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Girl guides are not safe. Parents beware!

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HelenaTranscart · 25/04/2025 15:38

From James Esses:

A whistleblower from
@Girlguiding
has been in touch. Volunteers have been instructed that, irrespective of the Supreme Court judgement, boys who identify as girls can use female camp rooms and toilets. Worse still, parents must not be told.

This is a safeguarding nightmare.

https://x.com/JamesEsses/status/1915689045356654904

https://x.com/JamesEsses/status/1915689045356654904

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GoBackToTheStart · 25/04/2025 18:54

FedUpandEatingChocolate · 25/04/2025 18:31

Honestly, I'd much rather my daughters embraced a trans child into the GG unit than me fired up about this ridiculous non-issue. I'll continue supporting my girls on their guiding journey.

There are a whole generation of trans people who are now terrified, why are we allowing this horrific level of discrimination and hate speech.

Nothing stopping them embracing a female child that identifies as a transboy then. Still doesn’t mean males need to be allowed in.

IdaGlossop · 25/04/2025 18:52

FedUpandEatingChocolate · 25/04/2025 18:31

Honestly, I'd much rather my daughters embraced a trans child into the GG unit than me fired up about this ridiculous non-issue. I'll continue supporting my girls on their guiding journey.

There are a whole generation of trans people who are now terrified, why are we allowing this horrific level of discrimination and hate speech.

It is possible to want female-only spaces and organisations to a remain spaces and organisations for people who are biologically female, at the same time as respecting trans people. There are 250,000+ trans-identifying people in the UK. Half the population is female. Re-engineering the whole of society to meet the needs of the trans minority, as advocated by Stonewall, is a nonsensical as replacing steps with ramps and stairs with lifts in every public building in the land because some people are wheelchair users.

Datun · 25/04/2025 18:52

FedUpandEatingChocolate · 25/04/2025 18:31

Honestly, I'd much rather my daughters embraced a trans child into the GG unit than me fired up about this ridiculous non-issue. I'll continue supporting my girls on their guiding journey.

There are a whole generation of trans people who are now terrified, why are we allowing this horrific level of discrimination and hate speech.

Ah but are your daughters teenage boys? And if not, how do you know??

Sounds a bit bigoted to me.

And FYI, tooo late, mate.

Waitwhat23 · 25/04/2025 18:48

FedUpandEatingChocolate · 25/04/2025 18:31

Honestly, I'd much rather my daughters embraced a trans child into the GG unit than me fired up about this ridiculous non-issue. I'll continue supporting my girls on their guiding journey.

There are a whole generation of trans people who are now terrified, why are we allowing this horrific level of discrimination and hate speech.

I'm not sure 'never mind the lassies, let's pander to the laddies!' is quite the winning point you think it is.

LittleBigHead · 25/04/2025 18:37

There are a whole generation of trans people who are now terrified, why are we allowing this horrific level of discrimination and hate speech.

Whaaaaaa? All the Supreme Court did was to clarify existing law.

And have some empathy for girls and women who live with male violence All.The.Time

PS Transwomen commit crime at about the same rate as men. Because they are men.

LittleBigHead · 25/04/2025 18:34

are continuing with their inclusive policies (which are a safeguarding nightmare).

"Inclusive" policies which actually exclude girls and women ....

FedUpandEatingChocolate · 25/04/2025 18:31

Honestly, I'd much rather my daughters embraced a trans child into the GG unit than me fired up about this ridiculous non-issue. I'll continue supporting my girls on their guiding journey.

There are a whole generation of trans people who are now terrified, why are we allowing this horrific level of discrimination and hate speech.

IdaGlossop · 25/04/2025 18:30

bigknitblanket · 25/04/2025 18:15

Yeah, and sod the girl’s need for privacy!

A bit tricky for girls from Muslim families on camping trips. Effectively, Muslim girls are excluded. Very inclusive.

ladymalfoy45 · 25/04/2025 18:28

@Wtfppl no. We don't have them.

Wtfppl · 25/04/2025 18:24

You’re all bloody nuts

moto748e · 25/04/2025 18:21

But before, they could claim they were complying with the law as they (mis)understood it.

Now, they will be openly breaking the law.

There must be quite a few organisations in that particular fork.

Motheranddaughter · 25/04/2025 18:20

I quit as a Guider after the policy came in
Taking teenage girls to camp is hard enough without allowing boys to come
And when they said we couldn’t tell the parents,then that was it for me. (After 25 years)
I actually can well believe they will try to continue despite the SC case

OverpricedCupcake · 25/04/2025 18:20

GCornotGCthatisthequestion · 25/04/2025 15:50

I would take things like this with a pinch of salt. There are a lot of people who like to create outrage.

"This never happens"
Yet it absolutely does happen, all too often.

LeftieRightsHoarder · 25/04/2025 18:18

LonginesPrime · 25/04/2025 16:09

Girl guides are not safe. Parents beware!

This has been the case for several years already though.

I get that you’re referring to their new decision to continue as they were, but your title implies a change of position, when there hasn’t been one.

Girl guides are no less safe today than they were before the SC ruling, as boys were already sleeping in girls’ tents with them without parents’ knowledge, as I understand it.

But before, they could claim they were complying with the law as they (mis)understood it.

Now, they will be openly breaking the law. I hope police are as eager to clamp down on that as they have been to punish misgendering.

bigknitblanket · 25/04/2025 18:15

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 25/04/2025 15:53

That is official girl guide policy as it breeches the trans persons right to privacy.

Yeah, and sod the girl’s need for privacy!

moto748e · 25/04/2025 18:13

Treeleaf11 · 25/04/2025 17:00

Who is going to enforce what the SC have said? Seems to me that a lot of organisations will ignore it. Surely it cant be up to individuals to take them to court one by one.

A good question. And one that might well be put to the Prime Minister.

Annascaul · 25/04/2025 18:11

LonginesPrime · 25/04/2025 16:09

Girl guides are not safe. Parents beware!

This has been the case for several years already though.

I get that you’re referring to their new decision to continue as they were, but your title implies a change of position, when there hasn’t been one.

Girl guides are no less safe today than they were before the SC ruling, as boys were already sleeping in girls’ tents with them without parents’ knowledge, as I understand it.

Previously they may have erroneously believed they were following the law (being generous).
It’s far more sinister that they will now be openly defying it.

Waitwhat23 · 25/04/2025 18:10

GCornotGCthatisthequestion · 25/04/2025 15:50

I would take things like this with a pinch of salt. There are a lot of people who like to create outrage.

I must have dreamed the apology Girl Guiding had to make to Katie Alcock about this very thing.

Oh, wait...

TheOtherRaven · 25/04/2025 18:06

It's important not to enable the nice political figleaf over the top of all this by using the 'inclusive' word that makes it sound like something nice and positive and right.

This is quite simply putting the wishes and desires of male people and politics above the best interests and even the basic safety of girls. And being dishonest to avoid parents being able to safeguard or remove their daughters from being so used. It is perfectly happy to exclude any girls and families of diverse politics, cultures, beliefs and thoughts who cannot or will not obey the gender politics. There is nothing 'inclusive' about it.

Gundogday · 25/04/2025 18:06

IdaGlossop · 25/04/2025 17:54

'As a girl-only organisation with a trans inclusive policy'; so not a girls-only organisation at all.

Exactly!

IdaGlossop · 25/04/2025 18:05

leafinthewind · 25/04/2025 17:55

Anecdotally, it sounds like it's more likely to come up in Scouting than Guiding. I'm a leader for ages 10-17 and among, say, 16-24 year olds, it's not at all unusual to meet people who are gender non-confirming with brightly coloured hair, pronoun badges and 'known as' names.

These young people quite often seem to be autistic - they have non-typical affects and seem to thrive on side-by-side social interactions which follow a set of formal rules. Scouting is very welcoming and it's home for them.

Scout safeguarding rules generally keep things on an even keel. Adults aged 18+ must follow adult rules in their interactions with children. Everyone must be offered privacy to change, but mixed-sex tents are permitted if appropriately risk-assessed. In reality, it would be a cold day in hell before any of the groups I'm with allowed mixed-sex tents.

I have, however, run into problems with showers and washrooms; only theoretically, I hasten to add, and not in practice. For example, I've received instructions that leaders should let kids know which washroom they should use - rather than stipulating single-sex washrooms. I asked for clarification but received no reply. I like Scouting, and nothing untoward happened, so I didn't push it. It doesn't feel fantastic, though. And with the SC judgement, I'd be more inclined to try again to get a response.

Thank-you for this informative post. It's such a complex area. Your account alone shows the idiocy of the government response about clarity from the Supreme court judgement. There are going to be years of discussion, debate, drafting, and redrafting. Meanwhile, the minority of children confused about their gender identity will continue to struggle, and the minority of adults who have transitioned or who are living as the sex different to the one they were born with will continue to feel discriminated against.

leafinthewind · 25/04/2025 17:55

IdaGlossop · 25/04/2025 17:29

It's good that no trans girl or woman has wanted to join, but it shows that developing a trans policy was performative - and an attempt to 'Be prepared'. I see the scouts have been captured too.

Anecdotally, it sounds like it's more likely to come up in Scouting than Guiding. I'm a leader for ages 10-17 and among, say, 16-24 year olds, it's not at all unusual to meet people who are gender non-confirming with brightly coloured hair, pronoun badges and 'known as' names.

These young people quite often seem to be autistic - they have non-typical affects and seem to thrive on side-by-side social interactions which follow a set of formal rules. Scouting is very welcoming and it's home for them.

Scout safeguarding rules generally keep things on an even keel. Adults aged 18+ must follow adult rules in their interactions with children. Everyone must be offered privacy to change, but mixed-sex tents are permitted if appropriately risk-assessed. In reality, it would be a cold day in hell before any of the groups I'm with allowed mixed-sex tents.

I have, however, run into problems with showers and washrooms; only theoretically, I hasten to add, and not in practice. For example, I've received instructions that leaders should let kids know which washroom they should use - rather than stipulating single-sex washrooms. I asked for clarification but received no reply. I like Scouting, and nothing untoward happened, so I didn't push it. It doesn't feel fantastic, though. And with the SC judgement, I'd be more inclined to try again to get a response.

IdaGlossop · 25/04/2025 17:54

Gundogday · 25/04/2025 17:31

Its takes a lot of clicking on links, but see below.

@IdaGlossop

Edited

'As a girl-only organisation with a trans inclusive policy'; so not a girls-only organisation at all.

Datun · 25/04/2025 17:51

Sulley was a signatory to a letter to London Pride organised by Aimee Challenor, condemning the protests by lesbians during the Pride march in 2018

Aimee Challenor who married a paedophile and whose father was jailed for a good few decades for torturing and raping a child in the Challoner family home. Edited to add that, iirc, challoner also claimed to have input in the girl guide policy

There's a reason why women like to send their daughters to single sex organisations.

LostMySocks · 25/04/2025 17:42

ErrolTheDragon · 25/04/2025 17:35

While your group may not have had any join, there’s certainly been at least on one TW in a senior leadership position - don’t know if still in post or not, as the piece says it’s not a post open to men.

https://whatisawoman.uk/MonicaSulley/

Fortunately he 'resigned'.
Was a very dodgy character also involved in Scouts. Not someone you'd want anywhere near young people.
Not heard anything recently.
There was a recent piece about a Rainbow (4 to 7 year old)....But recently they seem to have dialled down on it a bit. I was pleased to see that the recent Pride merch mostly avoided the progress flag and had returned to the original one.