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Old Vic gender neutral toilets naffness

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SarkyMummy · 17/11/2024 09:52

At the Old Vic last night. Hadn’t been for a while and think they’ve changed the loos to gender neutral toilets - possibly with a disabled toilet separately. (Separate note: accessibility for my elderly mother was poor).

The signs on the door have no images or names on them - just what you can expect to find behind the door. On left, toilets and baby changing. On the right, toilets and urinals. So let’s infer who is intended to do the baby changing..

So confusing do people find the signs that they have a member of staff there to signpost you to the correct loo for you - it appears by eye balling you and making a call on your behalf.

What a mess!

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BeaTwix · 28/05/2025 23:14

I can't remember is it cubicles/ urinals in one space or simply urinals.

If former use the fucking cubicle/ urinal space (it's what I do at the Barbican). Men won't understand all the fuss until it is THEIR space that is starting to feel usafe/ embarassing/ difficult.

I've posted about it on here before but my fully paid up TWAW/ Stonewall are right/ You are a terrible bigot friend gets really twitchy when I go into the cubicle/ urinal one.

Apparently I should think of the men who might be distressed by me potentially catching a glimpse of their tadger. Given that my employer has unlawfully legislated that all changing rooms/ toilets and wards (oh yes, it's a hospital) should be accessible based on gender fucking identity which means I share my changing space with men and said friend has been less than supportive about my discomfort over this then I've told him very clearly I don't care and will continue to use the toilet of my choice.

We should do this en masse.

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BeaTwix · 28/05/2025 23:14

I can't remember is it cubicles/ urinals in one space or simply urinals.

If former use the fucking cubicle/ urinal space (it's what I do at the Barbican). Men won't understand all the fuss until it is THEIR space that is starting to feel usafe/ embarassing/ difficult.

I've posted about it on here before but my fully paid up TWAW/ Stonewall are right/ You are a terrible bigot friend gets really twitchy when I go into the cubicle/ urinal one.

Apparently I should think of the men who might be distressed by me potentially catching a glimpse of their tadger. Given that my employer has unlawfully legislated that all changing rooms/ toilets and wards (oh yes, it's a hospital) should be accessible based on gender fucking identity which means I share my changing space with men and said friend has been less than supportive about my discomfort over this then I've told him very clearly I don't care and will continue to use the toilet of my choice.

Stopsnowing · 28/05/2025 23:06

Was at the old vic tonight and a staff member ushered me towards the cubicles as I was standing there a bit puzzled.

when I came out a man asked me if they were gender neutral. I said they were cubicles and women were using them and he should think of the SC ruling.

I suppose some men won’t be able to use the urinals and so will have to go in the cubicles.

NumberTheory · 20/05/2025 04:15

LizzieSiddal · 19/05/2025 22:55

Is this lawful? Men have single sex provision but women do not.

I assume women would win a claim of discrimination as provision is clearly less suitable for them than for men. But a court case would take forever and cost money.

Hopefully the EHRC will soon finalize their guidelines and start taking enforcement action which will make them sit up and take notice.

CautiousLurker01 · 20/05/2025 02:06

MrsOvertonsWindow · 19/05/2025 23:11

IANAL but it looks as if the Old Vic will be reverse ferreting shortly with their deiscriminatory attitude to women and single sex toilets. The article in this thread seems very clear:

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5337814-very-clear-article-on-legal-position-for-retailers-and-single-sex-facilities?reply=144402417

Thanks for this. I’ll use that when I draft my letter!

CautiousLurker01 · 20/05/2025 02:05

I think I will now, post the SC, be writing to them. Have taken a few days to think about it, but now feel it is ridiculous that there is no single sex provision for the women.

Haulage · 19/05/2025 23:15

I expect they’re amongst the ‘unable and unwilling’ mentioned in this article:

Culture leaders 'unwilling' to police which toilets people use https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c4g7j5r0qpyo

I think complaints are just the tip of the iceberg; these organisations just cannot believe women have had the gall to have it confirmed by the SC that they may to go to the loo without the supervision of men.

Person walking into a toilet with a unisex gender sign on the door

Culture leaders 'unwilling' to police which toilets people use

More than 1,000 people have signed an open letter to the Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC).

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c4g7j5r0qpyo

MrsOvertonsWindow · 19/05/2025 23:11

IANAL but it looks as if the Old Vic will be reverse ferreting shortly with their deiscriminatory attitude to women and single sex toilets. The article in this thread seems very clear:

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5337814-very-clear-article-on-legal-position-for-retailers-and-single-sex-facilities?reply=144402417

Peregrina · 19/05/2025 23:04

Is this lawful? Men have single sex provision but women do not.

Can you start by writing to ask them why they are discriminating against women in this way?

Firms are clearly not going to do anything unless they are dragged kicking and screaming to do so.

LizzieSiddal · 19/05/2025 22:55

CautiousLurker01 · 19/05/2025 22:06

Went to the Old Vic this weekend and toilets are now: accessible, cubicles or urinals. Soooo men have a single sex space (urinals) and women don’t as there were men entering the cubicled room. I had no choice but to use the accessible toilet and be very quick.

Is this lawful? Men have single sex provision but women do not.

CautiousLurker01 · 19/05/2025 22:06

Went to the Old Vic this weekend and toilets are now: accessible, cubicles or urinals. Soooo men have a single sex space (urinals) and women don’t as there were men entering the cubicled room. I had no choice but to use the accessible toilet and be very quick.

NPET · 17/11/2024 16:33

LivingLaVidaBabyShower · 17/11/2024 13:29

the Kevin spacey patronage debacle had me on the fence (they 💯 knew about all his goings on with numerous young men in the various productions) but the “new” toilets tipped me over the edge.

If this is what inclusive / be kind bollocks translates to you can keep it… because it’s not kind to me and doesn’t feel inclusive to me either.

I haven’t been in over 2 years now and am no worse off for it…

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I assume by "I havent been in 2 years", you mean the theatre, not...

LivingLaVidaBabyShower · 17/11/2024 13:29

the Kevin spacey patronage debacle had me on the fence (they 💯 knew about all his goings on with numerous young men in the various productions) but the “new” toilets tipped me over the edge.

If this is what inclusive / be kind bollocks translates to you can keep it… because it’s not kind to me and doesn’t feel inclusive to me either.

I haven’t been in over 2 years now and am no worse off for it…

NPET · 17/11/2024 13:23
  1. I can't use a urinal
  2. Therefore I'm being discriminated against
  3. It's illegal to discriminate against me
  4. Therefore something should be done

(I know what, but I'm just trying to spell things out carefully!)

Freda69 · 17/11/2024 12:12

I hope the OP has complained and also that everyone who boycotts the Old Vic has also complained and told them why they won’t go there.

ArabellaScott · 17/11/2024 11:32

Was that the one in which Oedipus sleeps with theys birthing person by accident, perhaps due to a failure in people accurately acknowledging biological and material reality?

(Edited to avoid misgendering the mofo)
(I can't parse the punctuation of 'theys' though, sorry)

nauticant · 17/11/2024 11:24

In fact, I was weighing up the two Oedipus productions that are going to be on and went for the one at Wyndham's Theatre because the other was going to be at The Old Vic.

nauticant · 17/11/2024 11:20

Rocknrollstar · 17/11/2024 10:40

We boycot that theatre because of the toilet situation. I can’t imagine what would have to be on to make us go there.

Same here too.

Walkingtheplank · 17/11/2024 11:07

We won't go to the Old Vic because of the loo situation. The whole thing is 2 fingers up to women - no thanks!

I've missed a few good shows including "Sylvia" - ironic that a show about female emancipation was att a theatre that disrespects women.

IsadoraQuagmire · 17/11/2024 11:03

Rocknrollstar · 17/11/2024 10:40

We boycot that theatre because of the toilet situation. I can’t imagine what would have to be on to make us go there.

Me too. Along with several other theatres.

ArabellaScott · 17/11/2024 10:55

Changingplace · 17/11/2024 10:51

Or if the person directing makes an incorrect assumption about a persons ‘gender’ - the fact they need someone there directing people is an absolute shit show of an idea.

A group of gender non conforming people should all approach to test the system. Are they scrying for genitalia to suggest appropriate facilities, or some inscrutable inner essence?

Changingplace · 17/11/2024 10:51

ArabellaScott · 17/11/2024 10:34

Wtf do they do when a gender non conforming person approaches? One could do some interesting research.

Or if the person directing makes an incorrect assumption about a persons ‘gender’ - the fact they need someone there directing people is an absolute shit show of an idea.

BellaBlythe · 17/11/2024 10:48

We rarely go to any theatre these days for two reasons to do with comfort. Ladies Loos; never enough capacity.
Seating, DH is just over 6ft, not a giant but the sitting space is so cramped. We realise that it is almost impossible to change the way the seats are stepped but someone needs to replace these old buildings.

Rocknrollstar · 17/11/2024 10:40

We boycot that theatre because of the toilet situation. I can’t imagine what would have to be on to make us go there.

ArabellaScott · 17/11/2024 10:34

Wtf do they do when a gender non conforming person approaches? One could do some interesting research.