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Imperial Spa, San Francisco, USA - incident with a transman.

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FlowchartRequired · 11/03/2025 19:10

A transman (biological female) was asked to move from the mens side to the female side due to not having a penis. I think this is a naked spa. The transman's friend recorded the conversation with a member of the Spa staff.

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XXylophonic · 12/03/2025 21:54

ArabellaScott · 12/03/2025 17:05

Oh, surely not a predatory male trying to access women's spaces I am genuinely shocked

In response to criticism, Archimedes Banya posted a statement to social media which argued that women are entitled to a “phallus-free” environment.
“We have seen messages claiming that cis women don’t deserve space, that asking for a phallus-free environment is inherently hateful, and that any separation is an act of exclusion. That is categorically not true,”

I honestly can't get past the fact that unwanted exposure of a penis used to be a crime, but now women who object to penis in their space are the criminals. It beggars belief we are at this stage

But, as always they get their own way because the law...

LaLoba · 12/03/2025 19:29

It’s funny, when I first became aware of the whole TRA thing, it came as a shock how eager lefty men were to scold women and call them names. Years down the line it’s no longer surprising that they appear to be targeting ethnic minority businesses too. They can’t believe their luck, and think no one sees how gleeful they are.

viques · 12/03/2025 17:15

“Have a great night.”

She was wonderful, unflappable in the face of literally bullies.

For the record, I’d doesn’t matter what your driving licence says, when you have taken your pants off everyone knows what sex you are.

withthegreatestrespect · 12/03/2025 17:09

ShockedandStunnedRepeatedly · 12/03/2025 16:43

Indeed

Even though - and I of course mean no disrespect to anyone personally working in these jobs, I’m making a systemic comment - this is really something that ought to be above receptionist pay grade. So unfair to leave frontline staff dealing with this kind of nonsense. Clearer laws are urgently needed to avoid scenes of this nature.

Halo Leisure centres in England and Wales have this policy: Please use the changing rooms and toilets that align with your gender identity and presentation. If you identify as one gender and present as another, please talk to our manager first so that we can agree on the best approach.

Duty Managers are paid £13.50/hour. Utter cowardice by these organisations to shift responsibility to frontline staff while they are safe in their HQs slapping each other on the back for their progressivism. NHS, this means you too. Plus every political party that spouts the case-by-case crap

ArabellaScott · 12/03/2025 17:05

Justme56 · 12/03/2025 16:14

Just prior to this spa being hassled, another one in SF was also being targeted. According to Reduxx one of the protesting TW activists is a registered sex offender.

https://reduxx.info/exclusive-trans-activist-demanding-access-to-female-only-nude-sauna-is-high-risk-registered-sex-offender/

Oh, surely not a predatory male trying to access women's spaces I am genuinely shocked

ArabellaScott · 12/03/2025 17:04

I'm enjoying the very based receptionist doing the actions to her 'male parts go in the male part, female parts go in the female part'. It could be worked up into a little routine like the flight attendants do before take off. She did really well, even with an aggressive man swearing at her.

ShockedandStunnedRepeatedly · 12/03/2025 16:43

JazzyJelly · 11/03/2025 21:12

Bless the lady representing the spa. She was very calm and clear.

Indeed

Even though - and I of course mean no disrespect to anyone personally working in these jobs, I’m making a systemic comment - this is really something that ought to be above receptionist pay grade. So unfair to leave frontline staff dealing with this kind of nonsense. Clearer laws are urgently needed to avoid scenes of this nature.

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 12/03/2025 16:39

JazzyJelly · 11/03/2025 21:12

Bless the lady representing the spa. She was very calm and clear.

She was very good wasn’t she

Igmum · 12/03/2025 16:32

I pity the poor woman they picked on, she was so calm. Awful that the spa had to cave. Suspect the numbers attending will plummet.

Interesting that that YouTube video has had 3.9k views with 46 likes. I guess that's what you call ratioed.

SinnerBoy · 12/03/2025 16:28

These people are despicable, supporting a rapist, a rapist who wants access to unclothed women. Have they really no introspection? Do they honestly believe that he's a she?

Or are they simply sadistic bullies?

Barbadossunset · 12/03/2025 15:41

I’d love to see trans people try that on in a similar spa in Korea. They’d get very short shrift

SinnerBoy · 11/03/2025 22:04

Dear me. Let's go somewhere with the camera ready and confect some faux outrage.

Let's be rich white people and punch down on non white immigrants and pretend that we're victims.

Devianinc · 11/03/2025 21:52

The whole thing is ridiculous, if you don’t like their policies leave. Nobody’s making you stay there. Bye bye.

XXylophonic · 11/03/2025 21:37

I'm so sick of this crap. I don't even want to go to my local leisure centre anymore because I'm not sure how I'd react if a man was in the women's changing area. I'd probably get banned which would make me even angrier
Personally I wouldn't be satisfied with segregation by genitalia unless it was natural genitalia. I wouldn't want to be near a man with an inverted penis either.

JazzyJelly · 11/03/2025 21:12

Bless the lady representing the spa. She was very calm and clear.

FlowchartRequired · 11/03/2025 21:05

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 11/03/2025 20:51

oops yes.

It's this bleddy-ridiculous-reality-denying language that we have to dance around (so that posts aren't deleted) that makes everything so confusing.

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TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 11/03/2025 20:51

FlowchartRequired · 11/03/2025 20:29

Do you mean a TIF?

oops yes.

FlowchartRequired · 11/03/2025 20:29

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 11/03/2025 19:44

It does say on your next post they were compling with California law, so sadly they didn't have any other choice but to cave. I am willing to believe that they were targeted by activists, it being a TIM is a twist. Man=Adult Male Human.

Do you mean a TIF?

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Chersfrozenface · 11/03/2025 20:22

Oh dear oh dear some men objected to be flashed by a woman

She thinks her rights to flash her bits on the mens side trump all the other male customers rights not to be flashed in the spa. So imo that makes her and her friend just as much a perv as any bloke transgressing womens boundries

Obviously transmen invading men's spaces don't constitute the same risk to men's safety as transwomen invading women's spaces.

But as many keep saying, it's not just safety that matters, but privacy and dignity as well. That also applies to men.

Let's hope that incidents like this, if and when they become known, wake a few men up to the downsides of gender woo.

WandaSiri · 11/03/2025 19:47

Well done, selfish couple. Ruined the spa for everybody.

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 11/03/2025 19:44

dementedpixie · 11/03/2025 19:21

Apparently they have caved and will now let trans people use the area that corresponds to their 'gender identity'

It does say on your next post they were compling with California law, so sadly they didn't have any other choice but to cave. I am willing to believe that they were targeted by activists, it being a TIM is a twist. Man=Adult Male Human.

AnSolas · 11/03/2025 19:36

Oh dear oh dear some men objected to be flashed by a woman

She thinks her rights to flash her bits on the mens side trump all the other male customers rights not to be flashed in the spa. So imo that makes her and her friend just as much a perv as any bloke transgressing womens boundries

And I note if I got the correct webpage that male staff will deal with naked men. So they likely had problems with that in the past.

And well done to the staff member who had to manage the camera intimidation by a couple who knew that they were going to get naked in a public space used by men.

Seriestwo · 11/03/2025 19:25

Receptionist was very clear and consistent and well prepped, even if their policy is flawed because it would allow a man who’d had his penis removed into the female side.

it was easy to recognise which of the 3 voices was male, he spoke over the two females. It’s a dead giveaway.

I suspect the whole thing is a set up, designed to cause a fuss. But no one much cares about TiFs, on account of them being female and posing no danger to the other spa members who have members.

dementedpixie · 11/03/2025 19:24

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Imperial Spa, San Francisco, USA - incident with a transman.