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AI "relationships"

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SunshineTrumpet · 11/11/2026 13:54

If you were in a committed relationship with someone and you discovered they had an app that generated an AI girlfriend or boyfriend, would you regard that as cheating?
It seems less bad than say messaging people on dating sites because there's no human at the other end of the conversation / pictures aren't real etc and it could never turn into anything more than the fantasy it is. Nobody is getting exploited, as would be the case with sex workers. So from that perspective, it's no different than reading erotic fiction, right?
But at the same time, the partner is investing emotional energy and getting kicks from the things the AI says to them - so from the point of view of their partner, is it reasonable to feel that they are cheating?
What do you think? Is it worth getting upset about?

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whatnetxtocome · 11/11/2026 23:39

Ive seen a few docs on this sort of thing.
its not cheating i dont think it is.
But if it helps them let them be, the way the world is i dont blame men or women choosing it tbh.

ThisHazelCrow · Yesterday 00:36

Cheating and unhinged. Deal breakers.

TheLastSilverSaint · Yesterday 01:52

GumyBand · 11/11/2026 22:43

What about if they were having fantasy masturbation sessions with the bot and not as much or no sex with the human partner?

Any sexless relationship would bother me, but it wouldn’t be made any worse just because they happened to pick AI as their alternative. It wouldn’t be any worse to me than someone having a sexless relationship because they’re wanking to their own imagination all the time.

JJMama · Yesterday 17:53

DisplayPurposesOnly · 11/11/2026 14:04

I wouldn't regard it as cheating.

I would consider the person unable to function in the real world which would mean that we are incompatible.

This! Wouldn’t class it as cheating but pathetic!

dh280125 · Yesterday 17:56

It would seem childish to me. Ick territory.

Laura95167 · Yesterday 19:11

Id end it not because I think its cheating.. but treating it like it real and having an emotional attachment to it would be too strange to tolerate.

nomoreraintoday · Yesterday 20:33

Not cheating but unbelievably pathetic

AnnoyedAsAllHeck · Today 02:55

No thank you.

The horror movie to follow is writing itself...the AI girlfriend is jealous of the real life wife, so decides to do her in by controlling electronic functions around the house...she ends up killing them both and moves on to her next "boyfriend"...rinse and repeat until she meets her match in the movie star heroine...who saves her husband and the next victims...

Specialneedsnightmare · Today 02:57

Irritableowlwan · 11/11/2026 13:56

Seriously you can generate a boyfriend or girlfriend? Thats creepy.

Have you seen the internet ads that pop up for an AI boyfriend? They are seriously disturbing..

Mummadeze · Today 10:52

… off to look up how to do this! It sounds good for people like me who are straight but have been put off men for life!

Baldrapunzel · Today 10:54

DisplayPurposesOnly · 11/11/2026 14:04

I wouldn't regard it as cheating.

I would consider the person unable to function in the real world which would mean that we are incompatible.

Absolutely this

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