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Man pushed ahead of woman to use female toilet

117 replies

BlossomIsSoPretty · 12/05/2025 20:31

This didn't directly affect me as I have use disabled toilets, but I was out earlier and there was one male, one female, and one disabled toilet. There were 3 men and 1 woman waiting. One of the men was about to go into the disabled toilet when he saw me. I have no choice but to use disabled (wheelchair user). The female toilet became vacant and the man walked towards the door. The woman waiting was quite young and looked surprised but didn't say anything. I'm far from young and used to speaking up for myself, so I pointed out that it was a toilet for females and unless I was mistaken he wasn't female. He said no but I'm desperate and went in anyway.

So not only do women have to put up with men pretending to be women, we now have a man who decided he was going to use the women's toilet anyway!

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Pebbles16 · 12/05/2025 21:23

TBF, I have used the men's toilets.
I have an invisible disability so if all other routes are closed to me, I just say "sorry" very loudly and head for the nearest available space. The alternative would be pretty unpleasant for all around me. No one has batted an eyelid.
The only resistance I have ever experienced is using the disabled toilet and being berated by women for "jumping the queue".

Dutchesss · 12/05/2025 21:19

He should have asked. Were the toilets self contained and had he been waiting longer than the woman?

SerafinasGoose · 12/05/2025 21:19

smellyhouseelf · 12/05/2025 20:38

He was desperate. Would you prefer he pissed himself?

Yes.

Well, you asked …

MmeChoufleur · 12/05/2025 21:18

lnks · 12/05/2025 21:05

You’re not wrong at all OP. The whole trans thing appears to have given twatty men permission to treat women poorly

It’s also made women absolutely bloody obsessed with public toilets. I’ve used the men’s toilets when there’s been an enormous queue for the ladies and I was absolutely bursting. I’m not sure why individual toilets are for any specific gender, they can only be used by a single person at any one time.

JellySaurus · 12/05/2025 21:16

I cannot believe the apologists for this entitled man!

When I've been desperate, or with a small child of uncertain bladder, I haven't pushed ahead of others. I've asked if I could please go ahead of them.

Did this man have no manners? Or did he perhaps not feel any need for manners, or for consideration of other toilet users? And why did he push ahead of the woman waiting, and not the other men?

AgnesX · 12/05/2025 21:14

smellyhouseelf · 12/05/2025 20:38

He was desperate. Would you prefer he pissed himself?

Funny how women manage to hold it in so much better than men despite "being desperate".

That man was an entitled twat.

EnjoythemoneyJane · 12/05/2025 21:14

smellyhouseelf · 12/05/2025 20:38

He was desperate. Would you prefer he pissed himself?

How did he know the woman waiting wasn’t desperate? He didn’t ask her and didn’t care, just unilaterally decided his needs came before everyone else’s and gave zero fucks about how she felt one way or the other. This attitude is unfortunately prevalent amongst men, even when they’re sporting kitten heels and lipstick.

MixedBananas · 12/05/2025 21:11

Well done for speaking up. And what an idiot. Desperation or not he is a grown ask adult he should have gotten to a toilet sooner he isn't a toddler or child! Your body gives you signs well before your bursting.

Velmy · 12/05/2025 21:11

BlossomIsSoPretty · 12/05/2025 20:56

So it's ok for a man to enter a woman's space because he's desperate? So if all the men's toilet in cubicles were full, it's ok for a man to enter the ladies toilets because he's desperate? And to push ahead of women waiting?

Would you rather he pissed all over the floor in front of you?

Screamingabdabz · 12/05/2025 21:08

lnks · 12/05/2025 21:05

You’re not wrong at all OP. The whole trans thing appears to have given twatty men permission to treat women poorly

Agreed. This is the problem now. Give them an inch and they take a mile.

lnks · 12/05/2025 21:05

You’re not wrong at all OP. The whole trans thing appears to have given twatty men permission to treat women poorly

LadyKenya · 12/05/2025 21:03

He could have had a medical condition, and having to wait for either the disabled toilet to be free, or the male toilet, may have been too much for him. You were entering the disabled toilet, at the same time, it would seem.

Gloschick · 12/05/2025 21:03

I don't have a problem with this if they were individual self contained loos (rather than a women's bathroom). Women sometimes use men's loos when they are desperate. If it saves someone wetting / soiling themselves, it is worth cutting them a bit of slack, regardless of their sex.

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BlossomIsSoPretty · 12/05/2025 20:56

So it's ok for a man to enter a woman's space because he's desperate? So if all the men's toilet in cubicles were full, it's ok for a man to enter the ladies toilets because he's desperate? And to push ahead of women waiting?

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SpaceOfAides · 12/05/2025 20:43

'We' now have a man? You're taking a single isolated incident somewhere to extrapolate to all women? Are you always this dramatic?

drspouse · 12/05/2025 20:41

If he had a medical need he could have said "I have a medical condition" and used the disabled.
If he'd just had a lot to drink he could have waited.

smellyhouseelf · 12/05/2025 20:38

He was desperate. Would you prefer he pissed himself?