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I want to meet other GC women in person

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elbowhammer · 06/03/2025 23:22

I've joined LWS
I've joined the WRN
I'm active in GC FB groups

But I've never been to any meet ups - possibly because I'm not in a city and the small towns near me don't seem to have any GC activity that I know of.

I'm not an activist but I would just like to hang out with other sex realists. How does one do this?!!

Do any of you meet people in real life?

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FortunaMajor · 09/03/2025 11:18

BobbinThreadbare123 · 07/03/2025 08:29

Are there any of these networks in the very NW of England? I'm not googling the right thing, maybe.

There's a WRN group for the North West with quite a few women in Cumbria.

cheshirecatsmile · 09/03/2025 10:47

Also in planning to do an event in June
Last year I organised the first LWS locals event.
About 70 people turned up.
With Locals will be arranging the first anniversary event.

cheshirecatsmile · 09/03/2025 10:41

BobbinThreadbare123 · 07/03/2025 08:29

Are there any of these networks in the very NW of England? I'm not googling the right thing, maybe.

I'm nw
I'm lws locals
Planning a met up soon
In east Cheshire

Greyskybluesky · 09/03/2025 10:36

ArabellaScott · 09/03/2025 10:03

Bear in mind 'Beth' - TRA in Scotland -managed to con his way into one of the local feminist groups. The creep.

Women are cautious for valid reasons.

Really? I had not seen that. Wow.

Swashbuckled · 09/03/2025 10:34

Yes, I agree that video calls are a necessary screening tool.

EmpressaurusKitty · 09/03/2025 10:25

ArabellaScott · 09/03/2025 10:03

Bear in mind 'Beth' - TRA in Scotland -managed to con his way into one of the local feminist groups. The creep.

Women are cautious for valid reasons.

Yes. I don’t think any WRN group is going to accept someone who none of them have, at least, met in a video call.

ArabellaScott · 09/03/2025 10:03

Bear in mind 'Beth' - TRA in Scotland -managed to con his way into one of the local feminist groups. The creep.

Women are cautious for valid reasons.

Bannedontherun · 09/03/2025 09:52

Hmm when i applied i just got an email saying no branch at the moment?

tourdefrance · 08/03/2025 22:04

I'm a WRN member and was impressed by the screening process. It obviously helps if you already know someone but not essential. We have a very active WhatsApp group.

Swashbuckled · 08/03/2025 21:45

I requested to join WRN a bit ago and somebody (a regional rep?) emailed me and offered me a video appointment before progressing. I understood this; it’s a good way to check out whether I’m a woman.

But I also have to be careful because of my line of work, and didn’t feel okay about having a video call with someone I didn’t know. Could have been a patient, for all I knew, or a partner of one. So I didn’t progress it. I’m probably on their files as a TRA now.

Anyway, I’m okay with it.

ghostofadog · 08/03/2025 21:23

I tried to join my local WRN but couldn't get anywhere with it. They did reply but said the main Facebook group was full or something. Said I could join another one only no one really posts on it so not sure what the point of that would be. They seemed suspicious of me, don't know why or how I'm supposed to prove I'm genuine. Gave up in the end which is a shame, I would quite like to go along to meet ups and meet some like minded feminists.

CautiousLurker01 · 08/03/2025 21:09

The pins are a great idea - I think that unless you know what they mean, they’d go over most people’s heads?

arethereanyleftatall · 08/03/2025 21:00

I get all my stuff from

letwomenspeak.org

NoBinturongsHereMate · 08/03/2025 20:31

Mine were presents from my mum and my partner, so I don't know exactly where they came from - but these are the same designs as some of them: https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/593352470/votes-for-women-enamel-pin-set-feminist?

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elbowhammer · 08/03/2025 20:25

Lovely idea to wear suffragette badges. Where do you get them from?

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LittleBigHead · 08/03/2025 18:16

They do check people out quite carefully. In my group they ask if any of us know new members IRL - in the flesh so to speak.

LittleBigHead · 08/03/2025 18:11

NoBinturongsHereMate · 08/03/2025 16:27

I have a section of suffragette badges - one on every coat and jacket. Never had an adverse comment.

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I wear my WRN pin on a purple jumper!

But if someone objects to the suffragette colours, I’d be asking them if they oppose women’s suffrage and other rights we’ve won since? Are they against women’s suffrage as full citizens?

Cocolapew · 08/03/2025 18:09

😄👋

CarefulN0w · 08/03/2025 17:54

Cocolapew · 08/03/2025 10:58

My WRN has a very active whatsapp and meetups.
Look for localish wrn fb and twitter, there's a vigil for Afghanistan coming up, there's one a month. You might find one close.

Secret 👋

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elbowhammer · 08/03/2025 17:39

@LadyBracknellsHandbagg you have hit the nail on the head. It's not about being an activist or even wanting to discuss GC issues particularly. Just about feeling relaxed in the company of others knowing you are on the same page about what I believe to be a fundamental issue.
I spent most of my 20s/30s stepping on eggshells and I'm not doing it anymore.

So sorry to hear about what you have been through with your child. How is she doing now? Apologies if it's the wrong place to discuss that.

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MarjorieDanvers · 08/03/2025 16:58

I completed the WRN form several weeks ago but not heard back yet - pleased they are busy though!

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 08/03/2025 16:52

CautiousLurker01 · 07/03/2025 15:14

Am intrigued by this thread. I think the desire to be around women with the open acceptance that you don’t have to walk on egg shells over this issue is understandable.

I know I have lost friends over it - followers of previous posts/other threads will know I have been protecting an ASD/ADHD YP through trans identifying as male. Friends either didn’t want to engage (all agreed with our position but just didn’t want to ask ‘how is DD?’ and receive an honest answer) or abjectly disagreed with my/our non affirmation approach. Tbh many didn’t want to engage about the ASD/ADHD either, so the whole thing was deeply lonely. And I say that as a person who was totally there for those friends - I ran beavers and took ones DS for 3 years, including camping weekends; and even I informally fostered one mum’s 2 DSs (they lived with us FT for 8-10 weeks a year and came to us 3 nights a week during term-time for 4 years) so I am fairly sure I wasn’t out of order to expect a little friendship and understanding in return, but was dropped instantly. More importantly, so was my DD. Where was the support and compassion for her?

I ache for a space where I can chat books, film, TV … and just talk crap and KNOW that I can accidentally make a flippant remark about ‘that’ issue without fear of being the topic of a whatsapp discussion that I have been excluded from or getting the cold shoulder (am ND so should really be used to that, but I am not).

It’s not that I want to march the streets and scream about this issue from the roof tops, it’s about wanting a safe space to be my authentic self. You know, that stuff that the ‘other side’ have been screaming about for the last decade.

I’m so sorry to hear your story, it sounds like you’ve had a tough time, especially from people you would expect to be able to rely on.

After reading this thread I have just filled in the form on the WRN website and hope to meet some like minded women, have you tried that?

JackieQueen · 08/03/2025 16:31

NoBinturongsHereMate · 08/03/2025 16:27

I have a section of suffragette badges - one on every coat and jacket. Never had an adverse comment.

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Same here, and my scarf, gloves and t shirts, all positive so far (fingers crossed)😃

NoBinturongsHereMate · 08/03/2025 16:27

DustyLee123 · 07/03/2025 15:17

I don’t even know if you can wear a suffragette badge these days as some people see it as anti trans, when it’s simply pro woman.

I have a section of suffragette badges - one on every coat and jacket. Never had an adverse comment.

LittleBigHead · 08/03/2025 14:31

Also, I echo others' recommendations for finding a WRN meet up. I've never been able to make the ones set up in my WRN (SW) because work, travel etc, but the long-suffering organisers try to have about 3 or 4 meet ups each year. It's not easy finding convenient dates or places, but they do, as they are sterling women!

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