Banned from breastfeeding group for objecting to males breastfeeding

What a shitty response from the leader?!
If I were you and others I'd just branch off and set up a new group, for bio women only.
She'll soon just be there on her own with this one bloke. The only way to do anything is just to vote with your feet. I'm sure some of the others must feel the same way you do?

The person trying to breastfeed their child that OP objects to is properly referred to as she.

And yes, it has been shown that with the appropriate intervention trans women can lactate.

The mother you objecting to has every right to be their - unless the relevant service makes this a single sex space and feels it can evidence a proportionate reason for making it such.

OP please focus on your own child at this critical time and stop worrying about how other mothers parent theirs.

I think your interpretation is incorrect

No it doesn’t

Sorry, what?

Are you telling me that your version of the Gender Recognition Act 2004 says something different?

That sounds very strange, especially since the Supreme Court also discussed this provision in their judgment (at para 105).

It’s really odd that you’re getting a different version of the GRA from the rest of us - are you sure you refreshed the page??

No it doesn’t, the biological mother is still the biological mother but their partner if it was a trans woman can also be a mother .

A trans man could call themselves a mother or a father if they had a child, whatever they choose

My gosh. I can’t keep up with this world any more. This reminds me of the time I ordered a lemon in my online shop and a bottle of lemon washing up liquid came instead. 😵‍💫😵‍💫

I just don’t think it’s fair OP’s been banned from a space she’s ever right to. She should continue to go along and hold her ground. Like Rosa Parkes once did on a bus during civil rights movement . She wasn’t going to give up her seat to a white person. She had a right to it. Like OP has a right to that group.

It doesn't matter, it's the infant who's at the heart of that, and their nutritional needs come first

The person trying to breastfeed their child that OP objects to is properly referred to as she.

And yes, it has been shown that with the appropriate intervention trans women can lactate.

The mother you objecting to has every right to be their - unless the relevant service makes this a single sex space and feels it can evidence a proportionate reason for making it such.

OP please focus on your own child at this critical time and stop worrying about how other mothers parent theirs.

Tell her she’s not welcome.

She is welcome though, the group has made that perfectly clear. It's OP who isn't welcome.

On what planet does turning up to a support group for anything with the sole purpose of trying to get someone to "cause a scene" (aka causing a scene yourself) help the people who are there for support?

There are better, more mature ways to fight your battles.

I think trans women can actually be called mothers, strange I know, but the legal and social definition is below,

Social or legal definition:

• A mother can also be someone who raises, nurtures, or cares for a child, regardless of biological connection—such as adoptive mothers, stepmothers, foster mothers, or trans mothers.

That’s lovely, but s12 of the Gender Recognition Act states:

The fact that a person’s gender has become the acquired gender under this Act does not affect the status of the person as the father or mother of a child.

Poor baby

I think trans women can actually be called mothers, strange I know, but the legal and social definition is below,

Social or legal definition:

• A mother can also be someone who raises, nurtures, or cares for a child, regardless of biological connection—such as adoptive mothers, stepmothers, foster mothers, or trans mothers.

Also, depending on what your council’s stance is on gender woo, it might be worth considering contacting social services about the other baby, just so they’re aware.

But that’s a bit of a prickly one, as they might take the transwomen’s side and turn the tables on you for being a bigot, so I’d definitely proceed with caution there.

Honestly, it does feel like the world has gone utterly, utterly mad when there’s more chance that the national press will understand about child safeguarding than the social workers whose job it is to actually protect children.

Yes they have a baby and the wife comes too. I just find it so wrong that this is allowed to happen, I feel it totally and utterly undermines your experience as a breastfeeding woman to be honest. I know we could just meet up elsewhere or sort our own group out but I think why should we?! Literally why are we being forced out of a breastfeeding group (which only women can do) by a man??

Hi everyone,

I gave birth a few months ago and had some breastfeeding difficulties, so joined a local breastfeeding support group in my city. It’s basically a place to go for support with feeding, plus meet other mums/have a cuppa and biscuit etc. They also have a FB group. It’s become a nice, friendly place to go once every couple of weeks.

Recently, a trans-woman (male) has joined the group asking for support because their wife has not long had a baby and the trans-woman is wishing to breastfeed too, apparently through use of hormones and domperidone (?) to stimulate supply (I did not realise this was possible at all)

I really really object to this person being present in a group of women who are seeking breastfeeding support, trying to come together in their breastfeeding experience and also revealing themselves intimately

I told the group leader my concerns and she basically told me to shove it - said that the group is a safe space for everyone and they support all who wish to breastfeed and that I shouldn’t come back because I am a bigot

I am horrified as are the other women, where do we all stand and what would you do?

I think trans women can actually be called mothers, strange I know, but the legal and social definition is below,

Social or legal definition:

• A mother can also be someone who raises, nurtures, or cares for a child, regardless of biological connection—such as adoptive mothers, stepmothers, foster mothers, or trans mothers.