Pissed off at DH making breakfast

OP's updates about her husband:

Yes, he does a lot of cooking.
(11/06/2023 10:45)

As it turns out, he's apologised and we've had a chat about my outburst being less about the breakfast and more about the last few months coming to a head.
11/06/2023 12:20

@EbonyRaven you have lost your month's salary.

Better not to project your issues to other's people's lives.

I see where you are coming from. DH is a great cook and it's his favourite thing to make lovely meals for us at weekends. As such he doesn't skimp on carbs or think about the calories of what he's made.
I'm trying to eat in calorie defecit and low carb and doing well with it, but it's doubly hard to do when someone has lovingly made you a beautiful breakfast and it looks delicious but you really want to stick to plan.
Occasionally I've been guilty of giving the dog a lovely breakfast of Sunday surreptitiously to avoid hurting DH's feelings! However I've talked to him about what I'm doing re weight loss, and sort of said ' I really fancy a big old fancy fruit salad/poached eggs /whatever is healthy and he has taken it as a sort of challenge to make really nice healthy things-which is winner for us both as we actually both could do with losing a few pounds (but I'd never tell him that either as he is sensitive about his weight!)

@zombie0037

If it was the husband that was on a diet and had a strop at the wife for cooking a breakfast, you would all be saying what ungrateful dick, and that he is very controlling guaranteed.

Oh do stop talking nonsense. 🙄 Your point is moot and irrelevant anyway, as no woman would do what the OP's husband did!

Not a single woman I know would cook a massive fuck-off fried breakfast for her husband if said he was on a strict diet and was just going to have a little bit of fruit on toast. Who DOES that FFS? The only reason they would do it is because they don't want that person to be successful in their weight loss. And THAT is why the OP's husband did this. It was not to 'be kind' or to 'be nice.' And then sulking and stamping his feet like a toddler because she refused to eat it?! WTAF? He should be ashamed of himself. Disgusting, manipulative, childish behaviour.

I bet a month's salary that he does fuck-all around the house. If he wants to 'be kind' he can pull his finger out around the house and do some domestic chores. With most men though, their idea of 'helping' is doing the washing up once a month, and doing a massive fried breakfast his partner didn't ask for, or getting some other high carb/high fat food for her... (usually when she's on a diet.) Seen this SO many times on here, and in real life.

As I said, no woman I know would do this (cook a massive fried breakfast for their man,) if he said he was trying to lose weight and only wanted fruit on toast. Moreover, most women have enough to do, without cooking a huge cooked breakfast for someone who didn't bastard want it.

It's only men that prepare, (and provide) massive amounts of food for women who are trying to lose weight, and try to goad them and bully them into eating it. Then sulk and pout like a fucking toddler when she doesn't want the food SHE DID NOT ASK FOR.

SOME men just can't stand the thought of his woman losing weight, and her being more confident, and being more attractive to other men. And her actually having strong willpower and taking control of something in her life that HE has no control over.

This.. ^

This. ^

She said she was getting bananas for breakfast. He made her a fry-up against her wishes. When she declined it and suggested offering it to the children, he binned it and abandoned his own to sulk.

These are not the actions of someone who misheard a message and meant well. These are the actions of someone who wants to force his wife to eat. This man is a food pusher, and yes, he is food pushing to sabotage the OP's diet

@WhichWitchWillBeWhich

Hmmm I do wonder. 🤔 Some of the responses on this thread are so breathtakingly and spectacularly STUPID that I do wonder (now you mention it) if there ARE bots here. I don't know a single person in real life who would agree with the OP's husband. It's utterly fucking batshit that ANYone would suggest he's right!

Are you THAT deluded?

After asking her and then still cooking it once she’d said no thanks and had fucked off out for her bananas that she said she was going to have? 🤷🏼‍♀️

You don't know that for sure it was diet sabotage, he prob just doing breakfast.

No, most of us wouldn't be saying that.

It's diet sabotage, it's clearly deliberate, and it's a nasty thing to do no matter who is doing it.

If it was the husband that was on a diet and had a strop at the wife for cooking a breakfast, you would all be saying what ungrateful dick, and that he is very controlling guaranteed

I was only half joking, but now you’ve said that I do wonder. Loads of posters don’t interact either, they just give an answer and leave. I always thought it was rude arrogant people giving their two penneth worth and not bothering to read through the thread but now I wonder… 🤔

A fry can be fine as long as things are grilled and you don't go overboard on carbs

Surely it's not a "fry" then?

The whole place is riddled with obvious AI chatbots lately, @WhichWitchWillBeWhich, you're right. So bloody boring.

I've noticed they don't do humour though. Can't respond to it. IT'S ALMOST LIKE THEY AREN'T HUMAN!!

I wonder if it’s those AI bots responding, no human being can be so bloody dense, surely? That why the a lot of the replies sound the same - ‘but a fry up is protein and protein = good. Bread is carbs and carbs = bad. Banana is sugar and sugar = bad. Your husband did a good thing so you should thank him not shout at him. Shouting = bad and he may get upset. You don’t want an upset husband. Try harder next time’.

I reckon it’s been a bit quiet on Mumsnet lately so they are feeding OPs into ChatGPT and copying the answers here 😆

Let’s swazz it round. If the OP’s husband had asked her if she wanted banana on toast and she said no, she wanted a fry up. Then she specifically went to the shop to buy the ingredients only to come back to bananas and toast that her dh had made her as a ‘favour’ and the same situation occurred that he threw it in the bin and threw a strop. She would still not be unreasonable. He’s gone against what she wanted and overruled her choice.

THE OP DID NOT WANT THE FRIED BREAKFAST.

SHE DID NOT WANT IT.

I'm SHOUTING because people aren't listening. WHY should she shovel something down her throat that she didn't want just because her husband made it? A big fried breakfast that she didn't ask him to make?!

For fuck's sake.

Carbohydrates - not just sugar - are inextricably linked to insulin resistance, which = type 2 diabetes and is also linked to pretty much all chronic diseases. So what price your toast and banana?!

Basically everything is bad for us 😂

But joking aside, if any ONE thing is a good idea, it's probably to skip ultra processed foods and eat actual food. So in the above scenario, I'd probably quit the packaged bread/toast but keep the banana, and feel free to have some bacon and an egg or two. Sausages can be good quality or processed rubbish, depending on which you get.

OP keep doing research, play around with different things and work out what your body responds well to - I feel fab on low carb, but not everyone does. I also love intermittent fasting but not everyone does.

Keep trying, and try to learn ways to work around situstions where you'll be offered food that doesn't fit in with how you'd prefer to eat.

ATB xx

I agree and I despair for humanity when reading some of these posts. NO-ONE is listening to the OP and her worries and concerns. Too busy blathering on about what they think is best for her. 🙄

FFS. 🙄

OMG - way to miss the point. The OP did say no - that is the issue. Her husband then had a tantrum and threw away the food. Yet somehow this is the OP's fault?

Mmmm , I understand your frustration, but you can’t lose your shit every time someone offers you a slice of cake… I’m in the same boat as you and have started taking saxander to curb my mindless snacking. You need to just learn to say no Thankyou. Skinny people do it all the time! It’s about forming habits , not just you but your husbands too. He will stop offering you food if you keep saying no.

A fry can be fine as long as things are grilled

This doesn't make sense. But then hardly anything on this thread does....

Processed meat is carcinogenic. Red meat is probably carcinogenic. Both bacon and sausages are linked to increased rates of cancer. Bananas are not linked to cancer.

What next? Smoking is great because you lose weight on it? Asbestos is mainly good because it's a great insulator?