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Robbing from Tesco with impunity *edited by MNHQ*

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KatherineSwynford1403 · 11/08/2023 09:14

I just got off a bus outside a Tesco that is a short walk from where I work to buy some yogurt and fruit for breakfast. On the bus there were three horrendous guys - loud, under the influence, scruffy, swearing, F-ing and Jeffing across the aisles at each other. They got off at the same stop - well, burst off the bus laughing - and burst into Tesco. I watched them saunter up to the booze aisle laughing as they went, nick a bottle of spirits each and walk out laughing in front of all the staff (floorwalking).

I challenged one of the members of staff (a big guy who could handle himself) as to if he was going to let them get away with it. He says they come in every morning and help themselves and nobody is allowed to touch or challenge them. They've contacted the police who don't want to know.

I told him "Right, see you then, I'm helping myself to these strawberries and this yogurt, have a nice day!" and he said I was OK to do that!!! Of course I told him I was joking and I paid.

How in hell have we got to this state of affairs in this country? Or my town specifically?

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ChaToilLeam · 11/08/2023 10:48

I don’t blame the staff, of course they don’t want to be injured in the course of doing their not incredibly well paid jobs.

Police need to get their house in order and their priorities right: not pursuing Twitter posters for wrongthink or manhandling terrified autistic girls, but actually going after and dealing with genuine criminals. That takes a bit more effort and guts though, and support from the government too.

Midwinterblues · 11/08/2023 10:45

Where are people’s morals in all this (the perpetrators I mean)? The moral compass of society has been knocked away hasn’t it, we used to know what was right and wrong and we acted accordingly - doesn’t have to be about religion either but our own sense of morality.
The fact that some people are excusing it is interesting too.

And I love your username OP, one of my favourite historical figures (and book!).

TheGaffer · 11/08/2023 10:45

And that was in 1993….so things haven’t changed that much…

Theunamedcat · 11/08/2023 10:44

Bluevelvetsofa · 11/08/2023 10:42

It’s a sad reflection on the society we are becoming, or have become, that we accept stealing as inevitable. What’s next? Will it soon be acceptable to ignore violence?

We already do ignore violence especially if its towards women and children

TheGaffer · 11/08/2023 10:44

Many years ago I worked in Safeway and almost exactly the same thing happened…local bad boy walzed in picked up a couple of cases of beer off the shelf and wakes right out giving me a wink on his way out the door..right past the duty manager. I asked the duty manager if I should call the police…he looked embarrassed but said better not to. I was baffled at the time why he was allowed to do this meanwhile the poor single mum who had snuck in some toothpaste down the back of the buggy was stopped and searched on the way out and the police called on her.
The shop workers are scared and typically live in communities right beside these horrors..there is no way you want to attract trouble to yourself on a minimum wage.
that local bad boy is currently festering in prison having been found guilty of multiple murders and physical violence.
I despair, but I understand. Without a guaranteed protection of the police, why would you invite possible personal retribution on yourself?

Bluevelvetsofa · 11/08/2023 10:42

It’s a sad reflection on the society we are becoming, or have become, that we accept stealing as inevitable. What’s next? Will it soon be acceptable to ignore violence?

parklifeee · 11/08/2023 10:42

RudsyFarmer · 11/08/2023 10:16

I think let’s see how far this shit goes. A social policy experiment if you will.

Let’s fawn to the all those who demand to be treated as victims. Submit to those who commit crime and arrest those who disagree with the bourgeoisie.

Well, eventually you get the breakdown of society as the social norms and values which held society together collapse and the people who are currently doing "the right thing" stop doing the right thing because they see everyone else getting away with doing the wrong thing and getting rewarded for it. I think we are getting very close to that point. Just things like how much rubbish and littering is everywhere and how people seem to care less and less about their immediate environment is a sign of this imo.

Itsnotrightbutitsok · 11/08/2023 10:41

Why TF would you challenge the staff about it?

Why did you not go and challenge the 3 men who were actually committing the crime?

Why is this guy on minimum wage going to go and get the shit kicked out of him by 3 men, just for them to come back tomorrow and do the same thing.

I saw an incident in Aldi and had to give a police statement.

A man went in and stole alcohol.
The security man asked politely to search his bags and then man refused, it escalated and the man punched the security guard in the face and ran. The security guy ran after him and tackled him to the ground and took back the alcohol.

The man who stole and punched the security guy got a slap on the wrist.
The security guy got fine for assault because he tackled him and got sacked from his job.

It’s sometimes not worth it to confront them.

I do think the police should be doing more though and these people need consequences for their actions, as it’s not fair on those of us who struggle to pay our bills and still pay for things.

We have a serious alcohol and drug problem in this country and this is a common issue in many shops.

KatherineSwynford1403 · 11/08/2023 10:40

Combusting · 11/08/2023 10:24

You will understand that this is likely to be interpreted as a made up story. —which it is— possibly.

Grow up.

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Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 11/08/2023 10:38

chimneydifficult · 11/08/2023 09:23

Yes, because a 100% true story that someone posted on a forum means the whole world is heading towards barbarism.

Do you read NYT?

girlfriend44 · 11/08/2023 10:37

How low is society going?

They shouldn't have been on the bus acting like they were either.
Should have not been.let on, or thrown off.

KimberleyClark · 11/08/2023 10:36

RudsyFarmer · 11/08/2023 10:09

i saw a news piece yesterday where one of the state Mayors in America was correcting the language of a reporter who described a group of disaffected youth committing crime as a ‘mob’. Apparently that term is problematic. The large gathering of criminal young people was fine. But calling them a ‘mob’ was the thing to crack down on. It’s fascinating.

Well, the Mob means something different in America doesn’t it?

Keyworks · 11/08/2023 10:35

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AlanJohnsonsBeamer · 11/08/2023 10:34

Happens where I live in the SE

ginghamstarfish · 11/08/2023 10:33

Also can't help thinking, if instead of 3 aggressive men stealing booze, it was 3 elderly women stealing food, I bet someone would suddenly be able to confront them, when there's no risk of being knifed.

DontBeAPrickDarren · 11/08/2023 10:33

Theunamedcat · 11/08/2023 09:15

That's not normal

It’s apparently more “normal” than you think:

https://www.bbc.com/news/business-66323140

There were about 1,000 cases of crime, shoplifting and anti-social behaviour in its shops every day in the six months to June

and that’s just the co-op

Co-op store attack

Co-op warns rising crime could create 'no-go' areas for shops

The retailer says crime levels in its stores have shot up by more than one third over the past year.

https://www.bbc.com/news/business-66323140

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 11/08/2023 10:33

I was in my local Tesco Express to collect a parcel yesterday, and got some bits of shopping at the same time. As I walked out the security alarm blared and none of the staff blinked an eye. When I went back in it turned out the wine I’d bought had a tag on it that the till person hadn’t deactivated - he said it happens all the time and they are just so used to it they don’t even register the alarm.

DriftingDora · 11/08/2023 10:33

..Yes, it's amazing how the Police always manage to find the resources when they want to...anything involving a showbiz personality usually gets them turning out in force (pun intentional..).

Maireas · 11/08/2023 10:31

MumblesParty · 11/08/2023 10:27

male security guards should dress as women, engage in conversation with the shoplifters, wait till the shoplifter misgenders them, then call the police. They’d be there straight away!

Love this! 😂

OnedayIwillfeelfree · 11/08/2023 10:30

mrsjoyfulprizeforraffiawork · 11/08/2023 09:23

This happens regularly in our local Boots (otherwise pleasant, very community-minded outer London suburb).

Forest Hill? They even keep cans of deodorant and tubes of sun cream behind the till now as the druggies would just walk in and brazenly steal them to sell on. I wouldn’t challenge them either. My life is worth more than £20 worth of toiletries.

ginghamstarfish · 11/08/2023 10:30

RoyalMint · 11/08/2023 10:13

And yet the police have resources to arrest people for praying silently, or interview people for posting anti-woke tweets, or send in an entire squad to seize someone's collection of gollywogs.

Was a out to say the same thing. God, what a state society is in. Glad I'm old sometimes.

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 11/08/2023 10:29

It was covered on newsnight this week. Security cannot do anything as they have little power. Every one has a mobile phone and can record it which isn’t good for the shop.
police are under funded so it’s not a priority. Even though it’s part of a wider picture

RudsyFarmer · 11/08/2023 10:29

It’s interesting how blaming institutions is SO much easier than parenting your children.

Daisyhillsareblooming · 11/08/2023 10:28

@KatherineSwynford1403 I have no idea, I thought it was really odd. Probably a health and safety issue 🙄