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I want to meet other GC women in person

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elbowhammer · 06/03/2025 23:22

I've joined LWS
I've joined the WRN
I'm active in GC FB groups

But I've never been to any meet ups - possibly because I'm not in a city and the small towns near me don't seem to have any GC activity that I know of.

I'm not an activist but I would just like to hang out with other sex realists. How does one do this?!!

Do any of you meet people in real life?

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MarjorieDanvers · 18/04/2025 11:56

Glad there are lots around the U.K. - though you’d think there’d be something in London (well apart from the prisons!)!

elbowhammer · 17/04/2025 23:08

@MarieDeGournay😂😂😂

Not intending to go to prison but if I were, I’d definitely want to meet GC women there.

I wonder if more openly GC women will surface now after yesterday’s ruling. Have certainly observed a fair bit of the old reverse ferret action.

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MarieDeGournay · 17/04/2025 23:00

Total derail: every time I see this thread title, I read it as 'I want to meet other GC women in prison'. Like, every bloody time!🙄

I also always read Surgery as Sorcery.
Can do better/must try harder at applying myself to my reading skills😊

I would love to meet other GC women anywhere - not prison, hopefully - but I live in a faraway place on the Celtic fringes so - unlikely.

Have fun when you manage to meet each otherSmile

IwantToRetire · 08/04/2025 18:47

IwantToRetire · 17/03/2025 19:05

Having said that about local LWS events, apart from the Nottingham one, they all seem to be in London this year. But appreciate the work involved in putting events on.

https://www.letwomenspeak.org/events

Not sure if this is a change or I read it wrong, but LWS is in Bristol on 13 April
https://www.letwomenspeak.org/events

Or maybe they list London as the default whilst working on getting to other locations.

EVENTS | Let Women Speak

Check here for Let Women Speak Events

https://www.letwomenspeak.org/events

IwantToRetire · 08/04/2025 18:34

Here's another one that came up on my facebook feed.

Join us from 9am - 5pm in Derby on Saturday 10th May 2025 at an event to celebrate grassroots organisation and women’s movements arising from the uniquely female experience.

Full details https://www.womensrights.network/derbyshire-womens-festival

Derbyshire Womens Festival | Women's Rights Network | UK

https://www.womensrights.network/derbyshire-womens-festival

CyclingSam · 07/04/2025 20:52

Hope the OP doesn't mind me hopping on to say I'd love to meet mumsnetters at a London LWS (spoiler alert: I'm not a woman, though I am married to one). You know you're getting close to the Reformers' tree when you start seeing purple and green.

Cyclists who gather online quite often end up meeting IRL. Once upon a time I did the end-to-end (Land's End to John O'Groats) and even talked a bunch of strangers into letting me stay with them as I made my way up north. I have a feeling if I did that now not all of them would be so welcoming if they knew I was witch-adjacent.

IwantToRetire · 17/03/2025 19:05

Having said that about local LWS events, apart from the Nottingham one, they all seem to be in London this year. But appreciate the work involved in putting events on.

https://www.letwomenspeak.org/events

EVENTS | Let Women Speak

Check here for Let Women Speak Events

https://www.letwomenspeak.org/events

IwantToRetire · 17/03/2025 19:02

elbowhammer · 06/03/2025 23:22

I've joined LWS
I've joined the WRN
I'm active in GC FB groups

But I've never been to any meet ups - possibly because I'm not in a city and the small towns near me don't seem to have any GC activity that I know of.

I'm not an activist but I would just like to hang out with other sex realists. How does one do this?!!

Do any of you meet people in real life?

Going back to OP ie being able to meet up with so as to hang out locally rather than the odd system of WRN - and heaven help you if you have a VM email address.

I had had an idea but unfortunately with the restriction on DM isn't that useful at the moment but might be in the future.

Let's say there is some vaguely woman related event in a nearby large town or city eg this one Chester(*). And then post a message saying something like anyone else nearby thinking of going. Perhaps we could meet up. This is where not having DM is a problem, ie cant privately agree a meeting point and whether to be wearing suffragette ribbons or whatever.

Or even a local council meeting about public transport, the NHS?!

Although obiously if there is a LWS event nearby.

Does anyone know how long the DM system will be closed?

(*) https://www.storyhouse.com/seasons/storyhouse-women/ this is trans inclusive as many IWD events were

Not sure why the image shows 2-3 March it is actually Saturday 10 – Sunday 11 May 2025

Storyhouse Women Weekend | Storyhouse

A weekend of events at Storyhouse celebrating women and girls.

https://www.storyhouse.com/seasons/storyhouse-women/

RaininSummer · 16/03/2025 08:10

PollyHutchen · 15/03/2025 09:00

I think if you haven't heard back from WRN, you should contact them and query this. Groups are volunteer run and there are times when co-ordinators have so much on that the admin may get a bit delayed.

I have sent an email with a picture of me canpaigning for Fair Play for Women. Hopefully that will be enough.

PollyHutchen · 15/03/2025 09:00

I think if you haven't heard back from WRN, you should contact them and query this. Groups are volunteer run and there are times when co-ordinators have so much on that the admin may get a bit delayed.

RaininSummer · 15/03/2025 08:32

I haven't heard back from WRN yet so that doesn't seem a way to get involved locally.

Clarabell77 · 15/03/2025 03:12

elbowhammer · 06/03/2025 23:43

Not easy for me (single mum). I just want to feel less isolated. There may be GC women in my circles but I just don't know, like they don't know about me.
Honestly, I thought we would be past this secret handshake-like business by now but it's still so hard to openly meet likeminded people.

I’ve been surprised at the number of people in my circle who share the same thinking, when I’ve gently questioned and shared a little of my own view.

Boiledbeetle · 15/03/2025 00:57

Burntt · 08/03/2025 04:14

I have the same problem.

I also keep changing my username as I repeatedly over share on the disability or autism or abuse threads. Keep telling myself I will stop but then can't.

I know there are riddles and codes and they go over my head I wish I knew how to learn

I could pm my old user names to prove I'm not a TRA. I'm terrible with recognition of names though so would need a very prolific long term poster to tell me they are safe 😂. I'm in Boiledbeetle book. I'm long rambly and have poor spelling and punctuation in my comments so easy to check the names I give are me 😂

I don't have much opportunity to make friends irl as have high need autistic child I care for full time. Also autistic myself so often people don't like me as I'm different. Had a good group of friends then one child comes out nb, the group disintegrated and i got excluded from new meet up plans because I didn't gush praise and rainbows at their bravery.

I think suffragette colours is effective in signalling you are GC. Does not have to be so obvious as a scarf or pin. If clock you in violet top, green cardigan and a white bag and if you were a person i saw regularly id compliment how well the colours go together. I have lots of feminist slogan T-shirts that get compliments regularly when I'm out, it's usually not a situation I can make a friend as im a carer and wrapped up with that but im sure if I could stop for a chat they would be GC- why else comment as I wear t shirt when not making an effort and definitely do not look good haha

If you switch to your UTDOD username then you can PM me from your book username and then I can confirm you are a fellow FWR poster and not a TRA poster!

I'm very trustworthy, apart from where Tunnocks are involved, and then I've swiped them and I'm out the door before you've even blinked!

AprilF00L · 14/03/2025 23:49

What area are you in? There will be some options for you?

elbowhammer · 11/03/2025 09:58

Hoosemover · 10/03/2025 17:18

@elbowhammer Are you a signed up for local LWS?
There are remote zoom meetings for women who can’t make meetings for various reasons

Yes I have signed up, looked for local groups but none exist. When I spoke to the coordinator who vetted me, we spoke about building up a local group but don't really know where to go from here.

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Grammarnut · 11/03/2025 09:48

I too would like to meet fellow GC women. I live in a w.midland's city but can find no groups at all. I have met one woman who said 'mumsnet is great', but I do not know that she is GC (and I suspect probably not from other clues) and we enjoyed a chat about women's sci fi writing, but that's all. I belong to a writing circle but would not dare raise the issue there, many are young and I suspect very woke! Pro-actively, I have just ordered two Suffragette badges (been thinking of doing so for a while but could not justify expense) in hopes someone may speak to me, if I wear them (and maybe I can give the TiM who comes to my church a nudge that not everyone here believes in 'be kind' - six foot, 40s, wears pigtails and an Alice band with an utterly male voice and presence, wtaf? Fetish in a place of worship?).
A dinosaur sweatshirt or T-shirt would be useful, too! As worn by Victoria Smith on Radio 4 recently - the item that Emily Callaci did not realise the significance of (sorry for dangling participle)🤔.

Hoosemover · 10/03/2025 17:18

@elbowhammer Are you a signed up for local LWS?
There are remote zoom meetings for women who can’t make meetings for various reasons

TrainedByTerfs · 10/03/2025 13:21

For subtle indicators the museum of London shop has some suffragette badges

https://shop.londonmuseum.org.uk/collections/suffragette

Suffragette

Every purchase supports the museum.

https://shop.londonmuseum.org.uk/collections/suffragette

RaininSummer · 09/03/2025 17:30

Thanks. I can't post much as I am a civil servant so my Facebook won't show a lot beyond likes of some other posts

PollyHutchen · 09/03/2025 16:09

With WRN vetting, co-ordinators will look at past social media, who people follow etc. They'll ask people about why they want to join, what they know about the network already. I'm not sure that it's necessarily about having to have done lots of stuff in the past. More about where women are at in the present, what women believe in and feel strongly about, and how - time permitting - they would like to make a difference.

RaininSummer · 09/03/2025 15:47

I have applied to join WRN. Will wait and see if I pass muster. I do have some good GC credentials especially with Fair Play for Women's campaigns pre Covid but guess I can't prove that.

Igmum · 09/03/2025 15:18

@FortunaMajor I had completely forgotten that WhatsApp group but I am still on it (group created 2019 so my guess was not too bad). I've put a message in there 😀

FortunaMajor · 09/03/2025 11:23

Igmum · 07/03/2025 18:18

@JazzyJelly I'm in Manchester too! I went to one meet up back in 2018/19 maybe to a very interesting talk held in a church in the city centre but venue not announced until just before so a group of us met at the station. It was great but I'm a single parent too so didn't manage another one but DD is older now so I could escape occasionally (not an undercover TRA honest).

Hello fellow station meeter!

If you're interested in getting out and about again and you're still in the MN Radicals WhatsApp group, then send a message on there and I'll pass on details of what's on in Manchester. If not, DM when they reopen and I can let you know what's on.

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