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Cisgender lesbian forcibly removed from toilets by male security after being wrongly accused of being a man

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Christinapple · 07/05/2025 15:51

This isn't the first time this has happened is it? I expect IMHO there will be more cases like this happening given the current obsession with trans people and how masculine or feminine people look.

https://gomag.com/article/hotel-guard-barges-into-womens-restroom-accuses-lesbian-guest-of-being-a-man/

https://www.thepinknews.com/2025/05/07/liberty-hotel-boston-bathroom-lesbian-trans/

https://www.msn.com/en-nz/news/other/same-sex-couple-demands-answers-after-hotel-security-threw-one-out-of-bathroom-thinking-she-was-a-man/ar-AA1Eh00e

"A woman and her girlfriend were thrown out of a luxurious five-star hotel after a security guard allegedly accused her of being a man using a female bathroom.
Ansley Baker and her partner, Liz Victor, were at the Liberty Hotel in Boston, Massachusetts, attending a Kentucky Derby party on Saturday.

The couple was using the women’s restroom in the foyer when they heard a bang on the stall doors, they told CBS News Boston.
Baker said she was in one of the stalls as Victor waited around the corner near the sinks. The hotel says that security was alerted by several women that the couple was sharing a single stall. Baker and Victor deny being in the same stall.
The male security guard allegedly began urging Baker, who was born a woman and identifies as a woman, to get out of the bathroom and accused her of being a man
“All of a sudden there was banging on the door,” Baker told the local news station. “I pulled my shorts up. I hadn't even tied them. One of the security guards was there telling me to get out of the bathroom, that I was a man in the women's bathroom. I said, ‘I'm a woman.’”"

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ThatCyanCat · 09/05/2025 11:00

Realityisreal · 09/05/2025 10:31

There's someone that gives a shit about women and has their feet firmly planted in reality.
What a great role model for trans people everywhere.

And who is a fabulous proponent of self acceptance and what it actually means to be and embrace one's authentic self. Demanding that everyone around you see and treat you as something you aren't is not living authentically. It's the exact opposite. It makes you untrue to yourself and, therefore, to everyone.

Realityisreal · 09/05/2025 10:31

Helleofabore · 08/05/2025 21:17

I saw this today and thought it was really interesting.

https://x.com/rocknroller2019/status/1920553022347730977?s=46

1000 photos of this person using the male toilets with no incidents to document that it can be done. Seems like a good project.

There's someone that gives a shit about women and has their feet firmly planted in reality.
What a great role model for trans people everywhere.

MarieDeGournay · 09/05/2025 10:21

I keep seeing this thread title and thinking 'Oh no! not another cisgender lesbian* forcibly removed from toilets by male security after being wrongly accused of being a man yesterday! This is disgraceful - clearly a sustained campaign of harassment against every cisgender lesbian in the USA...'

But no, it's just one. In a country with a population of 347,276,000.

To be fair, it's not a one-off isolated incident: Christinapple managed to find another example, last March.
So that's TWO in a country with a population of 347,276,000.

*obviously I'm quoting 'cisgender lesbian' for effect, not because I think it means anything🙄

TheKeatingFive · 09/05/2025 09:43

There's so much nuance under the surface on this issue.

To take one example. There's an extraordinary undercurrent of misogyny in Irish society that raises its head in bizarre ways.

Right now, players of camogie (a very popular sport for women) are banned by the governing body from wearing shorts at matches. They are supposed to wear skirts (or 'skorts'). There will be multiple protests at matches across the country this weekend about this.

This includes grown women, playing for their county.

So just one small example, but indicative that these countries are far from the enlightened feminist paradises they're being made out to be.

FlakyCritic · 09/05/2025 09:16

CassOle · 08/05/2025 09:05

I see that Suggesions is scraping the barrel again.

Sigh.

I think they've lost the link they spam this site with over and over, despite having their arse handed to them on here each and every single time.

FlakyCritic · 09/05/2025 09:08

suggestionsplease1 · 07/05/2025 21:28

Well you could look at the best performing countries in the world for women in the major international surveys eg Women, Peace and Security Index, and The Global Gender Gap Report. Then you would see that, for both, 8 of 10 of the best places in the world to be a woman also, according to you and to Mumsnet FWR, apparently don't know what a woman is (have policies of gender self ID)

Correlation does not equal causation as you've been told repeatedly. Patriarchal countries doing well economically does not prove anything.

FlakyCritic · 08/05/2025 21:54

Again proof of what males invading female only safe spaces have caused. Solely their fault. This is jus proof of that.

Helleofabore · 08/05/2025 21:17

I saw this today and thought it was really interesting.

https://x.com/rocknroller2019/status/1920553022347730977?s=46

1000 photos of this person using the male toilets with no incidents to document that it can be done. Seems like a good project.

https://x.com/rocknroller2019/status/1920553022347730977?s=46

KrankyKumquat · 08/05/2025 17:53

@selffellatingouroborosofhate
First rule of statistics - correlation is not causation. Maybe, just maybe, women in these countries are doing relatively despite not because of self-ID.

Helleofabore · 08/05/2025 17:23

Datun · 08/05/2025 15:46

It is a never ending plea for relevance

What a shame suggestions didn't intervene on behalf of transwomen everywhere, with their big book of statistics. I'm sure the panel would've reversed their decision immediately.

If the information was at all relevant, it would be spread far and wide over the internet as a 'look ... see.... we said....' The fact that it is not should have been a warning sign from the fucking beginning.

Helleofabore · 08/05/2025 17:22

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 08/05/2025 15:59

Not so much.

  1. Malta has has no legal access to abortion but has self-id. I'm sure it's great being a woman of reproductive age there.
  2. We cannot trust figures about how great women's lives are from states that let any man decide that he's a woman, because a) some of the "women" are actually men, and b) if a state will lie about the sex of its citizens, it can't be trusted to tell the truth about anything else.

Sadly, selffellatingouroborosofhate, the issues with the indexes that this poster continues to post have been pointed out for many threads now. The same set of indexes in different versions keep being posted though with the same irrelevant point about self-identification.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 08/05/2025 15:59

suggestionsplease1 · 07/05/2025 21:28

Well you could look at the best performing countries in the world for women in the major international surveys eg Women, Peace and Security Index, and The Global Gender Gap Report. Then you would see that, for both, 8 of 10 of the best places in the world to be a woman also, according to you and to Mumsnet FWR, apparently don't know what a woman is (have policies of gender self ID)

Not so much.

  1. Malta has has no legal access to abortion but has self-id. I'm sure it's great being a woman of reproductive age there.
  2. We cannot trust figures about how great women's lives are from states that let any man decide that he's a woman, because a) some of the "women" are actually men, and b) if a state will lie about the sex of its citizens, it can't be trusted to tell the truth about anything else.
RhannionKPSS · 08/05/2025 15:56

No such thing as “ cis” , men are not and never can be women

Datun · 08/05/2025 15:46

Helleofabore · 08/05/2025 09:47

I see we are again being told to believe some world economic forum and the like superficial overview (rubbish in / rubbish out) on women’s safety etc is somehow relevant to self ID.

It is a never ending plea for relevance and an endless cycle where the person making the declaration cannot see past their ideology to see the flaws in their claims.

It is a never ending plea for relevance

What a shame suggestions didn't intervene on behalf of transwomen everywhere, with their big book of statistics. I'm sure the panel would've reversed their decision immediately.

MistyGreenAndBlue · 08/05/2025 14:05

suggestionsplease1 · 07/05/2025 21:28

Well you could look at the best performing countries in the world for women in the major international surveys eg Women, Peace and Security Index, and The Global Gender Gap Report. Then you would see that, for both, 8 of 10 of the best places in the world to be a woman also, according to you and to Mumsnet FWR, apparently don't know what a woman is (have policies of gender self ID)

If they have self ID then any stats they have on women are meaningless since self identified men will be included in those stats by default.

We have no way of knowing which "women" they refer to.

You just proved the point we are making that "they don't know what a woman is"
So... thanks for that

Apriltowers · 08/05/2025 13:19

@suggestionsplease1 Have you ever heard the saying "there are lies, darn lies and statistics"? It basically just means you can't trust statistics. In these "progressive " countries I imagine there's some other variable like maybe they're so captured at all levels that women know the government don't GAF about them, and that means they know nothing will be done if they report violence and so they don't bother. Could be that or something else, I don't know but it's clearly bullshit.

Merrymouse · 08/05/2025 11:28

Have seen an interview with the woman and she is no more manly than an average woman with short hair wearing trousers and no make up.

It should be noted that many women over the age of 60 have short hair, wear trousers and don’t wear make up, but this demographic is strangely invisible. Nobody mistakes them for men.

I have no idea what was actually going on, but open homophobia and sexism do seem to be more acceptable in America.

WithSilverBells · 08/05/2025 11:01

Helleofabore · 08/05/2025 10:55

Yes. But it seems we are now having ChatGPT generated posts rather than proper interrogation of the data being used.

Just looking at what is feeding into the indexes, all it takes is a few male people being recorded as female parliamentarians, and women not being able to take their discrimination to court because males with a particular gender identities have been given their opportunity and you can see that self ID will have an artificial impact on these indexes.

Just looking at what is feeding into the indexes, all it takes is a few male people being recorded as female parliamentarians, and women not being able to take their discrimination to court because males with a particular gender identities have been given their opportunity and you can see that self ID will have an artificial impact on these indexes.

A feature, not a bug

ScrollingLeaves · 08/05/2025 10:59

NotmeMother · 07/05/2025 15:56

Breaking News; a women who likes to look manly is asked to leave a women's toilet on another continent! Gasp!

Quite.

ThatCyanCat · 08/05/2025 10:58

Pissing myself at someone who literally pulls their arguments out of ChatGPT's bottom accusing other people of not doing their homework...

Helleofabore · 08/05/2025 10:55

WithSilverBells · 08/05/2025 10:46

I agree. If we are going to allow random scientific opinions then I submit:

Women's equality and well being would be even better in those countries if they dumped the policies of gender self id

Disprove that theory

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Yes. But it seems we are now having ChatGPT generated posts rather than proper interrogation of the data being used.

Just looking at what is feeding into the indexes, all it takes is a few male people being recorded as female parliamentarians, and women not being able to take their discrimination to court because males with a particular gender identities have been given their opportunity and you can see that self ID will have an artificial impact on these indexes.

SinnerBoy · 08/05/2025 10:52

suggestionsplease1 · Yesterday 22:12

Not doing your homework for you.

You remind me of 14 year old me, complaining about the poor mark I got for a poem. I told my English teacher scathingly that it wasn't MY fault she didn't understand it.

I suspect strongly that my maths teacher would have been less indulgent, had I pronounced:

Women are much better off in Ireland than Afghanistan, therefore, Self ID is the dog's bollocks.

... with no workings.

Merrymouse · 08/05/2025 10:49

This seems reminiscent of the studies that linked particular diets to longetivity, so identifying ‘blue zones’ - until it was suggested that they might just be identifying pension fraud.

WithSilverBells · 08/05/2025 10:46

nutmeg7 · 08/05/2025 08:08

Now I know you are scientifically illiterate.

Do you think this is how research studies are done? 😂 Oh dear.

I agree. If we are going to allow random scientific opinions then I submit:

Women's equality and well being would be even better in those countries if they dumped the policies of gender self id

Disprove that theory

Edit for clarity

Helleofabore · 08/05/2025 10:27

Just a reminder of what 'indexes' feed into the overall scores for that WPS Index

years of education
whether a woman gets access to bank accounts
employment
access to a mobile phone
parliamentary representation (and if I remember correctly, this also includes whether there is a queen as a head of state).

then they scale the whether women are legal discriminated against to reduce their opportunities
access to justice
maternal mortality
and whether more males are recorded as born vs girls.

then comes intimate partner violence
community safety
political violence targeting women
proximity to conflict zones

There is significant danger in looking at such an index and declaring that there is relevance to self identification. There is a reason for most of that Top 10 being high and it has to do with their female heads of state, including having a queen.

As has been long pointed out with these indexes every time they are posted by this one single poster, the information is also not reliable because it is widely reported that countries in that top 10 have significant domestic violence and rape cases that women simply don't bother reporting. However, they are well published. New Zealand and Norway come to mind.

It is absurd that these indexes keep being posted.