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Get the violins out - Stonewall is "in crisis"

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IwantToRetire · 24/04/2025 02:17

Our biggest LGBT charity is in crisis. Are we just going to let it collapse? LGBT people need armour; an organisation like Stonewall to act as a first line of defence

Stonewall, Britain’s largest LGBT organisation, is in crisis. It’s plummeting financially, with rounds of redundancies as funding cuts hit. And its credibility and influence is plunging amid a national and global backlash against LGBT rights.

This matters. If someone asked you to name the first LGBT organisation that comes to mind, I would bet my cat you’d say Stonewall. Since it was founded more than 35 years ago, the charity has become entwined in our country’s psyche, Parliament, schools, sporting and business sectors. But for how much longer?

However you feel about Stonewall, we need a conversation about the state of the biggest charity defending LGBT people. And we need to ask ourselves a question as the opponents of all kinds of human rights lie in wait: are we just going to let it die?
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To highlight one recent example of Stonewall’s seemingly waning influence, I asked the Government several times recently whether it has consulted with Stonewall over a proposed ban on conversion therapy since taking office. A spokesperson from the Cabinet Office declined to confirm whether it has even had any meetings with the charity about it, instead offering vaguely: “We will engage further with a broad range of stakeholders.” I asked Stonewall three times, but they did not provide a response.

Perhaps both sides are being coy or don’t want the public to know that they’ve met. But either way, this is as bizarre as it is concerning. Stonewall was once the charity that lobbied every MP in the country to help pass the same-sex marriage law in 2013. Now, it is unclear whether they’ve even had a meeting with the new Government over the psychological torture of LGBT people
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Should it die, many will dance on Stonewall’s grave. But then many would happily see the rights of LGBT people revoked too – thereby exposing how much a strong, influential organisation for this community is still needed.

If you think it should return to only representing lesbian, bisexual and gay people, then you’re ignoring not only the plight of trans people but also how intertwined all these rights are and how many government’s incarcerate people for laws that oppress every letter in the acronym – or pass laws like the Equality Act that protect everyone (until that is chipped away).
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Complete article at https://inews.co.uk/opinion/biggest-lgbt-charity-crisis-stonewall-3645337
Can also be read in full at https://archive.is/yGTYs

(If LGB people can set up their own Alliance, why cant trans people do the same?)

Our biggest LGBT charity is in crisis. Are we just going to let it collapse?

LGBT people need armour; an organisation like Stonewall to act as a first line of defence

https://inews.co.uk/opinion/biggest-lgbt-charity-crisis-stonewall-3645337

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SerafinasGoose · 24/04/2025 13:18

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 24/04/2025 12:40

I think we need to be very wary going forward about any other ideologies that we are told to unquestionably accept, ones that appear to get disproportionate support from the same institutions as the trans ideology. We need to look out for the same markers - only one acceptable view point, vilification by MSM/SM - esp left wing for not following the narrative, cancellations, police/court involvement for speaking common sense but being labelled “hate”. Being told to “be kind”. Yet all the while having an undercurrent of misogyny.

The above are the materials of a Trojan horse, the one painted pink and blue was identified as such in the nick of time but not after many had been sacrificed.

But the patriarchal institutions have the design now, we need to be more ready next time.

This is far as I've ever gone in dealing with questions to this end from students.

I don't give a view. I merely show them material they might want to read, and tell them to come to their own, independent and informed conclusions (which shouted/Tweeted slogans will never be able to provide). When asked for my actual opinion on the issue, I merely ask 'does it matter?', and bat the question back to this being about their own education - I have already been through mine.

What I do tell them, albeit I stop short of elaborating further, is that a belief system - any belief system - without room for debate or questioning is a very dangerous thing.

Zimunya · 24/04/2025 13:17

Floisme · 24/04/2025 06:25

So they want a conversation now, do they?

Indeed. What happened to the oft repeated "No debate" rhetoric?

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 24/04/2025 13:17

WarriorN · 24/04/2025 06:30

Stonwall et al achieved significant results after gay marriage was legalised and the trans grift was the next money spinner.

This has been like a rug pulled out from underneath them.

Pride before a fall, literally.

When same-sex marriage was legalised, that was the last LGB civil rights battle won. Stonewall needed a new purpose to keep paying all those C-suite people their eyewatering salaries and so they pivoted to trans demands.

SerafinasGoose · 24/04/2025 13:15

mrshoho · 24/04/2025 12:22

Too right. But past and present Governments should also be held to account. How did Stonewall come to yield so much power and be given free rein no matter how much batshit they demanded? Organisations and public bodies quietly began to remove links to Stonewall over the last few years so they knew this was coming but still they were given public funding. One of the worst and largest organisations has been the NHS. I can't imagine costs that have been incurred by the NHS in prioritising such nonsense and the costs that will now come in reversing these policies.

Indeed, and education runs them a close second.

I'd also be very interested to hear the answer to this question. How in the world did these trans-activist organisations come to gain such a stranglehold over the UK's main public sector institutions, certain sectors of the judiciary, and main political parties? How did they manage to do this by stealth, before those harmed by their constant assaults on the rights of women and children shone sunlight on their actions and were ignored and persectued for ten long years and more?

How were Stonewall and Mermaids able to peddle lies as being actual law, dress those lies up as 'training', and encroach into people's workspaces to brow beat them into compliance with the law as they wished it to be, rather than as it actually was? Why was attendance enforced under pain of potential disciplinary action? Why were rainbow lanyards and pronouns in signatures used to 'police' potential non-compliance?

So many 'whys'. I don't know how we will ever receive answers, but I don't think we should rest until some are forthcoming. The NHS nurses/changing facilities cases and Sarah Summers case might help provide some. Another thing I suspect is coming over the horizon is a mass legal action, in the wake of the Cass Report, against those involved with the Tavistock - individual liability now they've closed it to avoid potential corporate negligece - and its medical transitioning of children without question and without proper safeguarding procedures. Why this isn't already a national scandal is testimony to the amount of power Stonewall, Mermaids et al have wielded for the past decade.

How?

Who backed them, who swallowed and force-fed others their doublethink, who enabled them, and who turned a blind eye to the harm they were so obviously doing?

I really, really want heads to roll for this.

MarieDeGournay · 24/04/2025 13:00

I'm delighted to see so many donations to LGBA, and to tell you the truth I was a bit apprehensive that I might have overstepped and people might say 'Huh, who does she think she is, speaking for MN..' so I was relieved to see 11 'likes', and so many donations - phew.

It wasn't my idea originally it was MariadeiMiracoli's.
Great username, and you've performed your own little miracolo for LGBA's finances, brava!Smile

crackedpaint · 24/04/2025 12:55

Total overreach from stonewall in the first place. They were becoming obsolete after the many wins for gay rights which were admirable but once a charity achieves its aims it will either massively shrink, close or find a new cause which will keep the money rolling in. They choose to focus on trans rights and whipped up a frenzy of demands from men in particular who wanted to be accepted as women, in women's spaces regardless of irrespective of their motivation or whether they had surgery, taking medication and so on. It kept the charity relevant and provided them with donations and other lucrative income streams like providing all that erroneous guidance to institutions and companies. They should be sued into non-existence.

I've worked in the charity sector and sadly many charities are grifts, they may lobby and provide leaflets and such but there is more concern about raising money to keep their offices and to be able to pay their wages and the wages of their executives than anything else.

Wishing14 · 24/04/2025 12:51

I see many Stonewall employees are ‘open to work’ on LinkedIn

EasternStandard · 24/04/2025 12:50

I was feeling good about the SC ruling but seeing that two year old ‘trans’ info has made me angry again.

It’s not over yet and it seems the scandal is so wide-ranging the people who should be taken through courts won’t be.

HollieHock · 24/04/2025 12:49

Delicious.

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 24/04/2025 12:40

floormops · 24/04/2025 12:29

The way stonewall and their flying monkeys have managed to convince so many people that 2 year old children know they are trans and TWAW is really sinister. One of my DC is highly intelligent and autistic. Straight A* student all the way through school. Utterly convinced by this nonsense. After a brief period of identifying as bisexual, DC is in a heterosexual relationship for now and seems happy. (I wouldn't care if DC was Gay or Bi either, but the trans ideology scares me - it causes so much damage).

I think we need to be very wary going forward about any other ideologies that we are told to unquestionably accept, ones that appear to get disproportionate support from the same institutions as the trans ideology. We need to look out for the same markers - only one acceptable view point, vilification by MSM/SM - esp left wing for not following the narrative, cancellations, police/court involvement for speaking common sense but being labelled “hate”. Being told to “be kind”. Yet all the while having an undercurrent of misogyny.

The above are the materials of a Trojan horse, the one painted pink and blue was identified as such in the nick of time but not after many had been sacrificed.

But the patriarchal institutions have the design now, we need to be more ready next time.

quantumbutterfly · 24/04/2025 12:39

My violin feels mis-identified, I think it might be a lyre.

Grammarnut · 24/04/2025 12:36

I haven't got a violin. Not sure the unusual musical instrument without strings will make much noise. So sad.😂 Perhaps they should have remembered that gays, lesbians and bi people are attracted to sex, not a gender recognition certificate.

Whereismyjoiedevivre · 24/04/2025 12:36

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 24/04/2025 12:17

After seeing posts here on all the great work that Sex Matters does I set up a monthly donation.

I have just sent a donation to lGB alliance - a thank you for all the work they do. Sadly, we still need great champions for LGB rights - I am happy to be an ally to this great cause (I would never support the misogynistic and sometime anti gay corporate and political manipulators Stonewall have become). Well done LGB Alliance for fighting for what’s right.

I’m going to do the same for Sex Matters. Great idea.

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 24/04/2025 12:29

mrshoho · 24/04/2025 12:22

Too right. But past and present Governments should also be held to account. How did Stonewall come to yield so much power and be given free rein no matter how much batshit they demanded? Organisations and public bodies quietly began to remove links to Stonewall over the last few years so they knew this was coming but still they were given public funding. One of the worst and largest organisations has been the NHS. I can't imagine costs that have been incurred by the NHS in prioritising such nonsense and the costs that will now come in reversing these policies.

I wonder if this information is available under a freedom of information request? If so, and was based on Stonewall advice, what’s the chance of recouping some of those costs?

floormops · 24/04/2025 12:29

The way stonewall and their flying monkeys have managed to convince so many people that 2 year old children know they are trans and TWAW is really sinister. One of my DC is highly intelligent and autistic. Straight A* student all the way through school. Utterly convinced by this nonsense. After a brief period of identifying as bisexual, DC is in a heterosexual relationship for now and seems happy. (I wouldn't care if DC was Gay or Bi either, but the trans ideology scares me - it causes so much damage).

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 24/04/2025 12:26

Whereismyjoiedevivre · 24/04/2025 11:56

Yes. Couldn’t agree more. Makes my blood boil to think how far they misled many young vulnerable children not to mention their interference in public tax funded institutions.

I wonder if they might be sued?

Here’s hoping! I wonder if we will start to see mention of Stonewall disappearing from corporate noticeboards and websites as companies seek to distance themselves now they are being shown up as the wolf in sheep’s clothing - maybe LGBA will be getting some corporate funding come their way if companies want accurate advice about how to be inclusive.

Whatareyouon · 24/04/2025 12:26

Here’s mine

Get the violins out - Stonewall is "in crisis"
anyolddinosaur · 24/04/2025 12:25

🎻LGB Alliance exists and there are a multitude of trans charities that can step in to replace Stonewall's all-about-the-trans advocacy, they just have to get behind one as their leader.

bridgetreilly · 24/04/2025 12:23

Here’s an idea: LGB people need a better alliance than Stonewall.

Tomatotater · 24/04/2025 12:23

WitchesofPainswick · 24/04/2025 10:47

Stonewall were great with their campaigns for gay rights and marriage. But they did what they needed to do. Then they hung on, and hunted about for new causes. Which was a disaster.

It's like being sad that a Suffragists' charity is going under. Their core work is long done.

The sad thing is, their work wasn't done. They could have campaigned for the rights of gay people in other countries, against regressive regimes, ensured the safety of gay people going abroad, highlighted the rolling back of gay rights in parts of Europe, campaigned against the shedloads of sports cash and publicity going to homophobic regimes in the ME. Instead they decided to shit on women.

mrshoho · 24/04/2025 12:22

EasternStandard · 24/04/2025 11:45

What a scandal. We should be doing more than shutting them down.

Too right. But past and present Governments should also be held to account. How did Stonewall come to yield so much power and be given free rein no matter how much batshit they demanded? Organisations and public bodies quietly began to remove links to Stonewall over the last few years so they knew this was coming but still they were given public funding. One of the worst and largest organisations has been the NHS. I can't imagine costs that have been incurred by the NHS in prioritising such nonsense and the costs that will now come in reversing these policies.

NeedToChangeName · 24/04/2025 12:21

MarieDeGournay · 24/04/2025 11:54

I've just donated AND I sent an email to LGBA so they know where the donations are coming from and why.

I hope this is OK with everyone, obviously not everyone on here is going to want to support/donate to LGBA but a good few have expressed support for them.

Here's the email I sent:
Hi I've just made a donation of £25 to you via PayPal.
I'm emailing you to let you know that I made the donation at the suggestion of a poster on the Feminism: Sex and gender discussions discussion board on Mumsnet.
We were discussing the situation at Stonewall and several posters commented that the LGB Alliance were doing the work that we used to admire Stonewall for doing, and somebody suggested backing that up with donations.

So if you see an uptick in donations, it's not random, it's an expression of support from this corner of Mumsnet

Thank you for your important work,
regards,

Great idea. I've also donated and sent a similar email using your wording

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 24/04/2025 12:17

MarieDeGournay · 24/04/2025 11:37

Thank you for this great suggestion. There's a bit of a tradition building up here of targeted donations by MNers, which have made a financial impact but also an emotional one - I know Sex Matters were ..sorry I can only think of the word 'touched' which is a bit twee, but you know what I mean - by our donations to honour the work of the legal team supporting Sandie Peggie.

It's important to let the organisation know that a sudden uptick in donations isn't just random, it's from usSmile

After seeing posts here on all the great work that Sex Matters does I set up a monthly donation.

I have just sent a donation to lGB alliance - a thank you for all the work they do. Sadly, we still need great champions for LGB rights - I am happy to be an ally to this great cause (I would never support the misogynistic and sometime anti gay corporate and political manipulators Stonewall have become). Well done LGB Alliance for fighting for what’s right.

VickyEadieofThigh · 24/04/2025 12:16

MarieDeGournay · 24/04/2025 11:54

I've just donated AND I sent an email to LGBA so they know where the donations are coming from and why.

I hope this is OK with everyone, obviously not everyone on here is going to want to support/donate to LGBA but a good few have expressed support for them.

Here's the email I sent:
Hi I've just made a donation of £25 to you via PayPal.
I'm emailing you to let you know that I made the donation at the suggestion of a poster on the Feminism: Sex and gender discussions discussion board on Mumsnet.
We were discussing the situation at Stonewall and several posters commented that the LGB Alliance were doing the work that we used to admire Stonewall for doing, and somebody suggested backing that up with donations.

So if you see an uptick in donations, it's not random, it's an expression of support from this corner of Mumsnet

Thank you for your important work,
regards,

I've just sent them £100.

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 24/04/2025 12:16

NeedToChangeName · 24/04/2025 07:49

Stonewall played an absolute blinder. How many other lobby groups have the savvy to frame themselves as expertsin the field, resulting in institutions falling over themselves to be accredited "on the good guys list" and paying ££ for the privilege?

And, there's a place for a pro trans organisation. For many, it must be v hard to be trans

But, Stonewall over reached, misleading society about the law and inciting hatred against people who disagreed

I said all along (quietly) that it was "emperor's new clothes". We all know fine well what a woman is. Finally, the scales have fallen, people have more confidence to speak freely, MPs see voters leaving, and Stonewall are left naked

They have such a bad reputation now, I imagine institutions are quietly coming off the accredited list. Therefore, less money and oxygen

No sympathy for Stonewall in this house, although I respect their historic work for LGB community

One concern I have....... For Women Scotland were unsuccessful in Court of Session. I believe we only have the Supreme Court ruling thanks to JK Rowling funding their appeal. So, it occurs to me that, if she had chosen to support the trans lobby, then we'd be in a very different place. I find that quite chilling

Justice is always for the rich, unfortunately. Or rather, legal representation. Even at a personal level, if someone takes you to court even for vexatious reasons, it can take a lot of cash for legal advice to extricate yourself.

But I wouldn't feel sad for the trans cause - there are plenty of rich folk behind the scenes who could have chosen to bankroll the other side. Where's David Tennant and his wallet?

Ultimately the outcome can't be bought. Sure, you can pay for a top legal team but as long as the judge has all the relevant info, they will make a decision based on that, not how polished your barrister was.