do you have the audacity to claim anyone thinks a an infertile woman is not a woman. If I wasn’t a woman, I wouldn’t have cared about not being pregnant, cried every time my period came or put myself through frankly humiliating and invasive tests and treatments. Go away and boil your head.

Helleofabore · 18/05/2025 08:18

Perhaps people with transgender identities need to start a campaign of ‘not our crimes’ and start sorting the data like feminist groups started doing. But as mentioned, to do that the group collating the data will have to define who is transgender for the purposes of data collection. Therein lays the issue that may well prevent the campaign even starting.

Helleofabore · 18/05/2025 08:11

TroubledWatersTW · 18/05/2025 07:58

Absolutely, I completely agree with you. Studies have convincingly showed trans women have the same rate of offence as other males.

I was disagreeing with @JamieCannister saying that trans women have a higher rate of sex offence than males. That's not proven anywhere that I know of. Happy to be convinced though, I strongly do believe the truth is important.

Jamie is pointing out the phenomenon that has been recorded in the UK but also I believe in other countries. If you want a study done, I would start campaigning for one to be done. I believe many feminists would support an independent study being done to find accurate rates of offending.

However, we can only work with what we have. Just like the current spikes in female sex crime statistics which when I last looked, was showing a significant trajectory and we should be fucking worried that female people are now committing sex crimes like never before… or it could be that some of those female people are not female at all! Just like the census data inaccuracy.

Please don’t complain to feminists about us having to use what data we have and the conclusions that data highlights.

WarriorN · 18/05/2025 08:09

Yes the best thing the trans lobby could do for men who are struggling with dysphoria to the extent that leads to surgery (though baring in mind Ritchie Heron was classed as such) is to actively state that the diagnosis and social status has been hijacked by predators and fetishists. Also support the SR ruling as it’s the myth that men are actually women and must be ‘treated’ as such that’s created this situation.

i still don’t know how you’d tell them apart though.

JamieCannister · 18/05/2025 08:00

TroubledWatersTW · 18/05/2025 07:48

Right exactly, so that statistic doesn't imply your statement then.

The Swedish study selected a group of trans women, and non-trans male and female controls, and THEN tracked their criminality. Thus it's a fair comparison and the TWs end up being typically male.

If instead you select prisoners and quantify whether or not they're trans, you're potentially measuring the opposite effect: i.e. the likelihood that being arrested triggers someone to transition. I personally believe that trigger rate is quite high, but a proper study would need to be done to confirm.

Statistics are a pain!

I don't make the rules. I never said TWAW. I never said "believe everyone when they tell you who they are".

By TRAs rules a man who only comes out as trans after being convicted is just as trans as any others.

If someone wishes to gatekeep transness, then I am willing to believe that the numbers can be brought down. Like if we gatekeeped transness there would be fewer men in women's spaces.

Either way it is absolutely clear that "real trans" (potentially offending at close to normal male rates) and "predatory pretenders" are impossible to tell apart.

TroubledWatersTW · 18/05/2025 07:58

Helleofabore · 18/05/2025 07:56

No statistics are not a pain.

What the prison stats show very clearly is that male criminality patterns continue. Because the statistics of prisoners show that male people with transgender identities in no way have anything close to the rate of sex offences that female people have. And for strong safeguarding principles, that is the risk that should be considered.

Are male people with a transgender identity committing similar crimes and at the same rate or lower than female people to be treated as if they were female people in strong safeguarding measures? If not, then they should not be treated as exempt from the same principles applied to all other male people.

Absolutely, I completely agree with you. Studies have convincingly showed trans women have the same rate of offence as other males.

I was disagreeing with @JamieCannister saying that trans women have a higher rate of sex offence than males. That's not proven anywhere that I know of. Happy to be convinced though, I strongly do believe the truth is important.

Helleofabore · 18/05/2025 07:57

WarriorN · 18/05/2025 07:54

the Swedish study is likely out of date now though.

Given the rate of sissy porn use now, trans women stating publicly that sissy porn made me trans, WPATH advisors running a fetish website with stories about horrifically linked things, and 30% containing child abuse fantasies there will be higher rates of offending amongst this group of males

I was about to say that if the same study was done now that I think people might be surprised at the findings.

Helleofabore · 18/05/2025 07:56

TroubledWatersTW · 18/05/2025 07:48

Right exactly, so that statistic doesn't imply your statement then.

The Swedish study selected a group of trans women, and non-trans male and female controls, and THEN tracked their criminality. Thus it's a fair comparison and the TWs end up being typically male.

If instead you select prisoners and quantify whether or not they're trans, you're potentially measuring the opposite effect: i.e. the likelihood that being arrested triggers someone to transition. I personally believe that trigger rate is quite high, but a proper study would need to be done to confirm.

Statistics are a pain!

No statistics are not a pain.

What the prison stats show very clearly is that male criminality patterns continue. Because the statistics of prisoners show that male people with transgender identities in no way have anything close to the rate of sex offences that female people have. And for strong safeguarding principles, that is the risk that should be considered.

Are male people with a transgender identity committing similar crimes and at the same rate or lower than female people to be treated as if they were female people in strong safeguarding measures? If not, then they should not be treated as exempt from the same principles applied to all other male people.

WarriorN · 18/05/2025 07:54

the Swedish study is likely out of date now though.

Given the rate of sissy porn use now, trans women stating publicly that sissy porn made me trans, WPATH advisors running a fetish website with stories about horrifically linked things, and 30% containing child abuse fantasies there will be higher rates of offending amongst this group of males

TroubledWatersTW · 18/05/2025 07:48

Right exactly, so that statistic doesn't imply your statement then.

The Swedish study selected a group of trans women, and non-trans male and female controls, and THEN tracked their criminality. Thus it's a fair comparison and the TWs end up being typically male.

If instead you select prisoners and quantify whether or not they're trans, you're potentially measuring the opposite effect: i.e. the likelihood that being arrested triggers someone to transition. I personally believe that trigger rate is quite high, but a proper study would need to be done to confirm.

Statistics are a pain!

WarriorN · 18/05/2025 07:46

This is the problem the TRAs have created for themselves; is it a true stat or is it rapid onset prison dysphoria

Helleofabore · 18/05/2025 07:45

TroubledWatersTW · 18/05/2025 07:33

@JamieCannister
The answer is that men are 20 times more sexually abusive than women and men who identify as trans are 4 or 5 times more sexually abusie than other men.
Sorry to ask, but what is the receipt for the stat about trans women being more sexually abusive than men. The Swedish study said the rate of offence was the same as the male controls. The stat I've seen that you could be referring to is the fact that a higher percentage of the trans woman prison population are incarcerated for sexual abuse than male controls, but this is not the same stat, and doesn't necessarily imply the statement you made. Especially given the shockingly common phenomena of male prisoners transition after being arrested for a sex crime.

I'm happy to believe good studies; the Swedish study is convincing about the rate of offence being the same as male controls, but we should be careful about over-interpreting statistics.

I believe it comes from current UK conviction rates and prisoner rates and their crimes and past crime history. I have links but I don’t want to add the information here as it could be seen as a derail as per previous discussion.

But there are ministry of justice figures released to the public from FOI requests that break the numbers down.

you can start with my post on this link 11/5:2025 at 22.03

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5332931-why-dont-trans-women-care-if-women-feel-unsafe?reply=144215189&utm_campaign=reply&utm_medium=share

WarriorN · 18/05/2025 07:45

I think it’s base on prison data

TroubledWatersTW · 18/05/2025 07:33

@JamieCannister
The answer is that men are 20 times more sexually abusive than women and men who identify as trans are 4 or 5 times more sexually abusie than other men.
Sorry to ask, but what is the receipt for the stat about trans women being more sexually abusive than men. The Swedish study said the rate of offence was the same as the male controls. The stat I've seen that you could be referring to is the fact that a higher percentage of the trans woman prison population are incarcerated for sexual abuse than male controls, but this is not the same stat, and doesn't necessarily imply the statement you made. Especially given the shockingly common phenomena of male prisoners transition after being arrested for a sex crime.

I'm happy to believe good studies; the Swedish study is convincing about the rate of offence being the same as male controls, but we should be careful about over-interpreting statistics.