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I’m the girl banned for asking a transgender opponent: Are you a man?

131 replies

IDareSay · 10/05/2025 08:23

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/gift/9eac5e4f059c1924

Very brave young woman. Excellent article from Ben Rumsby.

"She has been banned from playing football for asking a transgender opponent: “Are you a man?” She has been discussed and debated on television, online and in parliament. She has become a symbol in the fight against those born male playing in women’s sport. And almost nobody knows who she is.
Until now."

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Chrysanthemum5 · 10/05/2025 21:11

@BeReet please tell your daughter she is a strong woman and we all respect her (and her family)

GetDressedYouMerryGentlemen · 10/05/2025 20:33

BeReet · 10/05/2025 15:21

I am also not Cerys but I am her Mum. We are very, very proud of her for speaking up. Thank you to everyone here on FWR for the support they have shown her, it has really helped her

Please thank Cerys from me for her bravery and rationality. I hope she continues to play and love football .
A big thank you to you for raising such an amazing young lady.

musicalfrog · 10/05/2025 20:30

Was surprised to see this news featured not only on the BBC news front page, but on the Radio 1 news at lunchtime!

Trying to reach new audiences! Unheard of!

WandaSiri · 10/05/2025 20:04

@CorruptedCauldron
I noticed that, too - trying to make her sound older, less sympathetic and more like a man.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 10/05/2025 19:33

Brave Cerys. what a great article

StepawayfromtheLindors · 10/05/2025 17:47

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 10/05/2025 09:21

Archive link for Telegraph article:

archive.is/zsT68

I’m grateful for the link, cheers.
I read the article out to my DH and DC and we’re all totally disgusted by the way Cerys has been treated. It just beggars belief. She’s been bullied on a huge, horrific scale just for asking a straightforward question.
I’m appalled by anyone who agrees with this crazy idea that you can be the opposite sex. Men need to get out of women’s sport.

We all wish Cerys a very successful future career, what an inspiration.

FumingTRex · 10/05/2025 17:38

We dont feel sorry for this man, just like we wouldn’t feel sorry for someone who pretended to have a disability in order to compete in the paralympics.

KnottyAuty · 10/05/2025 17:28

Floralibra · 10/05/2025 15:53

Women’s sports should be for biological women. It feels that in everything now being ‘inclusive’ anctually means excluding and taking away the opportunities and safety for women. Why can’t there be an option for mixed teams, so men’s, women’s and mixed? Why is that such a problem and anyone who suggests it is transphobic? Very rarely do we hear about transmen getting involved in biological male sports… I wonder why! Madness.

The FA rules are nonsensical.

Mixed teams are allowed - but to avoid injury to the females, mixed teams are not allowed after 17-18 years old (?). Previously was 16 which is a more sensible limit IMO as many teen boys are "built" by then.

Meantwhile the FA this it is OK for an adult male (with beard) to play with girls (under 18s) on the women's team. Just not on the mixed... WTF?

The BBC article about "Jessica" mentioned on another thread was actually quite useful - the coach called Steve listed off a lot of different possible options for inclusive training and matches. Also that mens teams need to do the work of being more inclusive too. Hopefully things like that will be the norm instead of women being bullied and injured.

ChateauMargaux · 10/05/2025 17:27

Good for her for being direct, honest and not leaving space to have her words twisted!!

KnottyAuty · 10/05/2025 17:21

BeReet · 10/05/2025 15:21

I am also not Cerys but I am her Mum. We are very, very proud of her for speaking up. Thank you to everyone here on FWR for the support they have shown her, it has really helped her

Oh my goodness! what a wonderful daughter (& you can be such a proud mum!). Wonderful that Cerys has been brave to speak up. She will do wonders for other women and girls. It is so important that individual stories come out - and show how awful things have been for so many women. If you decide to take action on the FA, I'd be delighted to contribute to the gardening fund. lots of love and I hope she is back on the pitch (if not now then very soon) xxx

TheOtherRaven · 10/05/2025 16:49

BeReet · 10/05/2025 15:21

I am also not Cerys but I am her Mum. We are very, very proud of her for speaking up. Thank you to everyone here on FWR for the support they have shown her, it has really helped her

Congratulations, what a couragous woman you've raised. 💐

AgnesX · 10/05/2025 16:29

This person is the one with the beard aka the guy.

Ignore please, I thought this was quoting a previous post.

Truthlikeness · 10/05/2025 16:23

BeReet · 10/05/2025 15:21

I am also not Cerys but I am her Mum. We are very, very proud of her for speaking up. Thank you to everyone here on FWR for the support they have shown her, it has really helped her

Please pass on my appreciation for what your daughter has done. I hope she is able to continue to enjoy the game for many years to come. I used to manage a women's team and spoke up about my concerns for safety and fairness when the league decided to permit self-IDing males to play. Unfortunately the whole team was then banned from playing. I hope those days will soon be behind us.

KathyMalloryKicksAss · 10/05/2025 16:21

BeReet · 10/05/2025 15:21

I am also not Cerys but I am her Mum. We are very, very proud of her for speaking up. Thank you to everyone here on FWR for the support they have shown her, it has really helped her

Brava Cerys! Well done for speaking out against the madness. Your Mum and Dad have done a great job raising you to have the courage to stand up and be counted.

EasternStandard · 10/05/2025 16:12

BeReet · 10/05/2025 15:21

I am also not Cerys but I am her Mum. We are very, very proud of her for speaking up. Thank you to everyone here on FWR for the support they have shown her, it has really helped her

Well done to her, she’s fantastic. And you for raising a confident dd

ChateauMargaux · 10/05/2025 16:07

BeReet · 10/05/2025 15:21

I am also not Cerys but I am her Mum. We are very, very proud of her for speaking up. Thank you to everyone here on FWR for the support they have shown her, it has really helped her

Oh wow... how lovely to 'meet' you. Your daughter is amazing - thank you and thank her. You were very strong to stand up the FA and not just slink away and lick your wounds. You are both role models!! Good luck to Cerys in her exams and whatever she wants to do next!!

ApocalipstickNow · 10/05/2025 15:59

Conkerjar · 10/05/2025 09:59

That last pic mentions he likes drinking Monster. It's like The Stuff. It needs deeper investigation, I swear. 😆

👏 I’m giving you a round of applause for that The Stuff reference 👏

MelodyMalone · 10/05/2025 15:55

AzurePanda · 10/05/2025 12:41

Well done Cerys, you’re fantastic. And your “no” is right up there with Germaine Greer’s “I don’t care”. Well done.

And weightlifter Sarah Robles' "No thank you"!

Floralibra · 10/05/2025 15:54

and just to add, what a brave young woman Cerys is! 🩷

Floralibra · 10/05/2025 15:53

Women’s sports should be for biological women. It feels that in everything now being ‘inclusive’ anctually means excluding and taking away the opportunities and safety for women. Why can’t there be an option for mixed teams, so men’s, women’s and mixed? Why is that such a problem and anyone who suggests it is transphobic? Very rarely do we hear about transmen getting involved in biological male sports… I wonder why! Madness.

Butchyrestingface · 10/05/2025 15:39

BeReet · 10/05/2025 15:21

I am also not Cerys but I am her Mum. We are very, very proud of her for speaking up. Thank you to everyone here on FWR for the support they have shown her, it has really helped her

Excellent, Onwards and upwards for Cerys.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 10/05/2025 15:38

BeReet · 10/05/2025 15:21

I am also not Cerys but I am her Mum. We are very, very proud of her for speaking up. Thank you to everyone here on FWR for the support they have shown her, it has really helped her

Congratulations on raising such a wonderful young woman @BeReet . Hers is the generation who have had so much taken from them - not just in sport but also in terms of boundaries and having their reality challenged.

We're all proud of her (but not as much as you evidently) Flowers

BeReet · 10/05/2025 15:21

I am also not Cerys but I am her Mum. We are very, very proud of her for speaking up. Thank you to everyone here on FWR for the support they have shown her, it has really helped her

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 10/05/2025 15:19

KathyMalloryKicksAss · 10/05/2025 15:18

@TwoLoonsAndASprout

As a mum to a teen autistic boy, I can only say that he hates lies, is very logical and everything in his world is black or white.

In his words, the whole “being able to change your sex” idea, just doesn’t make sense.

Also, I whisper terfy words in his ear while he sleeps 😏

Damn, that’s where I went wrong! Forgot the terfy words 🤣

KathyMalloryKicksAss · 10/05/2025 15:18

@TwoLoonsAndASprout

As a mum to a teen autistic boy, I can only say that he hates lies, is very logical and everything in his world is black or white.

In his words, the whole “being able to change your sex” idea, just doesn’t make sense.

Also, I whisper terfy words in his ear while he sleeps 😏