Man pushed ahead of woman to use female toilet

Well, we don't really need all that many.

Oh the DRAMA!! 😂

• Woman: expresses a need for single sex facility and annoyance that this is being stomped all over by an entitled, self-centred dickhead.

• Men (and handmaidens): OH MY GOD MEN WILL JUST DIE THEN SHALL THEY? MAYBE WE SHOULD JUST KILL OURSELVES AND SO YOU CAN STOP MOANING. THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT, ISN'T IT? WILL IT MAKE YOU HAPPY ONCE WE'RE ALL SLAUGHTERED?

😂

You came across one man being selfish. Nothing to do with trans people or men in general.

Wow what a long back and forth over some silly incident. Maybe he was being an entitled dickhead, maybe he's got Crohns, or maybe just bad diarrhoea. Who knows? Who cares?

Someone, somewhere pushed ahead in the toilet queue and it's suddenly a major feminist issue. A rising of The Patriarchy we must all band together and smash. 🙄

Yes. He wouldn’t have pissed himself, he would have just had to wait. Why is he more important than the young woman? She may have been pregnant? On her period? Or just needed a wee as much as him. And it was a facility for her that became free, and he decreed himself more important and took it from her.

So yeah. I’d rather the arrogant prick pissed himself.

Exactly. Men have larger bladder capacity than women, too!

I noticed that my inlaws would expect their granddaughter to hold it in all the way from the playground by their house until she got to their bathroom, but when it came to my son, they thought letting him urinate behind a tree in the playground was appropriate!

I put a stop to that. He could perfectly well make it to their house and did.

I never understand this. How does he know the woman wasn't "desperate"?
I remember being on a nature ramble or whatever they called it at school and when we finally arrived at some toilets (unisex ones), the boys pushed in first, several going in together to no doubt wet the seat.
Point is, what men - and particularly boys - don't understand is that we NEED toilets, they don't.
No I'm not suggesting that all men just unzip and aim wherever they are, but they CAN do so if necessary. We can't - not without a lot more fuss and difficulty anyway.
Sorry - very long winded way of saying I agree with the op.

It's a grown man. He can manage his own bladder.

Note he has a bigger bladder than the woman.

And how does he know the woman isn't just as desperate?

He could have been polite, communicated and asked if others didn't mind. Generally people would say fine.

He was rude.

It doesn't matter how desperate he was. A dodgy bladder does not affect your vocal chords.

I suffer with both stress and urge incontinence. It's entirely likely if he'd pushed in front of my I'd have pissed myself. I have every sympathy for anyone who suffers with incontinence, but he should have asked. Not pushed in.

In which case he could have used the disabled.

he chose to use the women’s instead.

And did this odious man know that the woman he pushed in front of wasn't similarly afflicted?

Yes

But it’s a man. I think some women won’t give it a rest until men are no longer allowed to empty their bladder at all, and they’re all dead from kidney failure.

You do t know that he needed a piss you don’t know that he doesn’t have ulcerative colitis or Crohn’s disease and was just about to shit himself. You don’t know that he doesn’t have an invisible disability.

Then he has a disability and would be perfectly entitled to use the disabled loo. Which he didn't, as OP obviously has a real disability not a "made up to excuse a man" one for this thread

So rather than show himself to be a twat in front of someone with a disability, he preferred to push in front of a woman being, you know, A MAN WITH REAL NEEDS

Honestly, when they are separate cubicles I consider them all fair game. I mean what’s the difference. He’s not invading a women’s space, he’s using a bathroom by himself. If me or my children were waiting in a line I would just use the next available one. It’s frankly daft.

yes - if he is so immature that he can't foresee his toiletry needs and hold himself until it is his turn, then YES.

Which of course he wouldn't.

Stop making excuses for men fgs

Also, I note he demurred from using the disabled loo, but considered the women's fair game.

Why? He's not supposed to be in either.

He’s a grown man, he should have learnt to control his bladder by now.

Exactly. The reasonable thing to do would have been to ask.

And not piss all over the seat.

Yup. Go on. Throw women under the bus (out of the loos) for the poor dears.

What will it take for the female need for her own space to trump the poor unfortunate male soul who always seems to have some important reason for having complete ignorance of any female wants or needs?

Im a woman and i cant hold my wee if i have to go i have to go.

Funny how this doesn’t happen in venues where the men’s loos also have urinals and can accommodate half a dozen at a time, but there’s a slow-moving 10-deep queue of women waiting to use one or two cubicles.

You’d think we’d all be barging into the men’s or pissing like horses all over the show. But I guess that would require a complete lack of self-control and an overweening sense of entitlement, wouldn’t it?

Errr... try living with a condition where the "signs" are instantaneous and there is no magic planning that can be deployed.
I find it hard to believe that the average man would choose to use the ladies any more than I "choose" to use the men's.
I am a gender critical woman and do not tolerate fetish, but I have compassion for those with incontinence needs (because I have them myself).

I was having this conversation with dd recently. She’s noticed men often appear less able to recognise or hold it- little things like dh will suddenly he announce he needs a wee on the motorway and we have to stop next services.

I’ve known men pull over to the side of the road too. In fact last night saw a little boy at the side of a car having a pee roadside.

Whereas the girls will be like when are we stopping, and will be able to hold it until a convenient.

my theory is people are much more tolerant, and obviously it’s easier for men to pee whenever and wherever. So they never really learn how to recognise early on when they might need, and how to hold it for longer than it takes their brain to get the full bladder message.

so men it’s need wee, stop and wee. Women are need wee, need to find somewhere a) private, b) convenient to squat, c) preferably with toilet paper, and d) with clean enough floor to drop trousers.