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Does anyone else feel disheartened?

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ItsCoolForCats · 01/05/2025 17:32

I was so elated at the ruling and the implications for women's sex-based protections.

And I am happy that certain media outlets have realised (begrudgingly in some cases) that refusing to air the concerns of women over the last decade has lead to a very one-sided debate. It's great to see orgs such as Sex Matters being quoted so extensively now.

However, I'm really disheartened by the sheer scale of the push back and by the fact that so many women don't support the ruling. I mean, why would anyone think that women don't deserve fair and safe sporting opportunities, for example? Why is it always women that are expected to forgo their rights?

The Supreme Court ruling should be definitive, but it doesn't feel like the end. There is the judge bringing the case to the ECHR (I know some legal experts have dismissed any chances of success), but I think activists are going to pile a lot of pressure on the government to make concessions and look at amending the law. The disquiet about the ruling amongst so many Labour MPs about the ruling is concerning me.

Is anyone else feeling a bit dejected?

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PriOn1 · 03/05/2025 14:37

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 14:29

When i signed up to this site about 6 years ago you were still pretending to not hate "real" transsexuals, and you were arguing about whether Brietbart was a reputable news source because, like any right-wing outreach, it spoke about trans people with the words you wanted to hear.

I've watched this place be radicalised. Shame, this is where I discovered the "Bumbo", for which I remain grateful

Nobody here is anti-trans. It may be that you are simply misogynistic, paranoid and desperate to remove our rights.

Read this thread and see.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5326486-thank-you-from-a-trans-lurker

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 14:29

teawamutu · 03/05/2025 13:49

He's been around for quite a while I think. Doggedly mansplaining that we're wrong, bigoted, evil, right wing shills and/or left wing atheists depending on the day etc etc etc.

Quite useful as a way to explain and demonstrate to the lurkers, though.

When i signed up to this site about 6 years ago you were still pretending to not hate "real" transsexuals, and you were arguing about whether Brietbart was a reputable news source because, like any right-wing outreach, it spoke about trans people with the words you wanted to hear.

I've watched this place be radicalised. Shame, this is where I discovered the "Bumbo", for which I remain grateful

PriOn1 · 03/05/2025 14:23

Circumferences · 03/05/2025 13:41

Yeah they don't call for the elimination of trans people then do they

Exactly. The elimination of the undefined and undefinable “gender identity” even when coupled with the elimination of all rights from those who claim they have one STILL doesn’t equate to the elimination of people.

They will still exist and still be moaning that the world is no longer pandering to their every whim, long after women have fully regained their rights.

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 14:18

DragonRunor · 03/05/2025 14:07

Interestingly, in my experience, the SC ruling has made the topic more widely discussed, and I’ve been pleasantly surprised by how many people, quiet until now, are very strongly in favour of the decision.

Unfortunately, those who aren’t are generally wailing and sulking rather than thinking about how to legally address any issues they have. And some are sulking in a very loud and aggressive manner The scale of that pushback is quite disturbing for lots of people, and not for the reasons you suggest

Obviously I don't have an objective view on what is being discussed, I can only observe what I'm seeing in media, and how it's being received. Plenty of the usual transphobic talking-heads are expressing the same consternation as this thread. Sharon Davies, James Esses, Glinner, Posie Parker and even Rowling aren't talking about "no-one is trying to eliminate you". Far from it. The teeth are out and the blood is up.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 03/05/2025 14:13

DragonRunor · 03/05/2025 14:07

Interestingly, in my experience, the SC ruling has made the topic more widely discussed, and I’ve been pleasantly surprised by how many people, quiet until now, are very strongly in favour of the decision.

Unfortunately, those who aren’t are generally wailing and sulking rather than thinking about how to legally address any issues they have. And some are sulking in a very loud and aggressive manner The scale of that pushback is quite disturbing for lots of people, and not for the reasons you suggest

Indeed. A quick read of numerous threads on here reveals hundreds of women finally feeling able to express their resentment at men in their changing rooms., their children being gaslit in schools and all the young pregnant women bitterly resenting being faced with the dehumanising removal of the language of women and mothers in maternity care.
All pushed for by Stonewall and the other anti women trans lobby groups.

teawamutu · 03/05/2025 14:12

DragonRunor · 03/05/2025 14:07

Interestingly, in my experience, the SC ruling has made the topic more widely discussed, and I’ve been pleasantly surprised by how many people, quiet until now, are very strongly in favour of the decision.

Unfortunately, those who aren’t are generally wailing and sulking rather than thinking about how to legally address any issues they have. And some are sulking in a very loud and aggressive manner The scale of that pushback is quite disturbing for lots of people, and not for the reasons you suggest

Exactly. Like my very woo friend who wants to be kind but has just confessed that she really wouldn't want to share a changing room with her other friend's new 'wife'. My mum, who's not wanting to make her very sweet TIM acquaintance sad but wants to talk third spaces because she can also see that other women's consent can't be given away on their behalf.

crochety · 03/05/2025 14:11

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 13:24

"The Declaration on Women's Sex-Based Rights" says otherwise. "Elimination" is the word they use.

Quote the exact text of the Declaration where it says this. You may be surprised by what you find.

DragonRunor · 03/05/2025 14:07

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 13:55

Carry on shooting the messenger then, and wondering why seemingly reasonable people keep disagreeing with you, while all the rich egomaniacs love you.

Interestingly, in my experience, the SC ruling has made the topic more widely discussed, and I’ve been pleasantly surprised by how many people, quiet until now, are very strongly in favour of the decision.

Unfortunately, those who aren’t are generally wailing and sulking rather than thinking about how to legally address any issues they have. And some are sulking in a very loud and aggressive manner The scale of that pushback is quite disturbing for lots of people, and not for the reasons you suggest

WeeBisom · 03/05/2025 14:03

What's left me disheartened is the realisation that many people and organisations don't really think that women should have sex-based rights. We can have 'gender' based rights, so long as we are nice and share them with the men.

Annoyedone · 03/05/2025 14:02

He’s not the sharpest tool in the shed bless him. Mind you it does give me hope if this in the intellectual level of the TRA.

DragonRunor · 03/05/2025 14:00

teawamutu · 03/05/2025 13:49

He's been around for quite a while I think. Doggedly mansplaining that we're wrong, bigoted, evil, right wing shills and/or left wing atheists depending on the day etc etc etc.

Quite useful as a way to explain and demonstrate to the lurkers, though.

He’s been around a while, yet he still suggests the women on this board are Trump-adjacent far-righters???

My only conclusion is that he must have a very shallow learning curve

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 13:55

Circumferences · 03/05/2025 13:49

Because lawyers are never biased or politically motivated especially not human rights ones !!

Carry on shooting the messenger then, and wondering why seemingly reasonable people keep disagreeing with you, while all the rich egomaniacs love you.

Annoyedone · 03/05/2025 13:54

Circumferences · 03/05/2025 13:49

Because lawyers are never biased or politically motivated especially not human rights ones !!

Exactly. I mean. I can think of 4 off the top of my head who are not exactly err… unbiased in these matters. Bundles, foxes judges wigs and bobble hats spring to mind. I bet it was one of those.

teawamutu · 03/05/2025 13:51

teawamutu · 03/05/2025 13:49

He's been around for quite a while I think. Doggedly mansplaining that we're wrong, bigoted, evil, right wing shills and/or left wing atheists depending on the day etc etc etc.

Quite useful as a way to explain and demonstrate to the lurkers, though.

Also, like he ever actually asked before using the toilet. Not a damn chance.

teawamutu · 03/05/2025 13:49

DragonRunor · 03/05/2025 13:47

😂😂😂
You’re kind of new here, aren’t you!

Oh, and when the women in your choir say they’re happy for you to use the women’s toilet, just consider what would happen to them if they said no?

He's been around for quite a while I think. Doggedly mansplaining that we're wrong, bigoted, evil, right wing shills and/or left wing atheists depending on the day etc etc etc.

Quite useful as a way to explain and demonstrate to the lurkers, though.

Circumferences · 03/05/2025 13:49

Because lawyers are never biased or politically motivated especially not human rights ones !!

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 13:48

Annoyedone · 03/05/2025 13:41

So you’re saying that elimination is not what the declaration says but someone’s interpretation of it? Err…. Mate. Seriously.

The "someone" is a Human Rights lawyer. Read it, or don't - you're welcome to stay safe in your ignorance, but this thread is about you scratching your heads about why the whole country isn't joining in with your performative cruelty and victory laps.

Circumferences · 03/05/2025 13:47

I feel sorry for them.

DragonRunor · 03/05/2025 13:47

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 12:55

Nope. Women's spaces is the vehicle, trans elimination has been the stated goal of Gender Critical / TE rad fem thinking for decades. You only got out the fringes because religious conservatives saw you as useful fodder for their agenda.

😂😂😂
You’re kind of new here, aren’t you!

Oh, and when the women in your choir say they’re happy for you to use the women’s toilet, just consider what would happen to them if they said no?

JazzyJelly · 03/05/2025 13:44

crochety · 03/05/2025 12:43

Usual tactic of listing a bunch of objectionable men and then claiming we're somehow allied to them. Seen it all before, haven't you realised yet that this lazy rhetoric doesn't work?

Roles of misogyny so far in this thread, with this in particular being number 1:

Women are responsible for what men do.

Women saying no to men is a hate crime.

Men always know the “real reasons” for everything women do and say.

Women have all the rights they need: The right to remain silent.

Annoyedone · 03/05/2025 13:41

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 13:36

No. Google "an-international-human-rights-law-analysis-of-the-whrc-declaration"

"It becomes clear that what the Declaration is attempting to do is put forward a case for the elimination of ‘gender identity’ from human rights law, and it is then possible to extrapolate from that, that the document would happily see all legal protections removed from trans people. This is particularly clear when, following a misapplication of the Yogyakarta Principles definition, the Declaration states that “the concept of ‘gender identity’ has enabled men who claim a female ‘gender identity’ to assert, in law, policies, and practice, that they are members of the category of women, which is a category based upon sex.” "

So you’re saying that elimination is not what the declaration says but someone’s interpretation of it? Err…. Mate. Seriously.

Circumferences · 03/05/2025 13:41

Yeah they don't call for the elimination of trans people then do they

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 13:36

Annoyedone · 03/05/2025 13:28

Er…. Are you on glue? It states the elimination of discrimination against women and girls. Not calling for a whole scale cull of the trans community. So you can rest easy now.

No. Google "an-international-human-rights-law-analysis-of-the-whrc-declaration"

"It becomes clear that what the Declaration is attempting to do is put forward a case for the elimination of ‘gender identity’ from human rights law, and it is then possible to extrapolate from that, that the document would happily see all legal protections removed from trans people. This is particularly clear when, following a misapplication of the Yogyakarta Principles definition, the Declaration states that “the concept of ‘gender identity’ has enabled men who claim a female ‘gender identity’ to assert, in law, policies, and practice, that they are members of the category of women, which is a category based upon sex.” "

NoBinturongsHereMate · 03/05/2025 13:30

Any chance we could call Bunbury and get back to sensible discussion with the sane posters?

PriOn1 · 03/05/2025 13:28

Also, OP, as you can see from this thread, those fighting us are loud, aggressive and often unhinged. The powers that be cower before these men. I wish they’d stop, but it is understandable. Unlike many of the women on this board, they’re not used to being targeted by narcissists.

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