Pull a sicky or tell the truth? Wwyd

Sickie.
But for the love of God, don't put on the sick voice

I thought from the OP this was going to be a 14 or 15 year old who was looking at modelling as a serious career, not a 6 year old.

I am a manager of a team. I would try to make it work as it is obviously important to you and your child (we all find different things valuable even if modelling). Obviously if this started being requested every week we would need to look at a better solution but if it genuinely is a one off and would make the team short for one day only then I would try to accomodate, I can cover and as a manager I should at times. This would be for team morale and because we work a stressful job, all my team work hard and are dedicated so I do try and give flexibility where we can. Depends a lot I think on your manager and work place as I would be able to ask and discuss this with my team and senior manager and not be told a blanket no. I hope your son enjoys the day and you are able to go.

Och pull a sicky. Isn't the end of the world.

And you think employers really give a shit about their staff ? Their just numbers and they would dump the op in a heartbeat .

This little nugget of BS is always used on Mumsnet when someone wants to do something that wouldn't be acceptable at work. It's childish

For those saying take a sick day, you do realise this is actually stealing from your company. It is not melodramatic. If your boss left £80 on their desk and there was a thread saying WIBU to pocket it, there would be 100% YABU. Fur some reason, pulling a sickie, where you get paid by your company when you are off on a jolly somewhere, is seen as different.
Be honest. Explain that this is important and you want to take annual leave but you really need to have a day off. Hopefully they will be fine. Why is it so last minute? Can they not give you more warning?

I think you have different views from mine if you think it is a huge opportunity.

I'm struggling with how attending a photoshoot is a fantastic opportunity for a child. I don't understand how encouraging a child to pursue something so shallow and commercial can be to their future benefit.

As a manager I sometimes have to make exceptions around holiday requests. This wouldn't cut it with me I'm afraid, I'd expect a friend or relative to take him. If it were related to his health or future educational opportunities that would be different.

For everyone saying take a sickie I hope you don't complain if your long waited for NHS appointment gets cancelled or you can't get through on a call line or your childminder isn't available. If you work in a job that isn't critical then surely you can take leave or work the hours back otherwise you are letting everyone down!

You say that like it's a badge of honor.

To most employers you are simply a number, a very replaceable one at that. Unless you're a top lifesaving surgeon or have a skill set nobody else in your entire field has, you might not be as important as you seem to think. There really is no pride in going into work sick, in fact that's pretty selfish for everyone around you.

OP, pull a sicky. It's a one off. (I'm assuming you'll look into arranging chaperones with the agency going forward when you have more time). Especially if you're someone who usually has great attendance, most people in reality, not the warped MN, would be pulling a sicky in your position! Ignore the majority of people on here who are acting like pulling a sicky is equivalent to murdering a puppy. They are either arse lickers, deluded or, most likely managers - the bad type of manager who cannot possibly cope when they have to actually manage a team, or God forbid do some extra work their selves when things crop up.

Say child is sick rather than you - saves you having to explain being miraculously better the next day.

What is it? Do you have time to arrange parental leave?

I sometime take a sick day just because I "need" a day to recentre, so I'm not completely by the book on this, but I couldn't take a sick day and then be out and about around town.

It doesn't have to be a parent who takes them. My mum has taken DS1 to a big modelling job when I had to work. As long as they have a suitable adult doing drop off and collect, or staying if they aren't being chaperoned.

I was recently in a similar situation.

I decided to have a last minute unavoidable appointment that I'd been waiting for for months, so it gave my employer a few days to make a back up plan for us both being out of the office.

I absolutely hated myself mind you, but I knew that being honest would have resulted in a no. And I couldn't have a no.

I'd literally let my kid do modelling once to see what it's like. And then not until an adult when they can decide. Horrible pernicious appearance focused shit.

I’m sure when you’re on your death bed OP you’re not going to be thinking I wish I had worked instead of having the day with my son.

I’m probably sanctimonious but I would tell the truth. I’d feel a tiny guilt (with pride) every time I saw him online advertising clothes.

If this is a success what are your plans? I presume you can employ chaperones, is that what happens for child actors?

100% do it. Family first always.
best of luck to your son with this wonderful oppurtunity

@rand0mstuff

Precisely

Ridiculous scenario

Exactly.

And he is 6? How sad

How is a photo shoot for a 6 year old a 'huge opportunity'? It won't lead to a career or anything.

I wouldn't throw a sickie for it. Not fair on your colleagues. Just find someone else to take him or wait for another chance. It it unlikely to alter DS's life at that age.

Could you take it as a childcare day?

Absolutely pull a sicky!

Congrats to DS!

Shouldn't the title of this thread actually read ' Tell a lie or tell the truth.?

Why not have some morals and do what you're being paid to do?

Every time a thread on here contains a comment about someone lying, the first reaction is to say that lying is a line that shouldn't be crossed.

Yet here we are, some young boy wants to pose for the camera and a lot of answers are saying just pull a sicky. I have never, ever pulled a sicky and haven't had a single day off when actually sick in over 25 year.