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so what is the compromise? Having unisex third spaces has always been acceptable to GC campaigners - it’s the idea that all single sex spaces must be opened up and females deserve no protection from any male who says they are a woman (or signs a piece of paper and pays £10) because trans women are exactly the same as females that is the sticking point. Once you accept this isn’t the case and policy lines have to be drawn and it’s ok to debate how to draw them, then to be honest it is a smaller debate than the one that has occupied so much time because everyone is GC, it’s just a question of degree. You are, in TRA parlance “questioning TW right to exist” because you don’t consider any TW a full female. The issue that many trans activists have is that the general population pictures someone who has had all the operations when they are at their most accommodating, but that really is only 5% of the category. Those who are holding the placards saying “suck my lady dick” or similar are not going to win much sympathy and are only interested in full capitulation. So what compromises are available and who is going to agree them from the TRA side?
personally, I have no issue with using someone’s pronouns - I don’t actually believe anyone has change sex and no one can compel me to, but I would be polite and kind where I can. Where it matters to a situation that someone is female, I would expect to be able to talk about this, however, even if it is experienced as hurtful.