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Does anyone else feel disheartened?

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ItsCoolForCats · 01/05/2025 17:32

I was so elated at the ruling and the implications for women's sex-based protections.

And I am happy that certain media outlets have realised (begrudgingly in some cases) that refusing to air the concerns of women over the last decade has lead to a very one-sided debate. It's great to see orgs such as Sex Matters being quoted so extensively now.

However, I'm really disheartened by the sheer scale of the push back and by the fact that so many women don't support the ruling. I mean, why would anyone think that women don't deserve fair and safe sporting opportunities, for example? Why is it always women that are expected to forgo their rights?

The Supreme Court ruling should be definitive, but it doesn't feel like the end. There is the judge bringing the case to the ECHR (I know some legal experts have dismissed any chances of success), but I think activists are going to pile a lot of pressure on the government to make concessions and look at amending the law. The disquiet about the ruling amongst so many Labour MPs about the ruling is concerning me.

Is anyone else feeling a bit dejected?

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AmaryllisNightAndDay · 03/05/2025 15:40

ArabellaScott · 03/05/2025 15:05

https://www.womensdeclaration.com/en/declaration-womens-sex-based-rights-full-text/

'Article 7 of the CEDAW affirms the importance of measures to eliminate discrimination against women in political and public life'

That's the only instance of 'eliminate' I could find.

Dammit, now I've got an earworm

You've got to ac-cent-tu-ate the positive
E-lim-i-nate the negative
Latch on to the affirmative
Don't mess with Mr. In-Between

Seethlaw · 03/05/2025 15:39

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 15:01

It didn't take too long to unravel. This person does not know us or our community at all. He's got the same misconception of what "self ID" is that you all have. What he claims as "inevitable" doesn't even make sense. No bills passed. What "circus"?

"I am sincerely very sorry that the trans rights movement has been co-opted by aggressive MRA's."
It was inevitable. Once you had the GRA in place, with the GRC being given to pretty much anyone who wants it, it was inevitable that self-ID would follow and from there, well, the whole circus that's happened. I've never been so thankful that my country is not as woke, and that there's still a legal barrier to getting one's official sex marker changed (it's not that hard to get over it, but you have to want it).
"I still think about the people with gender dysphoria and about how much harm has been done to them by people who claimed to speak for them."
They don't count, or barely. Anyone who insists on gender dysphoria being linked to trans identity is vilified in the community. Just like trans men, people with gender dysphoria are only trotted out when useful in an argument, nothing more.

Edited

I've been trans for 13 years.

I was in the community for years.

But THANK YOU so very much for demonstrating that you do NOT speak for all trans people, and that you exclude anyone within the trans "community" who doesn't follow the party line. That was brilliant! I couldn't have hoped for a more blatant example.

WithSilverBells · 03/05/2025 15:38

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 15:29

Those are very interesting and valid questions, suggesting honest curiosity, and which I'm not going to touch with a stick here. Messages are open though.

Good luck, anyone going in. Give us a shout when you need a break for Tunnocks and we'll haul you out

Seethlaw · 03/05/2025 15:35

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 13:24

"The Declaration on Women's Sex-Based Rights" says otherwise. "Elimination" is the word they use.

You're lying. I went looking for that Declaration, and I searched for the word "elimination". It appears 13 times. The only time it's related to trans people is in the following paragraph:

"This should include the elimination of that act and practice of discrimination against women which comprises the inclusion of men who claim to have a female ‘gender identity’ in the category of women. Such inclusion erodes women’s rights to safety, dignity and equality."

This is not calling for the elimination of trans people as you said in a previous comment: " trans elimination has been the stated goal of Gender Critical / TE rad fem thinking for decades"

You're a big liar who lies.

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 15:34

teawamutu · 03/05/2025 15:30

Getting the TRA bingo card out. I think we've had quite a few already. Does 'elimination' count as 'literal violence' do we think?

And does anyone have the updated version with genocide, shadowy right wing/Trump etc?

I don't see "genocide" on there.

Does anyone else feel disheartened?
TheOtherRaven · 03/05/2025 15:30

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 15:29

Those are very interesting and valid questions, suggesting honest curiosity, and which I'm not going to touch with a stick here. Messages are open though.

yup.

teen mom wiping away tears GIF by Face The Truth
teawamutu · 03/05/2025 15:30

Getting the TRA bingo card out. I think we've had quite a few already. Does 'elimination' count as 'literal violence' do we think?

And does anyone have the updated version with genocide, shadowy right wing/Trump etc?

Does anyone else feel disheartened?
MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 15:29

WaterThyme · 03/05/2025 15:24

So, @MadBadDaddy when you said a few pages back that

[living as a woman is] the established treatment for Gender Dysphoria, and it's very effective

What did you mean? In what way could such treatment be undertaken by one man with gender dysphoria without any involvement of biological women as people who would be required to go along with and support your “treatment” regardless of their beliefs and its effect on them?

What does “living as a woman” mean?

Those are very interesting and valid questions, suggesting honest curiosity, and which I'm not going to touch with a stick here. Messages are open though.

TheOtherRaven · 03/05/2025 15:28

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 15:24

Women will continue to be raped, assaulted, harassed and stripsearched by men, no matter how hard you grind trans people into the dirt.

Doing the rounds on Twitter at the moment - "Why would a rapist pretend to be trans in a society that treats rapists better than trans women?"

The SC ruling has enabled even closer scrutiny of women's bodies, as the witch-hunt gets into gear. It's like Section 28 all over again, when The Sun ran "how to spot a poofter" articles.

The SC ruling has not made anyone safer.

Hon, the evidence and the court cases for what happened to women by trans identified men is in the public domain.

So basically yes, you're saying you're fine with that for women.

Nuff said.

<Hands out another male supremacism sticker>

borntobequiet · 03/05/2025 15:27

RanchRat · 03/05/2025 15:22

So full of hate, GC 'feminists' will not be satisfied until they have driven the tiny trans community into the ground. Then where will all the hate go? I dread to think who will next be in your sights.

We plan to hate on little kittens and bunny rabbits, of course. Once we have “ground all trans people into the dirt”.

WaterThyme · 03/05/2025 15:24

So, @MadBadDaddy when you said a few pages back that

[living as a woman is] the established treatment for Gender Dysphoria, and it's very effective

What did you mean? In what way could such treatment be undertaken by one man with gender dysphoria without any involvement of biological women as people who would be required to go along with and support your “treatment” regardless of their beliefs and its effect on them?

What does “living as a woman” mean?

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 15:24

TheOtherRaven · 03/05/2025 15:13

So you'd like this SC judgment to just.... magically disappear, for women's existing legal protections to be destroyed, and to pop back to women being raped, assaulted, harassed, strip searched by men, made to undress in front of men, lose all access to resources if they cannot use a mixed sex provision including help with rapes or escaping a life threatening relationship, yada yada

You were all good with that?

Women will continue to be raped, assaulted, harassed and stripsearched by men, no matter how hard you grind trans people into the dirt.

Doing the rounds on Twitter at the moment - "Why would a rapist pretend to be trans in a society that treats rapists better than trans women?"

The SC ruling has enabled even closer scrutiny of women's bodies, as the witch-hunt gets into gear. It's like Section 28 all over again, when The Sun ran "how to spot a poofter" articles.

The SC ruling has not made anyone safer.

RanchRat · 03/05/2025 15:22

So full of hate, GC 'feminists' will not be satisfied until they have driven the tiny trans community into the ground. Then where will all the hate go? I dread to think who will next be in your sights.

PrettyDamnCosmic · 03/05/2025 15:17

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 15:01

It didn't take too long to unravel. This person does not know us or our community at all. He's got the same misconception of what "self ID" is that you all have. What he claims as "inevitable" doesn't even make sense. No bills passed. What "circus"?

"I am sincerely very sorry that the trans rights movement has been co-opted by aggressive MRA's."
It was inevitable. Once you had the GRA in place, with the GRC being given to pretty much anyone who wants it, it was inevitable that self-ID would follow and from there, well, the whole circus that's happened. I've never been so thankful that my country is not as woke, and that there's still a legal barrier to getting one's official sex marker changed (it's not that hard to get over it, but you have to want it).
"I still think about the people with gender dysphoria and about how much harm has been done to them by people who claimed to speak for them."
They don't count, or barely. Anyone who insists on gender dysphoria being linked to trans identity is vilified in the community. Just like trans men, people with gender dysphoria are only trotted out when useful in an argument, nothing more.

Edited

Nobody much wanted a GRC. In over twenty years only just under 8,500 have been issued. It would be interesting to know how many have been issued to males & how many to females.

TheOtherRaven · 03/05/2025 15:13

So you'd like this SC judgment to just.... magically disappear, for women's existing legal protections to be destroyed, and to pop back to women being raped, assaulted, harassed, strip searched by men, made to undress in front of men, lose all access to resources if they cannot use a mixed sex provision including help with rapes or escaping a life threatening relationship, yada yada

You were all good with that?

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 15:07

borntobequiet · 03/05/2025 15:03

The teeth are out and the blood is up.

Goodness. How frightfully hyperbolic.

the irony

ArabellaScott · 03/05/2025 15:05

crochety · 03/05/2025 14:11

Quote the exact text of the Declaration where it says this. You may be surprised by what you find.

https://www.womensdeclaration.com/en/declaration-womens-sex-based-rights-full-text/

'Article 7 of the CEDAW affirms the importance of measures to eliminate discrimination against women in political and public life'

That's the only instance of 'eliminate' I could find.

Declaration on Women's Sex-Based Rights

Declaration on Women's Sex-Based Rights: Full Text - Women's Declaration International

The Declaration on Women's Sex-Based Rights

https://www.womensdeclaration.com/en/declaration-womens-sex-based-rights-full-text/

borntobequiet · 03/05/2025 15:03

The teeth are out and the blood is up.

Goodness. How frightfully hyperbolic.

Annoyedone · 03/05/2025 15:02

So are you saying that person is not trans? Why? Because he doesn’t agree with you?

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 15:01

PriOn1 · 03/05/2025 14:37

Nobody here is anti-trans. It may be that you are simply misogynistic, paranoid and desperate to remove our rights.

Read this thread and see.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5326486-thank-you-from-a-trans-lurker

Edited

It didn't take too long to unravel. This person does not know us or our community at all. He's got the same misconception of what "self ID" is that you all have. What he claims as "inevitable" doesn't even make sense. No bills passed. What "circus"?

"I am sincerely very sorry that the trans rights movement has been co-opted by aggressive MRA's."
It was inevitable. Once you had the GRA in place, with the GRC being given to pretty much anyone who wants it, it was inevitable that self-ID would follow and from there, well, the whole circus that's happened. I've never been so thankful that my country is not as woke, and that there's still a legal barrier to getting one's official sex marker changed (it's not that hard to get over it, but you have to want it).
"I still think about the people with gender dysphoria and about how much harm has been done to them by people who claimed to speak for them."
They don't count, or barely. Anyone who insists on gender dysphoria being linked to trans identity is vilified in the community. Just like trans men, people with gender dysphoria are only trotted out when useful in an argument, nothing more.

TheOtherRaven · 03/05/2025 14:52

Did you know, women can have their existing legal protections enforced and not suffer all the hells of men in their spaces, and not one single man will vanish in a puff of smoke as a result. Not one.

Isn't that nice?

Annoyedone · 03/05/2025 14:46

Hold on, I thought we were leftie atheists? @MadBadDaddy are we back to being religious conservatives now? I’m having an identity crisis here.

ArabellaScott · 03/05/2025 14:44

MadBadDaddy · 03/05/2025 12:55

Nope. Women's spaces is the vehicle, trans elimination has been the stated goal of Gender Critical / TE rad fem thinking for decades. You only got out the fringes because religious conservatives saw you as useful fodder for their agenda.

Well done for trying to mansplain feminism to me, but you're talking absolute havers, pal.

PriOn1 · 03/05/2025 14:40

Annoyedone · 03/05/2025 14:37

Well if you hate it that much and it’s such an awful site, why are you here? I avoid Reddit because of the sexism, misogyny and pure hatred of women, but I accept that is what that site is like. Why would I upset myself by going on there?

The difference being that you’d probably be removed from Reddit. Because this site, for all its rules, is actually fair and allows discussion from both sides.

Annoyedone · 03/05/2025 14:37

Well if you hate it that much and it’s such an awful site, why are you here? I avoid Reddit because of the sexism, misogyny and pure hatred of women, but I accept that is what that site is like. Why would I upset myself by going on there?