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Premiere of Trans Widows Film on Friday 30th Aug

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TinselAngel · 26/08/2024 18:43

Vaishnavi Sundar's long awaited documentary that was three years in the making, is having a worldwide premiere on the 30th of August, 7pm UK time.

Behind The Looking Glass is a feature-length film about the lives of women whose partners have/want to medically transition.

This is the link for the premiere:

Premiere of Trans Widows Film on Friday 30th Aug
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FOJN · 31/08/2024 09:10

TinselAngel · 31/08/2024 08:56

Apparently it's already had 12,000 views.

Now nearly 14,000. I'm just about to watch it for the second time. It's powerful and beautifully done.

Remember to like the film and add a comment (just emojis will do) it helps to get it circulating.

LoobiJee · 31/08/2024 09:02

TinselAngel · 31/08/2024 08:54

There wasn't a male writer?

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Derrick Jensen?

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TinselAngel · 31/08/2024 08:56

Apparently it's already had 12,000 views.

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TinselAngel · 31/08/2024 08:54

LoobiJee · 31/08/2024 07:52

One thing I didn’t understand was who the male writer was, and why he was in the film. If there was an explanation, I missed it.

There wasn't a male writer?

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Livinginaclock · 31/08/2024 07:56

What amazing, strong women, everybody needs to watch this.

LoobiJee · 31/08/2024 07:52

One thing I didn’t understand was who the male writer was, and why he was in the film. If there was an explanation, I missed it.

ArabellaScott · 31/08/2024 07:40

Janie Flowers

I'm so glad you got out. All my best to you and your children.

Janie143 · 31/08/2024 07:29

I cried most of the way through that. It was so powerful and brave. My XH was an abuser in every way especially sexually by forcing me to participate in his xcross dressing and bdsm fetish. It was mostly by cohesive methods but occasionally physical when that didn't work. He was abusive to the kids and they were terrified of him. My biggest regret is I didn't see it (boiled frog) until he really ramped up abuse of DD as she started puberty. I went to Women's aid as I thought he "might" have been abusive towards her. I now realise that was because he was so jealous of her growing into the women he longed be. It still took 2.years for me to get out with women's aid help. When XH wasn't eating sleeping or working he was shut in his office watching porn. No one dared go in there or touch his computer. He is now transitioning and told my eldest his behavior towards us was due his frustration on living a lie (kids knew nothing about the xdressing) My eldest was the last of the kids to go no contact after seeing a psychologist who helped them to finally stop having anything to do with their father due to FOG (fear obligation and gulit) One of my kids was sexually abused (not by thier father I'd left him by then) They also saw a psychologist. Of course what happened with thier father also came out during the sessions and they had EDMR for PTSD due to that and the sexual assault as part of the therapy. Sorry that was so long but that film really clarified a lot of things Thank you so much to tinsel and all who put it together ❤️

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TinselAngel · 30/08/2024 23:19

DrSpartacular · 30/08/2024 22:50

Very powerful and moving, wonderful animation and good spread of experiences among contributors.

😘

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Dadhouse · 30/08/2024 23:19

I've been on Mumsnet since it was all fields, and I'm very proud of the huge amount of support it has been to so many over the years. Pleased to hear it positively name checked.

FallinUltra · 30/08/2024 23:11

It is one hell of a powerful film. It is about time the world learns about the abusive nature of these relationships.

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TinselAngel · 30/08/2024 23:04

If there's typos, I've had a lot of Prosecco.

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TinselAngel · 30/08/2024 23:03

Yes, and the agony aunt advice
I've always said it was Marjorie Proops fault that I ended up in the situation I was in.

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Lovelyview · 30/08/2024 22:55

Melroses · 30/08/2024 22:30

Wow - amazing. Great to have such a good film about something we should have heard more about. The bit about the old 'guidance manual' for psychiatrists telling how wives and wives-to-be should be managed was eye-opening.

Yes, and the agony aunt advice 😳

ellenback21 · 30/08/2024 22:50

I was going to watch a snippet and then bookmark for another evening, but I became completely engrossed and just finished watching the whole film.

DrSpartacular · 30/08/2024 22:50

Very powerful and moving, wonderful animation and good spread of experiences among contributors.

Lovelyview · 30/08/2024 22:45

That was an amazing film. Well done to everyone involved in it.

Melroses · 30/08/2024 22:30

Wow - amazing. Great to have such a good film about something we should have heard more about. The bit about the old 'guidance manual' for psychiatrists telling how wives and wives-to-be should be managed was eye-opening.

LoobiJee · 30/08/2024 22:16

Just finished watching it. What strong, brave, resilient women.

Dadhouse · 30/08/2024 22:16

Wow.
Thank you to all the amazing, articulate contributers.
And thank you to the team behind the project - crew, production & direction , you have made a fantastic piece of work. You should be very proud of your contribution and brave vision. You told their stories with great skill.

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TinselAngel · 30/08/2024 21:55

It's been an emotional evening!

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TeamPolin · 30/08/2024 21:22

Very powerful stuff. The experiences of the children was particularly difficult to listen to.

Congrats to the filmmakers. A very important film that needed to be made.

WomanWithoutNeedOfPrefix · 30/08/2024 21:06

Well worth a watch and beautifully animated. Well done to everyone involved - I hope it reaches a wide audience.

AReasonablePerson · 30/08/2024 20:58

It's a wonderful piece of work. Huge thanks to everyone who participated and most especially to @TinselAngel It is so moving and inspirational.

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