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Does anyone else feel disheartened?

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ItsCoolForCats · 01/05/2025 17:32

I was so elated at the ruling and the implications for women's sex-based protections.

And I am happy that certain media outlets have realised (begrudgingly in some cases) that refusing to air the concerns of women over the last decade has lead to a very one-sided debate. It's great to see orgs such as Sex Matters being quoted so extensively now.

However, I'm really disheartened by the sheer scale of the push back and by the fact that so many women don't support the ruling. I mean, why would anyone think that women don't deserve fair and safe sporting opportunities, for example? Why is it always women that are expected to forgo their rights?

The Supreme Court ruling should be definitive, but it doesn't feel like the end. There is the judge bringing the case to the ECHR (I know some legal experts have dismissed any chances of success), but I think activists are going to pile a lot of pressure on the government to make concessions and look at amending the law. The disquiet about the ruling amongst so many Labour MPs about the ruling is concerning me.

Is anyone else feeling a bit dejected?

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ThatCyanCat · 03/05/2025 17:30

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 17:07

Are you not telling me because you know I'll laugh at you?

It's Glinner isn't it? lol. At least the others are successful.

Are you not telling me because you know I'll laugh at you?

I'm laughing myself at the idea you could read my posts to you and still somehow think I have any respect or concern whatsoever for what you think of me, and that I'm motivated by terror of your disapproval.

Did you hear Michael Jackson died?

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 17:26

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 03/05/2025 17:22

  1. He's right. We don't encourage anorexics to diet and we don't encourage people who think they shouldn't have legs to get them amputated. When Rachael Dolezal claimed to be Black, she was criticised for appropriation, not encouraged.
  2. Nothing in that post suggests that men should be prevented from wearing dresses and makeup. The problem isn't men wearing feminine-coded clothing, it's men claiming to be women and demanding admission to women's spaces.

The mask has slipped, I'm afraid. "Dress how you please" sounds impressive but that isn't backed up by reality, where Gender Non Conformity is punished wherever it looms, the SC ruling will only make that worse.

Not even JK Rowling can be bothered to pretend she doesn't hate our guts these days.

Does anyone else feel disheartened?
Seethlaw · 03/05/2025 17:26

PrettyDamnCosmic · 03/05/2025 17:17

James Esses is 100% correct. By definition anyone who suffers from the delusion that they are "trans" is suffering from a mental health condition whether it is body dysmorphia, internalised homophobia, autogynephilia or whatever. You don't treat a mental health condition with hormones & surgery. You certainly don't affirm the patient in their delusion.

"You don't treat a mental health condition with hormones & surgery."

They do, though, and for good reason: it's the only thing that somewhat works. Everything else has been tried, with zero result. Hormones and surgery do provide relief to at least those suffering from gender dysphoria. It's literally better than nothing, hence why it's done.

PrettyDamnCosmic · 03/05/2025 17:25

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 17:20

Then don't tell me trans people aren't being chased out of society

Edited

Treating your paraphilia or body dysmorphia so you literally feel comfortable in your own skin isn't eliminating you it's providing relief from your distress. Unfortunately the first step to treating your problem is for you to acknowledge that you have a problem but as you still seem to be in denial it's not going to be easy.

Edited to add that I see you now are trying to move the goalposts again. I replied to your post regarding "elimination" but now you changed it to "being chased out of society"

soupycustard · 03/05/2025 17:24

But Esses isn't calling for an elimination of trans people. He has literally not written those words, just as the Declaration literally didn't say it.
Why is a bar on males taking female prizes or using female spaces - spaces granted to females because of our vulnerability as against males - an elimination?

soupycustard · 03/05/2025 17:24

But Esses isn't calling for an elimination of trans people. He has literally not written those words, just as the Declaration literally didn't say it.
Why is a bar on males taking female prizes or using female spaces - spaces granted to females because of our vulnerability as against males - an elimination?

ArabellaScott · 03/05/2025 17:23

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 03/05/2025 17:15

I'm nabbing this argument.

Also, something the Omnicause-type of leftists like to say is that "I don't see race" is a racist statement because those who don't see race don't see racism. And they have a point: if we don't see that Black people's hair is really really tightly-curled and needs to be managed in specific ways that white people's hair doesn't, we end up writing school uniform policies that discriminate against Black girls.

Yet the exact same people want us to stop seeing sex and instead see gender identity (how, given that it's invisible?) and call us transphobic when we say that denying sex is sexist.

Because they don't actually want us to see gender identity, they want to abuse and subjugate and control. The power is the point.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 03/05/2025 17:22

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 17:11

Stuff like this turns up every day. James Esses isn't some nobody.

  1. He's right. We don't encourage anorexics to diet and we don't encourage people who think they shouldn't have legs to get them amputated. When Rachael Dolezal claimed to be Black, she was criticised for appropriation, not encouraged.
  2. Nothing in that post suggests that men should be prevented from wearing dresses and makeup. The problem isn't men wearing feminine-coded clothing, it's men claiming to be women and demanding admission to women's spaces.
MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 17:20

PrettyDamnCosmic · 03/05/2025 17:17

James Esses is 100% correct. By definition anyone who suffers from the delusion that they are "trans" is suffering from a mental health condition whether it is body dysmorphia, internalised homophobia, autogynephilia or whatever. You don't treat a mental health condition with hormones & surgery. You certainly don't affirm the patient in their delusion.

Then don't tell me trans people aren't being chased out of society

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 03/05/2025 17:17

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 17:07

Are you not telling me because you know I'll laugh at you?

It's Glinner isn't it? lol. At least the others are successful.

The others don't have multiple classic comedies to their names. I'd say, based on that, that Glinner is a successful writer.

PrettyDamnCosmic · 03/05/2025 17:17

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 17:11

Stuff like this turns up every day. James Esses isn't some nobody.

James Esses is 100% correct. By definition anyone who suffers from the delusion that they are "trans" is suffering from a mental health condition whether it is body dysmorphia, internalised homophobia, autogynephilia or whatever. You don't treat a mental health condition with hormones & surgery. You certainly don't affirm the patient in their delusion.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 03/05/2025 17:15

ThatCyanCat · 03/05/2025 16:44

Oh, are people still doing the "everyone who knows what a woman is has the same attitude towards them" thing? Aka the Oscar Schindler Gambit. Hitler and Schindler both knew what a Jew was, therefore Schindler is Hitler, you see. And if we want to save Jews from Hitler, we absolutely must pretend we don't know what a Jew is, because that will make Jews safer. And if you don't agree, intersex 6' bearded transmen bigot spectrum dingbat teapot orange.

I'm nabbing this argument.

Also, something the Omnicause-type of leftists like to say is that "I don't see race" is a racist statement because those who don't see race don't see racism. And they have a point: if we don't see that Black people's hair is really really tightly-curled and needs to be managed in specific ways that white people's hair doesn't, we end up writing school uniform policies that discriminate against Black girls.

Yet the exact same people want us to stop seeing sex and instead see gender identity (how, given that it's invisible?) and call us transphobic when we say that denying sex is sexist.

Circumferences · 03/05/2025 17:14

Yes it's so obvious.
Yes apparently they're the victims.

It's DARVO on steroids.

Enough4me · 03/05/2025 17:14

I expected angry controlling men to argue their case and not reflect, it's natural for them. Also, the 'be kind' supporters were never instantly going to absorb the truth they previously ignored.
However, the ruling stands - biology is real and matters.
Men can pick whatever label they like, they are men.

ArabellaScott · 03/05/2025 17:14

Circumferences · 03/05/2025 17:12

Ok and I raise you

As I said, its about subjugating, threatening, and abusing women.

Circumferences · 03/05/2025 17:13

^ images like this pop up every day

Ereshkigalangcleg · 03/05/2025 17:13

soupycustard · 03/05/2025 17:09

So even more so than at the beginning of the thread, I'm disheartened because I can't grasp how any of this elimination stuff is remotely arguable and it's not possible to have a sensible conversation with a movement that claims something this illogical.

Have a lurk on TRA Reddit, these weird, feverish arguments are par for the course. It’s a bit scary, really.

Circumferences · 03/05/2025 17:12

Ok and I raise you

Does anyone else feel disheartened?
HashtagLurky · 03/05/2025 17:12

Anyway...
No, I'm not disheartened! It's beginning to sink in that we've won. The other side is in the bunker of denial, surrounded by cronies. Every day, my heart grows lighter.

It is brilliant.

Does anyone else feel disheartened?
MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 17:11

soupycustard · 03/05/2025 17:06

And to follow on because I really struggling to find any hint of logic in the TRA insistence that trans is being eliminated: if there were any 'elimination' going on, it would be that by allowing males to use the sex-based rights of females, female sex-based rights are eliminated, because females can't use them to bolster their position in a patriarchy if males can use them too. They become unisex rights.
Which makes no sense.

Stuff like this turns up every day. James Esses isn't some nobody.

Does anyone else feel disheartened?
ArabellaScott · 03/05/2025 17:10

It's not about winning an argument, per se. It's about subjugating women.

soupycustard · 03/05/2025 17:09

So even more so than at the beginning of the thread, I'm disheartened because I can't grasp how any of this elimination stuff is remotely arguable and it's not possible to have a sensible conversation with a movement that claims something this illogical.

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 17:07

ThatCyanCat · 03/05/2025 17:00

Maybe after another six years (did you hear the Berlin Wall came down too?) you'll work it out.

In the meantime, all of them are men and will always be men, something they have in common with all transwomen and no woman.

Are you not telling me because you know I'll laugh at you?

It's Glinner isn't it? lol. At least the others are successful.

soupycustard · 03/05/2025 17:06

And to follow on because I really struggling to find any hint of logic in the TRA insistence that trans is being eliminated: if there were any 'elimination' going on, it would be that by allowing males to use the sex-based rights of females, female sex-based rights are eliminated, because females can't use them to bolster their position in a patriarchy if males can use them too. They become unisex rights.
Which makes no sense.

ArabellaScott · 03/05/2025 17:05

OP, if you were feeling disheartened, I hope this thread is demonstrating why you've no need to be.

The rage and hatred shown by men on here, unfolding in real time and directed at women who dare to voice disagreement, is a perfect illustration of why our arguments were correct - and also of the fact that we've won.

The more men rage against women's rights, the more they demonstrate why we need them.