Women's rights general conversations - Thread 10

I'm divorced.

A relative still sends me birthday and Christmas cards addressed to Mrs his initial, his surname.

It really pisses me off and I find it upsetting seeing his name as we divorced due to his violence towards me.

I've asked them not to do it and explained why, but apparently that is correct etiquette which counts for more than my feelings.

Just read out your comment to DH, Kuc, and he said he'll happily have the same conversation with the members of his family calling me Mrs His Name. We need to nip this in the bud right away.

Now there's an idea!

Thankfully it seems to have died out.

It hasn't though, we've been getting them this year.

Cross posted! Unfortunately it has not died out.

I received a card earlier addressed to Mr and Mrs Hisfirstname Oursharedsurname. Makes my eye twitch every year.

I remember my Mum getting letters addressed to Mrs Hisfirstname Hissurname, and sometimes even Mrs Hisfirstnames'initials Hissurname. but that was way back when dinosaurs roamed the Earth.

Mind you, I hate the modern practice of double-barrelling, something my grand-daughter looks to be saddled with. Grrr... I quite like the idea of Mum's name for a girl, Dad's name for a boy.

That's all very frustrating.

While I adopted his surname when I got married, I very much objected to Mr and Mrs Hisfirstname Hissurname. Thankfully it seems to have died out.

You could have had a pizza wedding "cake." Large base, medium on that and a small for the top tier.

The other annoying thing was that before we had the civil partnership thing, his brother's wife always addressed cards to me as 'Miss' Veg. It only stopped when Mr Veg asked her (at the dinner table at a large family gathering where most had had a couple of glasses of wine) if she did that because she thought I was still a virgin. Everyone roared with laughter, she turned scarlet and didn't do it again.

Gah! That's infuriating, @Kucinghitam ! Do you ever put people right?

I'm tempted to send a group email reminding his family that I'm most emphatically not Mrs His Name.

Just need a grrrr.

After being together 40 years me and Mr Veg decided it would make sense, for admin reasons, to get married so we had a very simple civil partnership ceremony, went for a pizza with our two witnesses and then carried on as normal. I'd told people I was keeping my family name. It's a fine name, I like it and I don't want or need a new one. The annoying thing is that his family are almost all addressing cards to Mr and Mrs His Name. It's like I've become an appendage without even a name of my own and it's pissing me off. I want my fucking name back, you fuckers.

There, that's it.

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR 😡

Yeah, when you think of the enormous sums of money in DEI budgets, in both public and private sectors. Anything left for a few wheelchair ramps? It reminds of those visual puzzles; which glass does the champagne end up in? The direction of flow is obvious.

Happened across this, thought how it contrasted with how Australian politicians have accommodated men in frocks

https://youtube.com/shorts/dJqePQBuRhQ?si=qVzfn2XMuh-BlcwF

Allison Bailey's judgment against Stonewall will be available tomorrow.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5429365-allison-bailey-v-stonewall

https://www.court-tribunal-hearings.service.gov.uk/court-of-appeal-civil-daily-cause-list?artefactId=a692f7f5-e37a-4883-8fe6-9c35711cc306

Meanwhile, over on the current Sandie Peggie thread (59) there's been a really interesting discussion about the number of instances of ET panel members being removed/forced to recuse themselves from panels where GC views are involved. It's more than you'd expect. Well, more than I expected.

Does he not realise that "the question of who should be able to access single sex spaces" and "how or where single sex spaces should be created" are actually two different questions, albeit related ones?

The fox-botherer may want to discuss his medication with his GP.

A massive, inaccurate, legally incompetent whinge from our favourite fox-murderer and kimono-purloiner: https://skywriter.blue/pages/did:plc:xurjtu2wa2akyi64gab34ahg/post/3m7wzlprq3c2w

“Service biped” love it 🥰

In practice, in everyday life, you rarely need to out yourself with your opinions. Yesterday I went to the Apple Store for a small thing I needed help with. The small bearded person with a high voice who helped me very competently was clearly a transman but that was irrelevant to the situation and nobody needs to use pronouns in a one-to-one situation. If it had been a hulking transwoman taking selfies in the women’s toilets it might have been different.