Pissed off at DH making breakfast

I hear ya op

It's his love language, cooking for you is how he shows his support and care for you. It's sweet that he did it, but you'd appreciate a little bit more thought and consideration for your new normal.

I can't count how many times I've asked my husband to stop offering me snacks, sweet, unhealthy foods as I want to eat healthier. He says how proud he is and agrees to do as I ask. Then the Next night will come back from the shop with a huge chocolate bar, 1 for each of us.
I know his thought process was that he wanted to get me something as a treat, and that's where he stops thinking.

Yes it is frustrating and yes it can feel like they're trying to undermine what we're doing, and they're not supporting us. It does help to remember though that they're just men, and men bless their hearts don't in general have much thinking capacity 🙄

What lack of willpower? The OP wanted banana on toast. She had banana on toast despite fried food being waved in her face. Her willpower sounds fine. He doesn't like it though.

This fetishing of protein whatever the quality i.e completely ignoring the cancer inducing nitrates in the sausage and bacon is absolutely bizarre. Bananas have fibre in them, fibre slows the absorption of carbs so hardly going to be a high and low hit like a Marsbar

You can’t blame him for your lack of willpower! Some protein for breakfast is also good. I get how stressful it is though when you’re having cravings. It might sound strange because it’s high in fat but adding raw grass fed milk to your diet and having 2-3 glasses a day satisfies a lot of cravings. It’s the closest thing to a complete meal you can get, the only thing it lacks is iron. Also, finding ways to really boost your metabolism is hugely important. HIIT exercise is a good way to do this.

I would have eaten his breakfast after he fucked off in a huff.

After a few pages of her bile it was an act of self-care to not read the OP’s continued blinkered belligerent stance against anyone whose opinion varied from her own.

I would have had the breakfast as a treat and started healthy again the next day but that’s me. x

Comedy gold though

I don't think you've read everything the OP has posted. I really don't.

You’re being unreasonable.
You are.
And not only to your husband.

To many of the folk here who are responding to your asking for their/our opinions.

You chose to share the issue, and when some of us do not agree with you, you curse and swear, call folk a moron, or that they shouldn’t have unlimited access to the internet.

You’re letting out what’s inside you, and despite your plea to the contrary, that’s rather unpleasant.

You’re behaving like a rather unhappy and bitter person.

A happy person, a contented person, doesn’t take an answer to their posed quest for an opinion this personally.

Your spilt coffee cup didn’t have coffee in it, it has this angry bitter stuff that you’re spewing over people here.

Your husband offered you meals/wine/fry ups.

Offered.

Not demanded, not forced, not pushing you, not controlling you, not force-feeding you, not coercing you.

On a Sunday morning, when many of us would love a treat of a breakfast, he made it for you, didn’t force it on you, he offered it.

An offer.. and you ramp it up and exaggerate it into something akin to him going against your will. You exaggerate it because what he said and did wasn’t as you want us to understand it. You exaggerated it because without the exaggeration your husband’s behaviour wasn’t bad at all.
You exaggerated it to try to coerce us around to your point of view.

Would it have been so difficult to instead say something like, “That’s so thoughtful of you Sweetheart, what a lovely idea. Once I’ve gotten down to my target weight, a surprise breakfast every now and again would be lovely. Right now I really mustn’t. I have to hold on to my willpower over this.
But you have it, and enjoy every mouthful, and I’ll have my banana toast.”

That would acknowledge his attempt at a kind deed, which would open his ears to what you said rather than you bashing his ears closed, telling him off for trying to give you an act of service

You know what drug addicts are like when they go cold turkey?

You don’t sound that much different.

The addiction is yours.

Sadly you’re being the controlling one here by wanting to control what your husband says and does.

But in your self-righteousness you don’t see that do you…

My unwanted suggestion is that you work on your addiction and the awful behaviours you’re inflicting on your family around you.

Go to a 12 step programme for over-eaters.

Your poor long-suffering family.

Somewhere on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel is a hidden painting of a banana that sensitive MNers scream at on holiday. It's in the Ottolenghi Code.

Personally I would have just balanced it out with salad, fruit and yoghurt unsweetened for lunch and a glass of fruit tea.

😂 and a banana to the holy state of ketosis is like garlic to a vampire

No one called this guy an asshole for not making his wife’s breakfast- she was happy to make the breakfast she wanted. I agree though, he is an asshole for throwing away good food.

The nonsense about ultra processed fried meat being better for you than a banana is plainly weapons grade bollocks.

Is a State of Ketosis similar to a State of Grace, like a religious ecstasy for wyfs?

Christ the DHs of MN can’t win can they? They get called assholes for not making wife’s breakfast and they get called assholes for making a breakfast for their wife’s. I do Slimming world and actually the big breakfast (minus the fried bread) would have been so much better for you as the banana and toast won’t fill you up. Also throwing away good food in this day is just wrong.

This.
Minus the bread, the fried breakfast would have maintained a state of ketosis (fat burning), whereas the banana/bread combo would have knocked you right out of it.

And sausages,lots of sausages.

My DH shows his love through food and small gifts, such as cadburys creme egg, chocolates, snacks etc. my weight has gone up since meeting him and adding to it I've worked from home.

My breaking point was when we went to McDonald's with the kids and he bought me an apple pie. As he thought it was a nice thing to do - I'd asked for a coffee. I said I didn't want it, and he could eat it. I exploded at him when we got home, as he'd been doing stuff like this and sabotaging my diet which meant I couldn't have the treats I wanted as I'd eaten his treats.

He's so much better now and a bit more thoughtful.

Thats what you got from this?

She told him what she was having for breakfast.

He did not 'offer' a fry up, he made a fry up and got arsey when she said she'd stick with what she had already said she was having.

Then he got really stroppy and instead of offering it to the kids, saving what he could for later etc.. he threw it in the bin and went off to have a sulk, leaving his own on the worktop.

What has her willpower (which seems just fine given she said NO to temptation waved right under her nose) got to do with it?

I know right!!

He didn't listen to her - that's her fault. He threw the food in the bin - that's her fault. He wouldn't give it to the kids - that's her fault. He sulked - that's her fault.

She needs a scold's bridle that one.

He prob doesn't think.you are not taking it seriously, I sound like a scratch record here, it doesn't matter what the men do they always in the wrong, he cooked her breakfast he's the inconsiderate prick. I have also seen post when the husband don't cook and they are lazy prices, come on she was being very rude and entitled, it not his fault she has no will power with food.

I don’t normally get that angry because my partner is doing me a breakfast, which I aways decline, thank you very much, but for the ticking mess he leave in the kitchen after that.

well… just say no thank you !

No it's not. Processed red meat full of nitrates and salt are not good for you, and not better than fruit and toast. Yet another bananas comment!

omfg
Bowel cancer is not good for your long term health.

Seriously people... get a grip