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Butlin's Skegness removes 5 trans women from female toilets

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TERFtown · 09/10/2024 20:19

https://x.com/ripx4nutmeg/status/1843952648460140987?s=46&t=p6GESSn09HWHVXYgTLIbJg

(I don't want to call them "trans women", but I don't know what terminology gets me banned here!)

"Security guards removed five cross-dressing men, including this one, from the women's toilets at Bang Face, a dance festival at Butlin's Skegness this weekend. The men responded with a coordinated protest and the security guards have now "been removed""

Anyone up for a TERFy weekend in Butlin's?!? Wine

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OuterSpaceCadet · 11/10/2024 08:30

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 10/10/2024 23:26

That picture is quite sad.

What do they think about themselves, really?do they look at that picture and think ‘pretty ‘? Or ‘female’ , or ‘fanciable’ or …..what?

I’m not pretending, I do feel really sorry, to be that messed up, to be so unhappy with one of the basic definitions of yourself, must be grim

( still doesn’t mean you should be waving your defining part around in women’s spaces, though)

Yes. Although it unfortunately also indicates what they think of women.

You can only have a humiliation kink about being a woman in a society that subjugates women. They are the patriarchy personified.

eatfigs · 11/10/2024 00:50

Behaving like a woman apparently means getting your todger out in the ladies' toilets. Who knew eh.

NPET · 10/10/2024 23:54

BettyFilous · 10/10/2024 07:43

It’s only partially relevant that this was an over 18s event. The important takeaway is that Butlins were cowed by TRA pressure and their security staff are unlikely risk their jobs by challenging males in their female facilities in future. They basically just rolled out a welcome mat for any predator who wants to exploit this policy and operational loophole to access women and children in their female facilities. For a company that largely serves families, it’s not the sharpest business strategy.

Yes I certainly won't consider them. I suppose I'm not the sort of person they expect to be considering them, but that's irrelevant. I shall tell friends not to bother with them.

ToffeeSquirrels · 10/10/2024 23:29

'Dragged out' oh the irony.

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 10/10/2024 23:26

That picture is quite sad.

What do they think about themselves, really?do they look at that picture and think ‘pretty ‘? Or ‘female’ , or ‘fanciable’ or …..what?

I’m not pretending, I do feel really sorry, to be that messed up, to be so unhappy with one of the basic definitions of yourself, must be grim

( still doesn’t mean you should be waving your defining part around in women’s spaces, though)

Boiledbeetle · 10/10/2024 23:14

Waitwhat23 · 10/10/2024 22:44

For anyone who hasn't encountered the delightful 'Beth' before- it's this dude.

Ooh, you've included a shot of four of the six who were afraid to go to the toilet on their own in case they were set upon by a terf, and obviously it was totally unsafe for them to use the gents in Holyrood!

Butlin's Skegness removes 5 trans women from female toilets
Screamingabdabz · 10/10/2024 23:10

Notamum12345577 · 10/10/2024 09:01

Were they cross drawing or trans? There is a difference. Cross dressing is what it says on the tin, they are just dressing in women’s clothes sometimes. If trans they are living full time dressed as a woman/trying to behave as a woman does.

What do women dress like? What do women behave like? What is living like a woman?

Is there a tick box for men to follow and then they’re magically different to other men?

No. There isn’t.

XChrome · 10/10/2024 22:56

Waitwhat23 · 10/10/2024 22:44

For anyone who hasn't encountered the delightful 'Beth' before- it's this dude.

Looks like a skinning knife.
"It rubs the lotion on itself and does whatever it's told."

Waitwhat23 · 10/10/2024 22:44

Boiledbeetle · 10/10/2024 16:49

Five transwomen in the toilets together!

Reminds me of the toilet trips the transwomen watching the whole GRR (Scotland) Bill debacle from the public gallery made, as they were too scared to go on their own in case they were set upon by a terf! (Those transwomen that included Beth - as in that MSPs "I did it for Beth" speech Beth)

Boiledbeetle January 2023

REAL WOMEN VISIT TOILETS IN GROUPS

We have to pass the gents, and are scared, of the men who lurk by the door,
with their cocks out, quite freely, in all their galore.

So we wait, until there are six of us, and all go as a team.
Because also, in the ladies, the women aren’t as kind as they might seem.

They have a go. They tut, or scream. And can sound rather shrill,
as they look in shock, at my cock, as I get my sexual thrill.

We have been offered new third spaces, to be accommodating.
But we’ve screwed our nose at those, as they aren’t exactly validating.

But have no fear, us real woman have one more card to play.
If we are really desperate we’ll pee anywhere anyway.

For anyone who hasn't encountered the delightful 'Beth' before- it's this dude.

Butlin's Skegness removes 5 trans women from female toilets
Hairyesterdaygonetoday · 10/10/2024 22:37

Notamum12345577 · 10/10/2024 09:01

Were they cross drawing or trans? There is a difference. Cross dressing is what it says on the tin, they are just dressing in women’s clothes sometimes. If trans they are living full time dressed as a woman/trying to behave as a woman does.

But the difference is only in the men’s imagination. It makes no difference to a woman what the man in the women’s toilets thinks. He’s as dangerous to her however he dresses.

overindulged · 10/10/2024 21:37

The contact form for butlins doesn't work...

XChrome · 10/10/2024 21:06

@@BonfireLady said;

If I believed I had a gender identity, I think I'd be demi-meteo-chronodirectional-gender-fluid.

😄 Okay, so it appears that now there are 75 genders.
We can add it to this list.

https://www.medicinenet.com/what_are_the_72_other_genders/article.htm

DdraigGoch · 10/10/2024 20:30

Maddy70 · 10/10/2024 08:19

This...... its the ethos of the festival. Security were most likely acting on drug-taking

Ah yes, I remember an incident involving the former mayor of Bangor where friends of his theirs (butchering the language is a pain) was chucked out of a nightclub. The ex-councillor claimed that security were transphobic, but in practice if any group of people go into a nightclub toilet together the bouncers will be removing them immediately because the venue cannot afford to risk their licence.

But if your theory is correct (and it does sound plausible), do Butlins subsequent actions mean that some people can ignore the rules the rest of us must follow?

Bodeganights · 10/10/2024 19:39

Notamum12345577 · 10/10/2024 09:01

Were they cross drawing or trans? There is a difference. Cross dressing is what it says on the tin, they are just dressing in women’s clothes sometimes. If trans they are living full time dressed as a woman/trying to behave as a woman does.

Sigh.

How do we tell the cross dressers from the tru trans and why would either be in the womens?

TwistedWonder · 10/10/2024 18:17

HandDefence · 10/10/2024 14:42

Which pretty much shows that it doesn’t matter whether they have a cock and balk's, full beard, hairy chest, wife and kids - if they say they’re a woman then that’s enough and the entire world is expected to pander to their delusions

Fenlandia · 10/10/2024 17:25

Notamum12345577 · 10/10/2024 15:25

I knew I would get picked up on however I worded it. ‘Living full time as a woman’ is I believe the accepted term, but obviously I would get picked up on that phrase here. So I was trying to find a better one. If you prefer ‘trans people pretend to be women full time, while corse dressers just do it on occasion’.

Thanks for the reply but I just don't understand what 'living as a woman means', which is why I pick up on it every time I see or hear it, and ask people to unpack what they mean. The phrase has so many holes in it you could drive a bus through it.

MistyGreenAndBlue · 10/10/2024 17:06

Notamum12345577 · 10/10/2024 15:25

I knew I would get picked up on however I worded it. ‘Living full time as a woman’ is I believe the accepted term, but obviously I would get picked up on that phrase here. So I was trying to find a better one. If you prefer ‘trans people pretend to be women full time, while corse dressers just do it on occasion’.

You want to tell Pips Bunce that. Or whatever his name is this week- Izzard
Trans is now whatever they say it is.

Boiledbeetle · 10/10/2024 16:49

Five transwomen in the toilets together!

Reminds me of the toilet trips the transwomen watching the whole GRR (Scotland) Bill debacle from the public gallery made, as they were too scared to go on their own in case they were set upon by a terf! (Those transwomen that included Beth - as in that MSPs "I did it for Beth" speech Beth)

Boiledbeetle January 2023

REAL WOMEN VISIT TOILETS IN GROUPS

We have to pass the gents, and are scared, of the men who lurk by the door,
with their cocks out, quite freely, in all their galore.

So we wait, until there are six of us, and all go as a team.
Because also, in the ladies, the women aren’t as kind as they might seem.

They have a go. They tut, or scream. And can sound rather shrill,
as they look in shock, at my cock, as I get my sexual thrill.

We have been offered new third spaces, to be accommodating.
But we’ve screwed our nose at those, as they aren’t exactly validating.

But have no fear, us real woman have one more card to play.
If we are really desperate we’ll pee anywhere anyway.

Chersfrozenface · 10/10/2024 16:20

ArabellaScott · 10/10/2024 16:14

I know what you mean. There is a suggestion there's a difference between the two. In practice, there is no clear dividing line.

Or any way of telling the difference.

ArabellaScott · 10/10/2024 16:14

Notamum12345577 · 10/10/2024 15:25

I knew I would get picked up on however I worded it. ‘Living full time as a woman’ is I believe the accepted term, but obviously I would get picked up on that phrase here. So I was trying to find a better one. If you prefer ‘trans people pretend to be women full time, while corse dressers just do it on occasion’.

I know what you mean. There is a suggestion there's a difference between the two. In practice, there is no clear dividing line.

BonfireLady · 10/10/2024 16:14

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 10/10/2024 15:36

So what seems to have happened is

person of possibly masculine build with a beard goes into toilet ( not ‘bathroom’ please, this is Skegness) . Security guard ‘cis’ female attempts to stop bearded person. Unclear whether other four born male persons are already i. The female facility, but security guards ( two) attempt to eject them. persons in question do not leave. Security calls for back up, attempts to make them leave.

What happens next is not clear because no one is under oath, and no one (surprisingly ) was filming, but it seems to have degenerated into attempted and resisted forcible removal. One person lost their wig, literally not metaphorically.

Butlins grovel, blame contractors….blah blah blah. People post on Twitter about how this shows they are the most marginalised etc, ignoring that most women would just vacate a facility if told to by a security guard.

One person lost their wig, literally not metaphorically.

I wonder if it was thrown down in protest or came off in the "scuffle". I wish I had saved the clip of the TW (in the US I think, maybe standing outside a fast food place??) who was having a go at a lady.... and when the lady didn't get intimidated by the performance the TW ripped the wig off and threw it to the floor. It was quite the reveal: if I can't persuade you with my "ladylike" ranting, I'll show you a different side of myself.

Security guards getting heavy handed is a horrible thing to watch, in any scenario. But it's the inevitable conclusion if people don't do what's been asked of them. I remember a night club bouncer threatening me with removal. I had spoken up in defence of my then boyfriend who had simply been standing by the stage when some people were messing about - I was standing next to him when he got spoken to by security. I told them he wasn't involved and they got bolshy in return. I knew that my only option was to stop talking as they had all the power (which obviously isn't always fair but it's what happens when you've got sober bouncers and drunk people). If things ended in an actual scuffle there will have been some kind of build up.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 10/10/2024 16:10

Hi Bonfire, thanks and all good 😊

BonfireLady · 10/10/2024 15:59

Perhaps that pp was trying to get their head around what "living like a woman" really looks like? Because the impression I'm getting is, anything goes and the more flamboyant, out there , public and loud, the better

Fair point. My sarcasm was at the situation rather than the PP but it won't necessarily have come across that way. I remember exploring similar things when I did believe that everyone had a gender identity, so apologies if that was the case and my sarcasm felt like an attack on such an exploration. It wasn't.

SirChenjins · 10/10/2024 15:48

Notamum12345577 · 10/10/2024 15:25

I knew I would get picked up on however I worded it. ‘Living full time as a woman’ is I believe the accepted term, but obviously I would get picked up on that phrase here. So I was trying to find a better one. If you prefer ‘trans people pretend to be women full time, while corse dressers just do it on occasion’.

’men pretend to be women full time’

Getonwitit · 10/10/2024 15:47

Oh dear Butlins, bye bye