Banned from breastfeeding group for objecting to males breastfeeding

It is appalling behaviour towards you. Tbf I think whilst some people might genuinely believe this up until the recent court ruling, which should not have needed to happen to state the obvious, maybe people were scared to say anything. Male parters are not allowed. The TW is male. I despair. Will attitudes be different since ruling?

Yes, it would be interesting to know how trans women are able to legally obtain Domperidone in the UK when the NHS website states:

"Domperidone is an anti-sickness medicine. It helps you to stop feeling or being sick (nausea or vomiting)."
"Domperidone can also be used to treat stomach pain if you're having end of life care (palliative care)."
"It is sometimes used to increase milk supply. Your doctor may prescribe it if you're having trouble breastfeeding but only if other things have not worked.
Domperidone is available on prescription only."
and
"Domperidone is usually only prescribed for a short time (up to 1 week)."

Presumably, GPs are happy to prescribe Domperidone for the rare cases they experience of trans women wishing to breast-feed.

This is disgusting!

Breastfeeding is not about the feelings of the parents, but about nurturing a baby. If breastfeeding is not an option or if the mother really needs break, then the answer is formula, not artificial hormones, of which children will get plenty through all the micro-plastics in the water anyway.

Remember, nice ladies are naive and wide-eyed and have NO IDEA about any of that horrid stuff men might get up to. The men they know would never do anything like that! They only know lovely men

Reddit and other parts of the internet are covered in threads by men (whatever they call themselves) who want to breastfeed for sexual reasons and are very frank about it.

Are we supposed to pretend not to know about that?

It’s so Victorian, this prudery by nice women who pop in here to tell us all that ‘they are just mummies! Like all the other mummies! Be kind!’ and that we are dirty-minded if we notice that there’s a massive perverted subculture around this.

Domperidone isn't a magic bullet. I am a woman and was prescribed it as my production was very low, and it increased slightly, but not much. It also comes with an increased risk of heart attack, mostly in men.

There are ways for a man to "chest feed", for example with a tube feeder that you sellotape to your nipple and put formula through. I also tried this, it cost upwards of £80 and is incredibly fiddly and I basically failed with it.

If the other women agree with you, just break away on your own.

Love this example. Maybe Man Friday need to extend their activities to ball-checking groups? Or to be renamed more inclusively as "Todger Watch"?

This is so so wrong!
Men cannot breastfeed, surely if they have implants they still haven’t got the tubes and ducts. As for stimulating some secretions???? My mind boggles. Why would anyone put that in their baby’s system?
If that person wants to support the baby’s mother; there are many other ways such as letting mum sleep, providing nourishing food and drinks; doing the housework etc.
Is there anything these men don’t want to steal from us. I find it incredibly sad that this rubbish is being pandered to and frankly makes me more gc- and angry.

If we're talking about "moving with the times" how about moving with the times now that the Supreme Court judgement has been made?

Other matters apart, I’d be very concerned a) about the drugs that the baby would presumably be imbibing with any milk produced, and b) would these drugs have been prescribed by our cash-strapped NHS??

Referring to yourself as a mother is one thing, making a small baby suck your nipples is quite another.

If no males were allowed in the group, then no women would be made to feel uncomfortable.

Having just given birth is one of the most vulnerable times in a woman's life. Women deserve to have a single sex spaces to receive breastfeeding support. And if there's a risk of women feeling awkward, embarrassed, uncomfortable or unsafe because a man wants to barge in, just because you dont care, the rest of us can. And do.

I never said they were women but the can refer to themselves as mothers if they wish, it doesn’t matter that you or I don’t see them as mothers in the traditional sense

I am not massively GC, pretty tolerant around transgender people. But even I find this so wrong. The thought actually makes my skin crawl. Totally agree with @Higgeldypiggeldy35 - it’s personal desire for gender affirmation rather than in the best interests of the baby. The fact you’ve been kicked from the group for raising concerns is astonishing, I would seriously be contacting the local council and every news outlet I could find.

@snickerdoodle1990 soery to hear about your experience

if the group is described as women only then they can’t let him in. If it’s not, theres not much you can do though I agree with all the people saying a social services alert because what he’s describing is child abuse.

if you have a male partner I would be tempted to bring him to the next meeting because if they’re allowing one male in, they have to allow all males in.

"move on with the times"?

Have a little think, is every trend worth following? Is every new invention necessarily good because it's new?

Just some food for thought.

Men who wish they were women are not women and are not mothers.

Maybe we should start staging mass sign ups to trans support groups and just barge on in

And legally that means all.

If it is not single sex, it is mixed sex. Allowing one 'impregnating parent' to join means they must allow all impregnating parents. There's a reason these groups usually don't allow dads - if they let this man in, they must also let in all the other dads.

If she's calling you a bigot, I think you'd be well in your rights to tell her what she is: a delusional bootlicking lunatic.

@Oldermum84 the OP is not being closed minded. This is a very specific female function that cannot be replicated by cross sex hormones or performance.
You might be happy to welcome this TW but it should not exclude a natal women seeking help because he trumps her.
There is no good reason for a natal male to be there. He is obviously not suffering from body dysphoria if he still has the ability to father a child.
Fwiw I have a trans family member and this is unacceptable behaviour for genuine trans people trying to go about their business. It smacks of someone who is a transactivist and is looking to cause distress.

In the words of the inimitable Magdelen Berns 'You are so open minded your brain's fallen out'. This is a fetishist getting off on being with a group of women who are breastfeeding. Stop pretending that men can be women. They can't.

Or so open minded you will believe any shit anyone tells you? Even that a man who fathered a child is now a woman? And his desire to breastfeed is because he’s now a woman? And not because he’s a man with a lactation fetish? And not because he’s exhibiting controlling behaviour around the mother of his child.

I suggest a bit more reasoned thinking, a bit more open eyed cynicism, and a bit less believing in any idea that comes along so you can pat yourself on the back for being so open-minded that you lose your ability to think.

Yes agreed. Many women are prescribed painkillers that are safe for breastfeeding post c-section and paracetamol is always the base drug for it before you go on to anything stronger if needed. I breastfed both of my children and more recently supported my SIL breastfeeding, both of us used paracetamol correctly.

Domperidone is a prescription only medicine. Either the bloke is buying illegal supplies on the dark web or getting a prescription from a dodgy doctor. It's licensed for treating nausea & vomiting or abdominal pain in palliative care.