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TW who supports the SC ruling - AMA

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VanishingVision · 16/05/2025 22:55

Hello! I was thinking of doing this post for a little while now as the previous posts doing this by the rather wonderful trans men here were really interesting but I didnt want to take up too much space here or take any attention away from much more important things here than what I have to say.

But I figured to just go for it before I have a big old break from the Internet for a while.

So like the title says, I'm a transwoman who accepts the SC ruling: ask me anything if you'd like to and I'll do my best to answer.

OP posts:
VanishingVision · 17/05/2025 17:35

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:35

I figured, but I did think the response was too good not to pass up

Tbf it made me laugh.

OP posts:
ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:35

Bannedontherun · 17/05/2025 17:34

Yes that was badly worded lol

I figured, but I did think the response was too good not to pass up

Bannedontherun · 17/05/2025 17:34

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:32

I'd rather not be imprisoned just because of my biology if its all the same to you.

Yes that was badly worded lol

Seethlaw · 17/05/2025 17:33

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:30

Square the circle for me. In what way are you giving us care and respect by incorrectly deciding for us what our gender is?

They can't decide something they don't even believe exists...

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:32

Bannedontherun · 17/05/2025 17:30

People should be imprisoned by virtue of their biology.

I'd rather not be imprisoned just because of my biology if its all the same to you.

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:31

Seethlaw · 17/05/2025 17:27

Sex is binary, not a bimodal distribution.

Proof is: show me someone who isn't male or female. For the record and for example: XXY is male.

This would be the biology textbook part of the education. So explain to me how, DSD is at all possible if sex is binary and not bimodal?

Bannedontherun · 17/05/2025 17:30

People should be imprisoned by virtue of their biology.

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:30

Bannedontherun · 17/05/2025 17:24

I think you answered your own question there. 😂

OP is a man and so are you, and i do not do pronouns, just as i do not say may the lord be with you or recite the Lord’s Prayer, i do not believe in transgenderism. Or God.

Having said that you are a human being as is OP and i will gave care and respect for the way you and others choose to live your lives.

As long as you give me the same courtesy.

Square the circle for me. In what way are you giving us care and respect by incorrectly deciding for us what our gender is?

Bannedontherun · 17/05/2025 17:29

@busybusybusy2015 yes in the sense they facilitate a crime,

Many of these women were in fact victims of rape gangs, themselves and turned on other women to protect themselves.

Seethlaw · 17/05/2025 17:27

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:23

Im imploring you to pick up a biology textbook that goes past year 5, and maybe then a stats text book that can teach you what a bimodal distribution of data is.

Sex is binary, not a bimodal distribution.

Proof is: show me someone who isn't male or female. For the record and for example: XXY is male.

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:27

MelodyMalone · 17/05/2025 17:20

No, because she'd be at risk from men. Biological men in a woman's prison aren't going to be at risk from women in the same way.

There are also far, far, far fewer women than men who commit sexual offences so it's not a major issue.

Right but as you are all so quick to point out, it doesn't matter how few trans people there are relative to the rest of society (far, far, far fewer if you would), all trans women must be removed on the grounds that one could be a predator. I am not at all clear on when this logic doesn't equally, if not more because we know that they've got a history of it, to women inmates that have committed SA?

busybusybusy2015 · 17/05/2025 17:24

Sorry, but the preceding posts about rape and the law are slightly off the mark. There are women in prison in the UK for rape. A woman who assists a man to rape is charged with rape. It's horrific to get one's head round, but here's an example. Only men can commit the act; anyone helping is also guilty of the offence. Like murder, I think? Any lawyers on here to clarify?https://www.theguardian.com/uk/2001/mar/17/sarahhall

Woman found guilty of towpath rape

Teenager punched victim and held her down in gang attack

https://www.theguardian.com/uk/2001/mar/17/sarahhall

Bannedontherun · 17/05/2025 17:24

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:12

Right ok so semantics aside. Do you think a woman who sexually assaulted other women should be imprisoned in a men's prison by virtue of posing a threat to other inmates?

I think you answered your own question there. 😂

OP is a man and so are you, and i do not do pronouns, just as i do not say may the lord be with you or recite the Lord’s Prayer, i do not believe in transgenderism. Or God.

Having said that you are a human being as is OP and i will gave care and respect for the way you and others choose to live your lives.

As long as you give me the same courtesy.

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:23

Seethlaw · 17/05/2025 17:19

@ChirpyFinch

"Like they are affected by a system that says that there are two sexes only and you are legally treated as the one you were born as."

Just wanted to point that it's biology which says that there are two sexes only. "The system" only bothers about that binary because one of those sexes (men) systematically oppresses the other (women), and so women need special protections against men.

Im imploring you to pick up a biology textbook that goes past year 5, and maybe then a stats text book that can teach you what a bimodal distribution of data is.

VanishingVision · 17/05/2025 17:21

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:09

So I'd like to ask a very simple question. Is @VanishingVision a woman and what pronouns should we use for her?

Edited

I've said multiple times on this thread, I consider myself a trans woman and that its different to being a woman, an adult natal female. I'd obviously prefer she/her that makes sense to me but I really don't care if people call me he/him, it's not going to ruin my day.
IRL I don't get misgendered when im going about my life, but this is a GC space and likely people will use pronouns according to their sex and think of me as male, a man. If I was sensitive to that then I wouldn't be here.

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MelodyMalone · 17/05/2025 17:20

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:12

Right ok so semantics aside. Do you think a woman who sexually assaulted other women should be imprisoned in a men's prison by virtue of posing a threat to other inmates?

No, because she'd be at risk from men. Biological men in a woman's prison aren't going to be at risk from women in the same way.

There are also far, far, far fewer women than men who commit sexual offences so it's not a major issue.

Seethlaw · 17/05/2025 17:19

@ChirpyFinch

"Like they are affected by a system that says that there are two sexes only and you are legally treated as the one you were born as."

Just wanted to point that it's biology which says that there are two sexes only. "The system" only bothers about that binary because one of those sexes (men) systematically oppresses the other (women), and so women need special protections against men.

VanishingVision · 17/05/2025 17:14

Bannedontherun · 17/05/2025 16:57

@VanishingVision I was for many years a professional in sexual and domestic abuse working mostly with women and girls.

With my counselling hat on, (not a therapist) i would say from your descriptions of your experiences, that, rejecting your physical form, and transitioning was a form of disassociation, from the violence, abuse and emotional neglect that you have experienced.

That you were able to reflect on and find peace in your new self “actualisation” is interesting to me.

You are only young yet and i picked up that you found nothing to associate your dysphoria with your experiences.

But as most victims of violence can attest to you will have ongoing needs for support as life unfolds for you, and other memories are visited upon you.

Our brains are amazing things and can protect us from memories that can cause us to be unable to function.

Please make sure you look after your mental health and yourself, and that you get support when needed. Dipping in and out of therapy as you go along so to speak is a good thing.

Myself and my therapists concluded it was unrelated to my dysphoria as the dysphoria began before I was sexually assaulted the first time. I did go through some mental abuse as a child though but we still concluded it was unrelated to dysphoria. But I absolutely respect what you've said here.

Don't worry, I absolutely do persue some therapy still 😊

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ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:12

MelodyMalone · 17/05/2025 17:04

Rape requires a penis. Women (the biological kind) can sexually assault but they can't rape.

Right ok so semantics aside. Do you think a woman who sexually assaulted other women should be imprisoned in a men's prison by virtue of posing a threat to other inmates?

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:09

Bannedontherun · 17/05/2025 17:02

@VanishingVision ha ha How about sex realist, I like Debbie Hayton, many here do not trust him, which is fair enough. If you e mail him he will respond to you.

I would love to see transexuals like you start to network and find your own tribe.

So I'd like to ask a very simple question. Is @VanishingVision a woman and what pronouns should we use for her?

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:07

VanishingVision · 17/05/2025 16:51

It's an open forum, people are allowed to comment and join in.

And I said that because I consider myself to be in the middle. I care very deeply about the women in my life, I care very deeply about the trans peope in my life and yes I care about myself. I also care about the safety of women and children in general and I care about about trans people in general too, despite what you may think. I feel in the middle because I want to get to a place of safety for everyone that can and HAS been affected by the trans rights debate.

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Right, but I am struggling to understand how you think safety is achieved when trans women are sent to the wrong bathroom and trans men are told they can't go to any bathroom. I just find the argument that it is somehow safer completely baffling. As with your own experience, my trans identity didn't prevent my SA. It wasn't like the guy went "oh you've got a dick so you're a man. Sorry to have made that mistake buddy!". I also find it completely absurd to claim that this also makes cis women safer as if there's this invisible forcefield that prevents predatory men from just going wherever they want. I mean, there's literally an open thread on this forum of a man doing exactly that just because he was desperate.

Bannedontherun · 17/05/2025 17:04

@ChirpyFinch the act of rape requires a penis. There is no biological woman in this country who has been convicted of rape. And a vanishingly small amount of women who have been convicted of sexual offences.

MelodyMalone · 17/05/2025 17:04

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:00

So we should free all the women rapists in prison for being wrongly imprisoned then?

I'll be honest, that sounds way more insane to me than we should send women to women's prisons and men to men's prisons regardless of if they are trans or cis.

Rape requires a penis. Women (the biological kind) can sexually assault but they can't rape.

Bannedontherun · 17/05/2025 17:02

@VanishingVision ha ha How about sex realist, I like Debbie Hayton, many here do not trust him, which is fair enough. If you e mail him he will respond to you.

I would love to see transexuals like you start to network and find your own tribe.

ChirpyFinch · 17/05/2025 17:00

tripleginandtonic · 17/05/2025 16:43

A woman cannot commit rape. Hth.

So we should free all the women rapists in prison for being wrongly imprisoned then?

I'll be honest, that sounds way more insane to me than we should send women to women's prisons and men to men's prisons regardless of if they are trans or cis.