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An update to the WI Announcement thread. My DH just got a reply to his application to join them.

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Another2Cats · 12/05/2025 19:49

This is not a thread about a thread, but recently there was a thread about the Womens Institute announcement that they would not be implementing the SC ruling anytime soon.

I was reading the thread at the time and, entirely jokingly, I suggested to my DH that he should apply to join the WI and see what they say.

So he did just that (he totally gets the GC point of view) and I posted about this at the time:

Another2Cats · 08/05/2025 19:45

I just got my DH to send an email to them:

Hello,

My name is Xxxx (very obviously masculine name). I just read your transgender policy and understand that you accept men.

I am a man and would like to join the local WI group in [xxxx city] (the nearest branch for me is in yyyy [suburb of xxxx city]).

Should I just turn up next Wednesday evening and sign up?

I'm really waiting with bated breath to see what sort of response there is.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5330297-womens-institute-announcement?reply=144143149
.

Well, it turns out that they sent a response this lunchtime.

This is their reply (although with contact details redacted):

Good morning,

Thank you for your enquiry. Our policy states that “WI membership is open to all women who live as women, including transgender women.” If you fit within this statement, you will be more than welcome to attend. I am afraid the WI is not open to men.

Kind regards,

[Redacted]

[Name Redacted]
Federation Secretary
[Two cities - well, a city and a town - redacted] Federation of WIs CIO
[Address redacted]
[Telephone number redacted]
Office hours: Tues, Weds, Thurs 9am – 1pm

Please note the new email address – [Redacted]
.

I don't know, is this something that DH should take up with the EHRC now that he has it in writing?

Women’s institute announcement | Mumsnet

Published earlier today.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5330297-womens-institute-announcement

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ifIwerenotanandroid · 29/06/2025 17:28

Posting simply to disable the 'scroll straight to the end of the page' bug.

As you were.

POWNewcastleEastWallsend · 29/06/2025 17:22

Another2Cats · 29/06/2025 16:47

There was a name of a partner on that email (along with his direct dial number).

If you really don't believe what my DH is going through, then call him on that number and ask about the telephone conversation he had with my DH when he called at 2.45pm on Friday.

[EDIT]

Sorry, I've just changed the image to hidden and I will need to resend you the link. Please let me know if it is ok to send you a PM with the link.

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Why do you care so much about what a random person on the internet thinks, particularly when they have been intent on undermining you?

I am gobsmacked that you would share the name of the solicitor and his direct phone number in a PM, suggesting to a stranger on the internet, who is inimical to you and your DH, that they should contact the WI's solicitor to discuss his conversation with your DH.

It is not beyond the bounds of possibility that this information might be used to harass the WI's solicitor, by people who are not on your side but who claim to be when making contact.

All of your posts on this matter have been so measured and rational that this tack seems completely out of character.

EDIT for grammar.

NoWordForFluffy · 29/06/2025 17:22

Another2Cats · 29/06/2025 17:04

"Was it a without prejudice conversation?"

Yes

"I'm interested in a 6 week defence extension. 28 days is the usual request"

They did ask for 28 days initially. But then during the conversation, they offered to provide further information around the disadvantages faced by TIM and how the WI can help overcome that.

DH said that if there were such strong evidence then that may sway his mind on what he does with the case. So they asked for an extra 21 days to get that together, DH agreed to an extra 14 days.

They'll have to sign a consent order then, as they can't agree 6 weeks between them.

I think they're just trying to extend the time for no good reason, personally.

Glamourreader · 29/06/2025 17:11

Trans identifying males would be perfectly welcome to join the Mothers' Union which is a similar organisation to the WI but unisex.

Another2Cats · 29/06/2025 17:04

NoWordForFluffy · 29/06/2025 16:56

Stop bending over backwards to appease that poster. It's not worth it (and certainly doesn't matter if somebody is disbelieving).

I do imagine the solicitor DH spoke to was trying to catch him out. Was it a without prejudice conversation?

I'm interested in a 6 week defence extension. 28 days is the usual request (else you need a consent order).

"Was it a without prejudice conversation?"

Yes

"I'm interested in a 6 week defence extension. 28 days is the usual request"

They did ask for 28 days initially. But then during the conversation, they offered to provide further information around the disadvantages faced by TIM and how the WI can help overcome that.

DH said that if there were such strong evidence then that may sway his mind on what he does with the case. So they asked for an extra 21 days to get that together, DH agreed to an extra 14 days.

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PepeParapluie · 29/06/2025 16:59

NoWordForFluffy · 29/06/2025 16:56

Stop bending over backwards to appease that poster. It's not worth it (and certainly doesn't matter if somebody is disbelieving).

I do imagine the solicitor DH spoke to was trying to catch him out. Was it a without prejudice conversation?

I'm interested in a 6 week defence extension. 28 days is the usual request (else you need a consent order).

I also thought 6 weeks was eyebrow raising, particularly when it’s not a case with a large volume of facts to address, nor one requiring obvious expert input / reports at this stage in order to plead, and given they’ve already outlined in the phone call the legal route they’re looking at for the defence. 🤔

NoWordForFluffy · 29/06/2025 16:56

Another2Cats · 29/06/2025 16:47

There was a name of a partner on that email (along with his direct dial number).

If you really don't believe what my DH is going through, then call him on that number and ask about the telephone conversation he had with my DH when he called at 2.45pm on Friday.

[EDIT]

Sorry, I've just changed the image to hidden and I will need to resend you the link. Please let me know if it is ok to send you a PM with the link.

Edited

Stop bending over backwards to appease that poster. It's not worth it (and certainly doesn't matter if somebody is disbelieving).

I do imagine the solicitor DH spoke to was trying to catch him out. Was it a without prejudice conversation?

I'm interested in a 6 week defence extension. 28 days is the usual request (else you need a consent order).

BundleBoogie · 29/06/2025 16:54

UnityMofT · 29/06/2025 14:29

Without wishing to sound critical of anyone here, this is all beginning to get needlessly convoluted.

The position that the WI is in is actually relatively straightforward.

As a matter of law, specifically the Charities Acts, it defines its primary charitable purpose as being that that the education of WOMEN.

The governing documents of the WI, its regional federatations and its member associations, explicitly define a Women's Institute as an 'association of WOMEN'.

The model constitution that the WI supplies to its member associations restricts membership to "WOMEN who have reached the Age of Majority."

The only legal question that arises from the UKSC ruling in FWS v Scottish Ministers is whether the definition of 'sex' - and by extension 'women' - within the Equality Act, as clarified by the court, should automatically be read across into the WI's governing documents, which has to be the case if the WI has operated, and wishes to continue to operate lawfully under the Charities exception in s193 of the Equality Act 2010.

The immediate effect of this is that males cannot and never have been eligible for membership of the WI, regardless of how they identify, rendering any such memberships automatically null and void.

The positive action clause in s158 is completely irrelevant here - if the WI wishes to admit TiMs as members then it has to amend its governing documents accordingly.

There is no need here to get into the weeds of discrimination claims and the like, the WI's governing documents are clear in terms of the objects and membership criteria and any WI branch or federation operating outside of its governing document should be referred to the Charity Commission for investigation.

For the record, I worked for a Council for Voluntary Services for several years and specialised in charity formation and governance, so dealt with the Charity Commission and charity law on a regular basis.

I’m sure you are absolutely correct in all of this and agree with what you say but the issue is that the WI knows all this and is still refusing to update their policies.

Afaik this has also been reported to the Charities Commission and any other relevant body but none of them are prepared to act and take any action to force the WI to stick to its charitable aims and behave lawfully.

Hence OPs and DH foray into the weeds - it seems to be the only remaining solution.

Catiette · 29/06/2025 16:52

WhatNextCatsAsDoctors · 29/06/2025 16:04

From what I’ve read (and I could have missed some detail) the OP has said some things which have been interpreted on here as ‘weak arguments’ from the lawyers. Could that not just be OP’s lack of knowledge on the statements a top-tier lawyer would genuinely put forward? And for the case OP is making, it isn’t hard to copy what others on here have said. None of the exchanges read as real to me at all.

I have also watched enough episodes of catfish to know that yes, bored people absolutely do engage in months-long cons. Scenarios like this on anonymous forums are more likely fake than real, and that’s just basic internet experience and literacy.

Can I also just say, the idea that a partner at a top-tier law firm would disclose to a random member of the public that other charities are under pressure or being challenged legally is just not credible. That would be wildly unprofessional and potentially a breach of confidentiality. No serious solicitor would speak that loosely, especially to someone they’re not formally representing.

Para. 1 - I honestly don't know enough about the law to comment, besides saying that, having followed a few Employment Tribunals and the SC fairly closely now, I'm somewhat less inclined to trust in the common sense and competence of legal professionals by default; more to the point (again applying the sharp edge of Occam's Razor), my understanding is that these professionals are appointed to represent an argument as well as they can in the circumstances. In a world in which courts are debating the existence of a sex binary and women as a legal class, I can well believe PP's interpretations above as to why they may be (appear to be) presenting (what we see as) poor arguments here.

Para. 2 - certainly this happens; I just suggest Occam's Razor may be applicable here as regards the likelihood of this happening versus the alternative - I think this is what you would call "internet literacy".

Para. 3 - see para. 1 as my main response; however, my layperson's instinct is that something like this (I'm sure the words used in the call would have been exceptionally carefully chosen) likely could be expressed sufficiently vaguely with some confidence? interested in the views of legal bods (maybe already given above - haven't read posts filling the gap yet).

KnottyAuty · 29/06/2025 16:49

WhatNextCatsAsDoctors · 29/06/2025 16:32

I’m not accusing anyone of trolling. I’ve just said I find the story implausible based on the context and what we know. That’s different from calling them a troll, which I know breaks the rules. I’m just engaging with what’s been posted, like everyone else.

Thanks for your posts. Message received and understood. No need to de-rail the discussion with further similar points.

[That concludes this service announcement thank you]

borntobequiet · 29/06/2025 16:49

We could always focus on the actual made-up nonsense behind all this - the idea that a man can become a woman, call himself something tasteful and feminine and join the WI. And that the WI is prepared to defend this (literal) bollocks.

Another2Cats · 29/06/2025 16:47

WhatNextCatsAsDoctors · 29/06/2025 16:42

If I answer that, then you’ll accuse me of more troll hunting.

There was a name of a partner on that email (along with his direct dial number).

If you really don't believe what my DH is going through, then call him on that number and ask about the telephone conversation he had with my DH when he called at 2.45pm on Friday.

[EDIT]

Sorry, I've just changed the image to hidden and I will need to resend you the link. Please let me know if it is ok to send you a PM with the link.

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MyAmpleSheep · 29/06/2025 16:47

Back on track- I agree with the point about this (also) being an issue under charity law. But presumably that’s a matter for the Charity Commission to pursue and not something a member of the public can enforce. It seems unlikely they would be interested, so if there’s no enforcement it doesn’t really matter if it’s unlawful. And from the OP’s perspective, it doesn’t get achieve the goal of getting her husband a membership to do his activity.

WhatNextCatsAsDoctors · 29/06/2025 16:42

OldCrone · 29/06/2025 16:34

If you think it's false, report the thread to MNHQ. What you're doing is troll hunting which is banned.

You haven't explained why you think it's more likely that the OP has spent all this time making stuff up, including creating a made-up letter from lawyers especially to send to you, than that this is genuine. Why would anyone do that? What's in it for them?

If I answer that, then you’ll accuse me of more troll hunting.

OldCrone · 29/06/2025 16:34

WhatNextCatsAsDoctors · 29/06/2025 16:30

I’m not at all. I never asked for any information from the OP, and I don’t want any more direct messages! It freaked me out a bit to be honest. I know why they did it because I was saying the story sounds implausible, but I didn’t ask for it.

I won’t be doing anything with the photo either but OP you can delete the photo of the site just to be sure.

You all seem to think I have bad intentions, I’m just pointing out that I think a story being told on here is false.

If you think it's false, report the thread to MNHQ. What you're doing is troll hunting which is banned.

You haven't explained why you think it's more likely that the OP has spent all this time making stuff up, including creating a made-up letter from lawyers especially to send to you, than that this is genuine. Why would anyone do that? What's in it for them?

WhatNextCatsAsDoctors · 29/06/2025 16:32

I’m not accusing anyone of trolling. I’ve just said I find the story implausible based on the context and what we know. That’s different from calling them a troll, which I know breaks the rules. I’m just engaging with what’s been posted, like everyone else.

WhatNextCatsAsDoctors · 29/06/2025 16:30

OldCrone · 29/06/2025 16:26

@Another2Cats This poster is clearly trying to goad you into sending them confidential information (which will probably turn up on Reddit or somewhere). It would be wise not to send them anything that you are not prepared to post on here, because once they have it you have no control over what happens to it. You can't stop a third party from posting something on the internet once you've sent it to them.

I’m not at all. I never asked for any information from the OP, and I don’t want any more direct messages! It freaked me out a bit to be honest. I know why they did it because I was saying the story sounds implausible, but I didn’t ask for it.

I won’t be doing anything with the photo either but OP you can delete the photo of the site just to be sure.

You all seem to think I have bad intentions, I’m just pointing out that I think a story being told on here is false.

NoWordForFluffy · 29/06/2025 16:29

WhatNextCatsAsDoctors · 29/06/2025 16:26

I’m expressing doubts about the plausibility of a story. That’s all.

Which is troll hunting and against guidelines. Just report if you think it's not real.

potpourree · 29/06/2025 16:29

Anyway lets not get into a derail
about "what MN is like". I'm appreciating the legal perspectives, from everyone.

OldCrone · 29/06/2025 16:28

WhatNextCatsAsDoctors · 29/06/2025 16:26

I’m expressing doubts about the plausibility of a story. That’s all.

In other words you're claiming the OP is a troll.

potpourree · 29/06/2025 16:28

WhatNextCatsAsDoctors · 29/06/2025 16:26

I’m expressing doubts about the plausibility of a story. That’s all.

Yes - that's exactly the thing I'm talking about!? Are you not familiar with the Talk guidelines?

WhatNextCatsAsDoctors · 29/06/2025 16:26

potpourree · 29/06/2025 16:24

I thought everyone on this thread was familiar with the longstanding MN 'no troll-hunting' rule ?

You report it if you don't think it's genuine but you don't derail a thread.

I’m expressing doubts about the plausibility of a story. That’s all.

OldCrone · 29/06/2025 16:26

WhatNextCatsAsDoctors · 29/06/2025 16:19

I have seen that and have responded. For context, it’s a screenshot of an email which could have very easily have been photoshopped. It doesn’t show evidence for anything other than some text about a legal extension.

I understand you aren’t able to put emails from solicitors onto the internet, but I’m sorry I just don’t believe what you’re saying. The story doesn’t sound plausible to me.

@Another2Cats This poster is clearly trying to goad you into sending them confidential information (which will probably turn up on Reddit or somewhere). It would be wise not to send them anything that you are not prepared to post on here, because once they have it you have no control over what happens to it. You can't stop a third party from posting something on the internet once you've sent it to them.

potpourree · 29/06/2025 16:24

OP please be careful - PMs can be from anyone.

potpourree · 29/06/2025 16:24

I thought everyone on this thread was familiar with the longstanding MN 'no troll-hunting' rule ?

You report it if you don't think it's genuine but you don't derail a thread.