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At first I cheered, then I got angry at the years of bullying and misinformation women have been subjected to

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IwantToRetire · 16/04/2025 19:32

The Supreme Court has said the word sex in the EA means biology - fantastic! Credit due to FWS for persisting.

But why did we need a court to say this?

Because TRAs have spent years spreading misleading information.

So then you have to ask why, for instance, was Edinburgh Rape Crisis Centre able to advertise a vacancy as being under the Single Sex Exemptions but appointed a man who self identified as a woman.

None of the institutions in Scotland did anything to tell them they were breaking the law. Not funders, not politicians, not charity overseers - not even the organisation representing Rape Crisis Centres in Scotland.

Is this a specifically Scottish problem? In other parts of the UK posts advertised using the SSE no other women's service provider has done this. (As far as we know). Some women's service providers only offer SS services, some offer SS Services and also trans services, which shows they know the law. And advertise accordingly ie whether SSE or transinclusive.

When and who is going to investigate how those with power colluded to undermine the meaning of the SSE. And why Stonewall law was allowed or even promoted.

And we know the poison of the misinformation has spread particularly in more social, informal settings across the UK, and even the right of lesbians to be lesbian ie same SEX attracted.

But the added bonus of today's ruling is that with the judgement that sex is biological then the instance that the case was first started about, eg representation on boards, means companies can not include trans women to improve a companies SEX equality achievements.

And also now women's sport, women's changing rooms, women's toilets, women's (Ladies?) pond, and .... are going to mean SEX based.

So as I know there are many other threads celebrating the FWS Flowersvictory today, just wanted to ask how is it possible that so many people and institutions were so willing to accept the misrepresentation that women's rights were subservient to trans rights.

And could this happen again?

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Mollyollydolly · 18/04/2025 19:20

I was surprised when I went back to Facebook, I think the self righteous man nearly died of shock I'd replied so comprehensively, all the others went quiet, and a very few women quietly liked my post. For Facebook that's a triumph.

user1471471849 · 18/04/2025 19:14

Peregrina · 18/04/2025 18:59

I feel the same. I've always kept my Facebook free of this and kept it for puppies and kittens. But something snapped this morning when I was reading one of the holier than thou 'I stand with my trans friends' post from some pillock I used to work with.

I have had the same, with a friend, who I wouldn't have called an idiot. I have sent her a private email though to say that I don't agree - that in fact the Supreme Court has clarified the issue and protected the rights of Trans people.

What trans people have lost is those rights that they were stealing from women ( or indeed disabled people if using disabled loos.)

I await the fall out. I feel sad, but it's still not possible to have a sensible discussion.

I agree, it's not possible to have a sensible discussion. I sent a WhatsApp to a friend about the ruling and said what a relief it was and I could tell by her reaction that she wasn't that impressed. She said she was able to see both sides of the story. There's no discussing it with some people. I don't understand how I can see the enormous dangers of not standing up for women's rights in this instance and how it literally doesn't bother a lot of people at all (strangely, mostly women in my experience) and they think 1. you are making a big deal about nothing or 2. you are a complete fascist nazi akin to Hitler, completely devoid of compassion and they want to step slowly away from you in case it's contagious.

Oblomov25 · 18/04/2025 19:08

I feel the same, at first pleased, then pissed off that it's taken so long to get this, and that we've had to go through all these years of nonsense.

Peregrina · 18/04/2025 18:59

I feel the same. I've always kept my Facebook free of this and kept it for puppies and kittens. But something snapped this morning when I was reading one of the holier than thou 'I stand with my trans friends' post from some pillock I used to work with.

I have had the same, with a friend, who I wouldn't have called an idiot. I have sent her a private email though to say that I don't agree - that in fact the Supreme Court has clarified the issue and protected the rights of Trans people.

What trans people have lost is those rights that they were stealing from women ( or indeed disabled people if using disabled loos.)

I await the fall out. I feel sad, but it's still not possible to have a sensible discussion.

RainbowZebraWarrior · 18/04/2025 18:54

"All those cowards who threw Graham Linehan under a bus should be ashamed. I'm so grateful to him and Helen Joyce and JK Rowling and Jordan Peterson and everyone else who has not been afraid to speak the truth"

Absolutely this.

@Mollyollydolly I barely use SM any more, but I follow an Aurora Borealis group on FB. Top of my feed last night was Billy Bragg and his 'I'm a Trans Ally' crap. I don't like the bloke, I don't follow the bloke, yet there it was at the top of my feed. I've blocked him now, but I just thought How Dare You. How Fucking Dare You. You haven't got a fucking clue how this has been impacting women and girls.

ETA He just doesn't give a shit about women and girls.

Mollyollydolly · 18/04/2025 16:20

I feel the same. I've always kept my Facebook free of this and kept it for puppies and kittens. But something snapped this morning when I was reading one of the holier than thou 'I stand with my trans friends' post from some pillock I used to work with. I gave it him with both barrels, not dared to go back and look at the fall out. I'm so angry that an amazing win for amazing women is STILL all about the blokes. I can understand why women become 'political' lesbians men piss me right off. And I know, not all men, but so many liberal leftie ones are just the bloody worst.

user1471471849 · 18/04/2025 16:14

Supporterofwomensrights · 17/04/2025 23:47

Something that made me angry today: my employer (and others are at it as well, I think) issuing a statement to say that they will need to take stock and are awaiting further guidance but in the meantime would like to say that understandably trans people in our community may be feeling undermined or shaken and, as an inclusive community, we have a shared responsibility to support them, blah, blah. In some cases I've seen trans emojis and love hearts...

Had the judgement gone the other way the statement would not have acknowledged what women would have lost (in fact what we have lost over the last 15 - 20 years). No, it would have been: We welcomed the ruling in the Supreme Court as part of our commitment to fostering a welcoming and inclusive community where everybody belongs. We wholeheartedly support...blah, blah, blah.

One PP on this or another thread (I've been hopping around doing a lot of reading) described commentators as 'funereal'. Would they have been 'funereal' if 'woman' meant 'anyone'. No, they bloody would not. It's been wall-to-wall trans flags in commiseration because we GCs won and it would have been wall-to-wall flags in celebration if we'd lost.

Despite my anger, I am still delighted, of course. But I'm finding it harder to bite my tongue at work.

Edit: typo

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Well put. You shouldn't have to bite your tongue of course, but I can totally picture this scenario, especially in certain work sectors.

EdithStourton · 18/04/2025 16:06

EasternStandard · 18/04/2025 10:55

The posters on here who tried to stop any change or discussion were bad.

So many worked against women on this.

And the bloody monitors who prowl around, never posting, and report anything they don't like. We had a post zapped on the Bluestocking thread the other day - you know, mostly easy-listening, and sometimes hilarious, and sometimes informative or supportive chit-chat amongst a bunch of GC women (anyone female is welcome to rock up to the bar). Someone posted something which I read as innocuous and ZAP, someone with nothing better to do than listen in on the Wims less we type out our wrongthink had reported it, and it vanished in a puff of pixels.

<waves to the monitors> We're going nowhere. We'll keep on expressing our wrong-thinky opinions.

user1471471849 · 18/04/2025 15:48

LizzieSiddal · 16/04/2025 20:37

Agree with you all. It’s absolutely infuriating that women( and some men!) have had to waste time, energy and money fighting for what was the law all along.

Is anyone going to apologies?!

That's what I came onto mumsnet today to see. Where are the apologies?? I'm so incensed by what's gone on these past few years. I recently (about 6 months ago) had a conversation with a friend about the whole trans thing when we were sitting in a cafe and we had to actually whisper our thoughts about it! We acknowledged how crazy it was that we couldn't discuss the impact on women's rights without being considered 'anti-trans'.
So many brave people have spoken out and stood up for women and even lost their livelihoods and reputations in the process. Where are the apologies for all these people and why is it not in all the newspapers on the front page! A little mention yesterday is all the ruling got. All those cowards who threw Graham Linehan under a bus should be ashamed. I'm so grateful to him and Helen Joyce and JK Rowling and Jordan Peterson and everyone else who has not been afraid to speak the truth. And I'm glad I never stood down and agreed with a false rhetoric even though I've lost friends in the process.

EasternStandard · 18/04/2025 10:55

The posters on here who tried to stop any change or discussion were bad.

So many worked against women on this.

RainbowZebraWarrior · 18/04/2025 10:41

moto748e · 18/04/2025 10:28

Good point. Let's reclaim the English language, word by word.

Yup.

There was a guy on Jeremy Vine's radio 2 show the other day who rang to express his concern about 'where he goes now when he's desperate to pee' Apparently he was concerned that if he wasn't wearing his skirt and wig on a particular day, he wouldn't be allowed in the women's toilets any more.

He argued that we now need a legal definition of the words 'Lady' and 'Female' cos obviously they are 'different' to the word Woman, and not in any way classified as similar nouns within the dictionary

Tiresome, gaslighting and desperate. As per.

Peregrina · 18/04/2025 10:33

Could you ask what rights transwomen have lost by this ruling? For transmen some rights have been confirmed.

As far as I can see the only "rights" that transwomen lost were ones that they were stealing anyway.

moto748e · 18/04/2025 10:28

Good point. Let's reclaim the English language, word by word.

Supporterofwomensrights · 18/04/2025 10:12

I'm definitely going to wait and see what happens and then take it up with my employer anonymously (very captured and I can't afford to 'out' myself). I'm minded to send the EDI team the guidance that Sex Matters produced for employers about the hostile environment.

The other thing that I'm noticing and hope that this will change as part of the fall out from the case, all official communications are referring to 'trans women'. For clarity, they really need to revert to 'transwomen' (without the space) - especially in company policies and so on.

Skyellaskerry · 18/04/2025 10:07

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 18/04/2025 08:37

It seems not: apparently NHS trusts have been writing to their employees saying (effectively - I am paraphrasing) we know this will be a very difficult time for our LGBTQIA+++ community, but know we still love you and are behind you and if you need support please reach out to HR/LGBTQIA+++ support team.

Nothing about oops, sorry women for getting the law wrong all this time.

Thanks for the link @TwoLoonsAndASprout it’s hard to keep up with all the threads right now!

And why am I not surprised. Surely the employer should be communicating factually with staff, not emotionally creating a false narrative and whipping up fear through these “we all love you” type messages, especially when they ought to know that many people will only have seen headlines and such, and not really understand the judgment.

porridgecake · 18/04/2025 09:56

I wonder if this will make any difference to the behaviour of the police and the TRAs at LWS events?
Currently the TRAs are allowed and enabled to threaten, drown out and intimidate women in ways that in any other circumstance/location or by any other group would surely lead to arrest for public order offences.

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 18/04/2025 09:20

Talulahalula · 18/04/2025 09:13

I have now progressed to paragraph 223.
It seems to me that the judgement is very clear in what circumstances single sex provision is necessary in terms of the EA 2010 to avoid discrimination direct and indirect. It does not seem to me that ‘single gender’ wards would meet this, unless the BBC person is using gender to mean sex, which continues to confuse matters. The judgement deals with the conflation of gender and sex early on and is clear that the EA means biological sex.
(I know posters on here know this)

It’s fine to still be there for the LGBTQIA community. I have no objection to this (although this community has people with diverse views, they are not homogeneous but that is another issue). However, I do object to the quite frankly abusive suggestion that the law and women’s objections should be disregarded so that one small section of that community can enter women’s single-sex spaces. And I know there are some women who say they do not mind this, but even if only one woman did not consent, that should be enough. The people who want to ride roughshod over this need to take a hard look at what they are saying.

Very nicely put.

Also kudos for getting to paragraph 223. I need a clear few days ahead of me before I dive in, I think!

Talulahalula · 18/04/2025 09:13

I have now progressed to paragraph 223.
It seems to me that the judgement is very clear in what circumstances single sex provision is necessary in terms of the EA 2010 to avoid discrimination direct and indirect. It does not seem to me that ‘single gender’ wards would meet this, unless the BBC person is using gender to mean sex, which continues to confuse matters. The judgement deals with the conflation of gender and sex early on and is clear that the EA means biological sex.
(I know posters on here know this)

It’s fine to still be there for the LGBTQIA community. I have no objection to this (although this community has people with diverse views, they are not homogeneous but that is another issue). However, I do object to the quite frankly abusive suggestion that the law and women’s objections should be disregarded so that one small section of that community can enter women’s single-sex spaces. And I know there are some women who say they do not mind this, but even if only one woman did not consent, that should be enough. The people who want to ride roughshod over this need to take a hard look at what they are saying.

Screamingabdabz · 18/04/2025 08:40

IwantToRetire · 17/04/2025 17:29

Referring back to the cultural capture of trans rights are more important rights than women's rights.

On the BBC (where else) on WATO the woman presenter (!) was talking to someone about the impact of the ruling on the NHS.

And when it came up to talking about single sex wards she asked couldn't it (be got round?) by saying wards were based on a common gender.

I dont think she was even aware of how stupid that made her sound.

The court case was about SEX.

And even if the BBC thinks sex and gender are the same thing (wonder which year she was at University) how could she ignore that the court said it was about the reality of biology. But she is clearly locked into the concept of identity.

How are we ever going to be able to get rid of this indoctirnated "newspeak"?

I heard this too and could not believe my bloody ears. We’ve only just had the judgement and the BBC are asking if the NHS if they’re going to have ‘single gender wards’. Like ‘how are you going to get around this to help the poor disadvantaged trans people?’ No consideration for the dignity of vulnerable women.

We get an unequivocal judgement like this and people still want to tear down our protections. It’s hard to be jubilant when the rhetoric around it coming from supposedly reputable agencies is so bloody depressing. And frankly, baffling. We are talking about pandering to delusional thinking over human reality.

Viviennemary · 18/04/2025 08:39

What puzzles me is folk coming on the news saying the new ruling is unclear. How is it unclear. They mean I suppose it isn't the ruling they want or thought they would get.

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 18/04/2025 08:37

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 18/04/2025 08:37

It seems not: apparently NHS trusts have been writing to their employees saying (effectively - I am paraphrasing) we know this will be a very difficult time for our LGBTQIA+++ community, but know we still love you and are behind you and if you need support please reach out to HR/LGBTQIA+++ support team.

Nothing about oops, sorry women for getting the law wrong all this time.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5317262-what-my-nhs-trust-have-said-about-the-supreme-court-verdict

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 18/04/2025 08:37

Skyellaskerry · 18/04/2025 08:31

I am also wondering how HR and DEI departments will react, especially those that in effect have sanctioned self ID thus rendering facilities that should be single sex into do whatever you like gender speak, and no stuffs given for women.And have been stonewalled or similar.

Maybe, just maybe, when they see clear as day that they have been on the wrong side of the law, they could as a minimum acknowledge that they too interpreted the law wrong, were poorly advised, didn’t listen to concerns or even consult, and apologise to ALL employees. They could also state clearly similar words that the judge used, so confirming that trans people are protected under the gender realignment clause, as well as being protected under the sex category. And in simple terms what that means in the context of a trans employee.

It seems not: apparently NHS trusts have been writing to their employees saying (effectively - I am paraphrasing) we know this will be a very difficult time for our LGBTQIA+++ community, but know we still love you and are behind you and if you need support please reach out to HR/LGBTQIA+++ support team.

Nothing about oops, sorry women for getting the law wrong all this time.

Skyellaskerry · 18/04/2025 08:31

Supporterofwomensrights · 17/04/2025 23:47

Something that made me angry today: my employer (and others are at it as well, I think) issuing a statement to say that they will need to take stock and are awaiting further guidance but in the meantime would like to say that understandably trans people in our community may be feeling undermined or shaken and, as an inclusive community, we have a shared responsibility to support them, blah, blah. In some cases I've seen trans emojis and love hearts...

Had the judgement gone the other way the statement would not have acknowledged what women would have lost (in fact what we have lost over the last 15 - 20 years). No, it would have been: We welcomed the ruling in the Supreme Court as part of our commitment to fostering a welcoming and inclusive community where everybody belongs. We wholeheartedly support...blah, blah, blah.

One PP on this or another thread (I've been hopping around doing a lot of reading) described commentators as 'funereal'. Would they have been 'funereal' if 'woman' meant 'anyone'. No, they bloody would not. It's been wall-to-wall trans flags in commiseration because we GCs won and it would have been wall-to-wall flags in celebration if we'd lost.

Despite my anger, I am still delighted, of course. But I'm finding it harder to bite my tongue at work.

Edit: typo

Edited

I am also wondering how HR and DEI departments will react, especially those that in effect have sanctioned self ID thus rendering facilities that should be single sex into do whatever you like gender speak, and no stuffs given for women.And have been stonewalled or similar.

Maybe, just maybe, when they see clear as day that they have been on the wrong side of the law, they could as a minimum acknowledge that they too interpreted the law wrong, were poorly advised, didn’t listen to concerns or even consult, and apologise to ALL employees. They could also state clearly similar words that the judge used, so confirming that trans people are protected under the gender realignment clause, as well as being protected under the sex category. And in simple terms what that means in the context of a trans employee.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 18/04/2025 08:14

Dennis Kavanagh (Barrister on twitter & director of The Gay Man's Network) posted this which I think sums up things perfectly:
https://x.com/Jebadoo2/status/1912861014560768042?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Etweet

Cut & paste for those not on twitter:
1/ Victory is a difficult thing to trust, and any gender war veteran will be well versed in false dawns, each tribunal often prompts the refrain "surely this will be the last one? surely they'll get it now". But the Supreme Court is different. This is the beginning of the end.
2/ Gender falls in 3 stages. The flight of the cowards. The howl of the zealots. The prosecution of the monsters. The cowards have flown. The zealots have howled. We're firmly in stage 3 in the UK and the reckoning for the mutilators Douglas Murray spoke about now beckons.
3/ Political Transvestitism is now in a state of complete collapse. It sought to reconfigure society by stealth and it sought nothing less that the existential elimination of the concept of "woman" and "homosexual" in law. It still seeks the chemical castration of children
4/ This is the next frontier and the one that merits our attention. The Government intend to conduct a live experiment on a cohort of mainly autistic, mainly likely to grow up gay children because lunatics have been given the keys to the hospital. This must be challenged.
5/ This is no time to walk away or give in to the perfectly understandable impulse to retire from this exhausting, stressful war of ideas. In 15 years time or so there could be a generation of sterile, mutilated children who were regarded as collateral damage to bad ideas
6/ The Supreme Court didn't so much end the gender wars and it reasserted the much missed enlightenment. Facts matter more than feelings. Evidence matters. Basic rights matter and puberty is a human right. Children cannot form pressure groups or exercise political influence
7/ So it's on us. Yesterday For Women Scotland and the interveners saved the gay right to associations. They saved the definition of homosexual. These are significant rights, but we must now turn to the gay right to grow up free from medical correction.

https://x.com/Jebadoo2/status/1912861014560768042?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Etweet

Shambles123 · 18/04/2025 07:45

Supporterofwomensrights · 18/04/2025 00:06

Yep.

This is something of an antidote to anger: https://www.spiked-online.com/2025/04/17/the-hilarious-meltdown-of-men-who-think-theyre-women/

I like this although I think it's a bit optimistic: For while this noisy orgy of self-pity might doll itself up as a cry for civil rights, in truth it’s the death rattle of trans activism’s neo-misogyny.

I like this although I think it's a bit optimistic: For while this noisy orgy of self-pity might doll itself up as a cry for civil rights, in truth it’s the death rattle of trans activism’s neo-misogyny.

Isn't the anger at something that is just rational and factual actually the final proof that trans women aren't women? Imagine if we all got this angry at every little bit of misogny we experienced everyday?!