I have to say, vanishing, I don't think many people would read your posts, and not immediately understand why you don't identify as being a man.
From being 'treated as a girl' because of the long hair as a child (which presumably felt more much more pleasant than being 'treated as a boy') to being a somewhat feminine same sex attracted teenager who couldn't identify with the lad culture at school and being picked on because of it.
Not to mention the violent and chaotic childhood with no boundaries.
And then going on the Internet and soaking up everything that could account for it.
On the basis of that, it sounds fairly logical.
For many feminists, me included, it's not so much that identifying as the opposite that isn't frequently understandable, it's that it's not just papering over the cracks, it's actively shoring up the issues that they are opposed to in the first place.
Things like treating girls and boys entirely differently, and the sexism behind it, rampant homophobia, for both sexes, again due to sexism, etc.
it's no coincidence at the term TERF contains the words radical feminist. Feminists were the first people to notice what was going on, because they can sniff out sexism from space.
And, of course, the final nail in the coffin is that not only is the entire concept due to sexism, the solution is to leverage sexism to provide the answer!
Using the very concept of womanhood and their spaces as the therapy required for 'authenticity'.
You can see why it grates...
However, this sort of thread is very useful. Your agenda does not appear to be, first and foremost, to get women to do what you want. And the fact you don't use women spaces will definitely win you some support.
But you can see, I'm sure, why the entire concept of transgenderism is something that a lot of women disagree with, irrespective of how pleasant the person is who demonstrates it.
For what it's worth, I agree with the previous poster who said ongoing therapy is probably a very good idea.