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My husband is woke

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WizbetisaNizbet · 03/03/2019 12:21

Just that really.

He spotted something I wrote on here and stated it was “hate filled.” Nope it was an innocuous comment of the signatories of the letter in the Scottish Herald. He’s quoted Owen Jones at me “you’re on the wrong side of history.”

He ignores what I say when I try to talk about why I don’t agree with what is going, on telling me that I am denying trans people their rights. I ask him how my refuse to use pronouns denies anyone thier rights or what rights are being denied but he can’t seem to answer me. When I give him examples in answer to his questions he doesn’t want to talk about specific examples that are relevant.

He can’t see what the problem is about women’s sports, self-ID etc. He also keeps telling me I side with Trump (no). To be honest i’m fed up and upset that he won’t listen to my trying to explain to him why women are so upset and angry.

This is just a vent by the way.

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InionEile · 03/03/2019 12:25

If he’s so woke, tell him he needs to check his male cisheteronormative* privilege. Woke folk are all about checking the privilege! Yet very few of the woke bros seem to really think about how their perspective on trans rights is bound up with male privilege.

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GoGoJo · 03/03/2019 12:24

Yeah my housemate is the same. It's very frustrating. Especially when he says "I don't care about any sports" as if that is a reason to completely destroy women's competitions!

YouBumder · 03/03/2019 12:23

My husband is similar (although he wouldn’t support trans people in sports competing as their chosen gender) in his case I don’t think he’s “woke” as such, more just not checking his male privilege