Being gay does not mean you are signed up to a particular ideology or political belief.
I think this has been one thing that woke me up to issues; why did everyone gay automatically have to be left wing and have to support the concept of changing sex? I am not talking about the US where this is much more complex due to the degree of influence of religion, but within the UK. The idea of a Conservative gay man or woman is one which is really overlooked and yet we have a considerable number of them, including some fairly prominant examples. Why? Do your political views have to match your legally recognised protected traits?!
So yes of course we have an LGBT+ ideology going on which is making this assumption that everyone who falls into a certain group should believe the same thing. This is different from being simply actually being gay. One is a political movement and one is the state of being gay which is by default neutral in political terms as its just a state of being.
I think it would be wise to draw distinction between the two for many reasons.
I do think we need to start acknowledging and accepting there is a militancy at the edges of this which is out of control and is having a negative effect on parts of society which have nothing to do with merely being a clash with religious conservative views.
The idea that if you are part of the community you MUST adhere to its tenants and all its belief structure without questioning them, is one of those concerns because its coercive, undemocratic and unaccountable. And yes dangerous. That goes for ANY community.
This is what others are seeing within the pushing of LGBT+ as a political force. And yes the opposite response has elements which are equally batshit and militant but its not happened within a bubble and without gradual esculation due to the polarisation that has occured.
Step it down a notch everywhere and expose the nutters as nutters all round, rather than enabling either extreme to take it to the next level.