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Cisgender lesbian forcibly removed from toilets by male security after being wrongly accused of being a man

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Christinapple · 07/05/2025 15:51

This isn't the first time this has happened is it? I expect IMHO there will be more cases like this happening given the current obsession with trans people and how masculine or feminine people look.

https://gomag.com/article/hotel-guard-barges-into-womens-restroom-accuses-lesbian-guest-of-being-a-man/

https://www.thepinknews.com/2025/05/07/liberty-hotel-boston-bathroom-lesbian-trans/

https://www.msn.com/en-nz/news/other/same-sex-couple-demands-answers-after-hotel-security-threw-one-out-of-bathroom-thinking-she-was-a-man/ar-AA1Eh00e

"A woman and her girlfriend were thrown out of a luxurious five-star hotel after a security guard allegedly accused her of being a man using a female bathroom.
Ansley Baker and her partner, Liz Victor, were at the Liberty Hotel in Boston, Massachusetts, attending a Kentucky Derby party on Saturday.

The couple was using the women’s restroom in the foyer when they heard a bang on the stall doors, they told CBS News Boston.
Baker said she was in one of the stalls as Victor waited around the corner near the sinks. The hotel says that security was alerted by several women that the couple was sharing a single stall. Baker and Victor deny being in the same stall.
The male security guard allegedly began urging Baker, who was born a woman and identifies as a woman, to get out of the bathroom and accused her of being a man
“All of a sudden there was banging on the door,” Baker told the local news station. “I pulled my shorts up. I hadn't even tied them. One of the security guards was there telling me to get out of the bathroom, that I was a man in the women's bathroom. I said, ‘I'm a woman.’”"

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EweSurname · 07/05/2025 16:28

If trans women wanted to help gender non conforming women from being challenged in women’s spaces, they could stay out of them, thereby restoring the understanding that only women are in women’s spaces.

CassOle · 07/05/2025 16:28

Something bad happened in the US - now all you UK bigots have to ignore the EA2010 and let men self ID into the female toilets or else!

Have I understood it correctly?

nutmeg7 · 07/05/2025 16:25

BettyBooper · 07/05/2025 16:07

How did I know who the OP would be before opening the thread...? 🤔

Me too

CervixSampler · 07/05/2025 16:25

Oh, it’s you again. Pink news is not a reputable source of the truth and this was in America.

nutmeg7 · 07/05/2025 16:24

Christinapple · 07/05/2025 15:51

This isn't the first time this has happened is it? I expect IMHO there will be more cases like this happening given the current obsession with trans people and how masculine or feminine people look.

https://gomag.com/article/hotel-guard-barges-into-womens-restroom-accuses-lesbian-guest-of-being-a-man/

https://www.thepinknews.com/2025/05/07/liberty-hotel-boston-bathroom-lesbian-trans/

https://www.msn.com/en-nz/news/other/same-sex-couple-demands-answers-after-hotel-security-threw-one-out-of-bathroom-thinking-she-was-a-man/ar-AA1Eh00e

"A woman and her girlfriend were thrown out of a luxurious five-star hotel after a security guard allegedly accused her of being a man using a female bathroom.
Ansley Baker and her partner, Liz Victor, were at the Liberty Hotel in Boston, Massachusetts, attending a Kentucky Derby party on Saturday.

The couple was using the women’s restroom in the foyer when they heard a bang on the stall doors, they told CBS News Boston.
Baker said she was in one of the stalls as Victor waited around the corner near the sinks. The hotel says that security was alerted by several women that the couple was sharing a single stall. Baker and Victor deny being in the same stall.
The male security guard allegedly began urging Baker, who was born a woman and identifies as a woman, to get out of the bathroom and accused her of being a man
“All of a sudden there was banging on the door,” Baker told the local news station. “I pulled my shorts up. I hadn't even tied them. One of the security guards was there telling me to get out of the bathroom, that I was a man in the women's bathroom. I said, ‘I'm a woman.’”"

It’s always the US isn’t it?

DragonRunor · 07/05/2025 16:23

Arniesaxe · 07/05/2025 16:14

This happened to my ex, and my EX ex, since they were children.
I actually began a thread about tips for handling it, about two years ago and had a tonne of vitriol in the comments, including some vile ones such as 'We see you, you trans agenda people' or something like that. It was VILE and the first thread that ever upset me, in decades of being on mn.

Really? Can you link it? Vile comments are usually moderated out v quickly!

AllWhitNoWhoo · 07/05/2025 16:23

Oh come on you terfy cis people women. Now you've heard this, you have to admit that twaw (that just auto corrected to twat!), and it's only fair to let them do whatever they want.
Lols.

EweSurname · 07/05/2025 16:22

The easiest way to deal with this is to have clear social norms where only women go into women’s spaces. Once we have established this as a baseline - and we have not yet done this, just look at all the Reddit threads of people saying they will defy the law - it will be much easier to manage.

BarbieBrightSide · 07/05/2025 16:21

What is the relevance of her being a lesbian?

SilenceInside · 07/05/2025 16:21

Never ceases to amaze me how wilful some people are in refusing to understand what being critical of gender means. Trump and co are not critical of gender, they bloody love gender, they just want it enforced in the traditional way. Obviously. Feminists who are critical of gender don’t want it enforced at all, in the traditional way or in the TRA way.

CleaningSilverCandlesticks · 07/05/2025 16:20

I am not sure why this story of a man entering a woman’s space and acting aggressively towards women is meant to persuade us that it is ok for men to use women’s toilets?

DragonRunor · 07/05/2025 16:19

Blimey, this happens so often that you post news of it happening on a different continent (and referencing the ‘ever-reliable’ Pink News 🙄) in response to the SC ruling?

Nice try Chris, maybe something more relevant would be more interesting?

tripleginandtonic · 07/05/2025 16:18

andtheworldrollson · 07/05/2025 16:01

Slightly confused - banging on the “stalls” door suggests they were in the same cubicle which is not normal unless you have a toddler in tow ?

Think that seems to be the main issue. Not sure name security barging in is necessary either.

Meadowfinch · 07/05/2025 16:17

PetaltotheMedal · 07/05/2025 16:05

"Cisgender" I don't know that word @Christinapple , please can you explain what it means?

I'm glad you asked that.

Why not just say two women were in the ladies loos? It would be much easier to understand.

Duckyfondant · 07/05/2025 16:17

Stepfordian · 07/05/2025 16:11

I think a woman would really have to go to some effort to be mistaken for a man, and then for the mistake not to be immediately apparent upon her speaking.

The woman in question looks and sounds like they've abnormally high testosterone. Whether naturally or not, who knows. I can see why the security guard felt the need to ask the question.

TheOtherRaven · 07/05/2025 16:17

Ooh Chris you must be thrilled!

Soz love, I'm happy to reassure other women as often as necessary than have to deal with a man in a single sex space.

CleaningSilverCandlesticks · 07/05/2025 16:14

Oh look, an article about how a man entered a woman’s toilet was aggressive towards a woman.

Arniesaxe · 07/05/2025 16:14

nocoolnamesleft · 07/05/2025 15:53

If men weren’t using women’s spaces, then no one would be suspicious.

This happened to my ex, and my EX ex, since they were children.
I actually began a thread about tips for handling it, about two years ago and had a tonne of vitriol in the comments, including some vile ones such as 'We see you, you trans agenda people' or something like that. It was VILE and the first thread that ever upset me, in decades of being on mn.

teawamutu · 07/05/2025 16:14

... And everyone on the bus clapped.

The latest argument for allowing men into women's spaces is that if you try to stop them, vaguely masculine women may get questioned.

Makes perfect sense.

Helleofabore · 07/05/2025 16:12

Oh gosh... and considering the number of male people who have been posting all over social media that they will continue to use female toilets when they know that they should not be, some even forming groups to make little videos about doing it, will those male people take responsibility now that their direct actions are leading to women being fearful more than ever?

That would be great. I expect you, Chris to go over and tell them all to stop with the intimidation on their social media. I even saw one ask a male person now charged and about to face court in Florida how best to get caught in the female toilet so they too can make it a protest arrest.

Treeper22 · 07/05/2025 16:12

I am occasionally stopped at the doors of a supermarket because the security alarm goes off. The security guard stops me, checks my reciept, acknowledges it is a mistake and we both move on with our day.

If the security guard is aggressive I would complain about his conduct.

I didn't and wouldn't demand that supermarkets get rid of all their anti-theft mechanisms because of an occasional glitch in the system as I recognise that preventing theft benefits all of us over and above my personal inconvenience.

amber763 · 07/05/2025 16:12

Read "cisgender", a slur by the way and my eyes rolled out of my head and across the floor.

Stepfordian · 07/05/2025 16:11

I think a woman would really have to go to some effort to be mistaken for a man, and then for the mistake not to be immediately apparent upon her speaking.

Seethlaw · 07/05/2025 16:10

Christinapple · 07/05/2025 15:51

This isn't the first time this has happened is it? I expect IMHO there will be more cases like this happening given the current obsession with trans people and how masculine or feminine people look.

https://gomag.com/article/hotel-guard-barges-into-womens-restroom-accuses-lesbian-guest-of-being-a-man/

https://www.thepinknews.com/2025/05/07/liberty-hotel-boston-bathroom-lesbian-trans/

https://www.msn.com/en-nz/news/other/same-sex-couple-demands-answers-after-hotel-security-threw-one-out-of-bathroom-thinking-she-was-a-man/ar-AA1Eh00e

"A woman and her girlfriend were thrown out of a luxurious five-star hotel after a security guard allegedly accused her of being a man using a female bathroom.
Ansley Baker and her partner, Liz Victor, were at the Liberty Hotel in Boston, Massachusetts, attending a Kentucky Derby party on Saturday.

The couple was using the women’s restroom in the foyer when they heard a bang on the stall doors, they told CBS News Boston.
Baker said she was in one of the stalls as Victor waited around the corner near the sinks. The hotel says that security was alerted by several women that the couple was sharing a single stall. Baker and Victor deny being in the same stall.
The male security guard allegedly began urging Baker, who was born a woman and identifies as a woman, to get out of the bathroom and accused her of being a man
“All of a sudden there was banging on the door,” Baker told the local news station. “I pulled my shorts up. I hadn't even tied them. One of the security guards was there telling me to get out of the bathroom, that I was a man in the women's bathroom. I said, ‘I'm a woman.’”"

"This isn't the first time this has happened is it?"

Then surely you can link to a lot more?

For now, you have one (1) incident, happening in the US, not the UK.

" I expect IMHO there will be more cases like this happening given the current obsession with trans people and how masculine or feminine people look."

Which wouldn't have happened if the TRAs hadn't insisted on pushing men into the women's toilets.

Blame the TRAs.

blubbyblub · 07/05/2025 16:10

andtheworldrollson · 07/05/2025 16:01

Slightly confused - banging on the “stalls” door suggests they were in the same cubicle which is not normal unless you have a toddler in tow ?

Huh? No it doesn’t. How does it suggest that?

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