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Katy Perry

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donuttiest · 10/11/2026 14:49

On the back of the whole Russell Brand trial, David Walliams is under the spot light...and now even Jonathon Ross has a thread started (is he next) and it got me thinking...

what about Katy Perry? She has multiple incidences of documented sexual misconduct againt young lads (TV show and music video) where clearly there was a power imbalance.

Ruby Rose reported her rubbing her vagina in her face. I recall at the time mumsnet posters were saying it was 'gross'. Imagine downplaying someone being sexually assaulted by simply saying it was gross behaviour?

I have expected Katy Perry to have been cancelled by now or at the very least for the Brand trial to have thrown light back on to her past behaviour.

However, seemingly her gender lets her off the hook, and she continues to enjoy a fruitful career, but why?

I've seen MN posters display sympathy towards KP during the RB saga but I'm wondering why people are happy to look the other way when it comes to her conduct?

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Arlanymor · 10/11/2026 19:43

donuttiest · 10/11/2026 16:22

I'm not being sensationalist, I'm pointing out double standards. Katy Perry has been proven to have commited acts of sexual misconduct ..there's literally tv footage of it. Yet she continues to enjoy a healthy career.

She's been accused of vile SA and although it's getting investigated there's very little new coverage and instead she gets viewed as a victim as people only remember he as the spouse of RB, as opposed to a proven perpetrator of sexual crimes herself.

Even on MN posters are flooding a thread on JR to comment despite no investigation or allegations against him. It's clear double standards. Male pepetrators are being brought to justice which is great but female perpetrators simply aren't viewed in the same light and get away with it with no career damage.

She does not have a healthy career - where have you been?!

She hasn’t been ‘proven’ of anything. Seemingly incriminating video tape doesn’t equal evidence, context matters, and that is what the police are establishing - but you have already decided amongst you, yourself and I that no further investigation is required have you? Do you work in the legal professional? Bloody hope not!

Plus I haven’t seen anyone crying for her over this, most (normal) people are just letting it take its course rather than being a hyperbolic keyboard warrior… you’ve accused her of vile sexual assault - based on what, a bit of video? You weren’t there, you don’t know anyone involved, so, yes, that’s hyperbolic.

NormasArse · 10/11/2026 19:03

Createausername1970 · 10/11/2026 17:06

I don't disagree at all - but I also take it one step further...... To the best of my knowledge, that show was not live, it was recorded. Who at BBC Radio 2 thought it was acceptable to air it?

Yes, Brand and Ross were completely gross and out of order - but someone else allowed it to be aired.

The messages had already been left though. Perhaps whoever let it be aired wanted people to know what a couple of nasty little arseholes Ross and Brand were.

luckylavender · 10/11/2026 18:58

Createausername1970 · 10/11/2026 17:06

I don't disagree at all - but I also take it one step further...... To the best of my knowledge, that show was not live, it was recorded. Who at BBC Radio 2 thought it was acceptable to air it?

Yes, Brand and Ross were completely gross and out of order - but someone else allowed it to be aired.

That too

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 10/11/2026 17:49

Createausername1970 · 10/11/2026 17:06

I don't disagree at all - but I also take it one step further...... To the best of my knowledge, that show was not live, it was recorded. Who at BBC Radio 2 thought it was acceptable to air it?

Yes, Brand and Ross were completely gross and out of order - but someone else allowed it to be aired.

Female controller of Radio 2. She resigned. And very unpopular she was with staff, too.

letsallchant · 10/11/2026 17:41

I guess we were due a "women are just as bad" thread. No they're not. What @Bigcat25 and @SwampM0nster said above.

Isittimeformynapyet · 10/11/2026 17:35

donuttiest · 10/11/2026 16:45

Perfect example of minimising SA and casually forgving SA and disgusting behaviour to dicuss her past boyfriends.

I guess it's too much to open up a discussion on protecting everyone from SA. Nope female perpetrators get a free pass. Shameful.

Can you stop being so cross with us all and just tell us what you know please.

I am only just reading about all this right here, right now in your thread.

SwampM0nster · 10/11/2026 17:29

Bigcat25 · 10/11/2026 17:22

I don't think it's just beacause she's a woman. These things tend to come out many years later after a long period of bad behavior. I'm not excusing her - I don't pay attention to her. Yes assault, is a crime and should be taken seriously, but what RB did was an order of magnitude bigger. (Multiple rapes and coercive control.)

Yes I’ve just looked up the list of allegations against her and to compare them with RB is so disingenuous.

In every case it’s clear she was trying to be silly/goofy/outrageous. Obviously none of it is okay, but to pretend it’s in any way comparable to the sexually motivated predation of someone like RB is just foolish. It’s treated differently because it is hugely different. Of course where she’s acted criminally that should be pursued, but they are NOTHING alike.

Bigcat25 · 10/11/2026 17:22

donuttiest · 10/11/2026 15:56

Her old singles/abums had a resurrgence in the charts, she's toured most of 2026 including headlining some major summer festivals.

I would say that's pretty conclusive evidence that people are happy to overlook her commited sexual assault and sexual misconduct against people,

Even the poster above simply describes her as cringe. People simply don't care or downplay sexual assaults commited by females. It's pretty disgusting. SA is SA it shouldn't be ignored or minimised just because the person committing it is a woman.

I don't think it's just beacause she's a woman. These things tend to come out many years later after a long period of bad behavior. I'm not excusing her - I don't pay attention to her. Yes assault, is a crime and should be taken seriously, but what RB did was an order of magnitude bigger. (Multiple rapes and coercive control.)

ThaneOfGlamis · 10/11/2026 17:20

donuttiest · 10/11/2026 16:46

Choosing to stay ignorant. I'm sure you'd educate yourself if it was a male sleb.

Are you serious? I see one mumsnet thread of accusations I have never heard before and choose not to give an opinion on them. Do you expect people to just join in with the dissing because you claim you read it on the internet?

I have not said I believe her to be all rainbows and unicorns. If there is improper conduct by anyone male or female it should be dealt with properly.

Hjsjshsn · 10/11/2026 17:16

I came across this video - why is she behaving like a four year old. Also what she says about “controlling the …” . I appreciate she is 26 and probably very different now but she comes across so immature and unhinged. m.youtube.com/watch?v=VJWRsIwfxL4&pp=ygUYcnVzc2VsbCBicmFuZCBrYXR5IHBlcnJ50gcJCUcMAYcqIYzv&ra=m

Twoshoesnewshoes · 10/11/2026 17:15

I actually wasn’t aware of these allegations about KP.
if they’re true, it’s disgusting and she should face full criminal investigation.

Anarchy99 · 10/11/2026 17:14

TheRoyalEyeroll · 10/11/2026 17:12

I’ve found the excuses people are making for her silence quite nauseating.

Yes because the woman is always the one responsible. Apparently, ‘enabling’ is worse than perpetrating the sick crimes

TheRoyalEyeroll · 10/11/2026 17:12

peppapiggg · 10/11/2026 14:56

Katy has annoyed me by a while ago saying at some point she will tell her truth about her marriage to brand, yeah when you’re even more irrelevant and need to make some cash you mean? She should’ve spoke up a long time ago if she knows anything about the kind of guy he was

I’ve found the excuses people are making for her silence quite nauseating.

Doitfor · 10/11/2026 17:12

I thought she was kind of cancelled for her Epstein connection, then she popped up for the coronation concert, as she is friendly with the royal family, but really apart from that she's not in the public eye, except the space trip, but that didn't give her a resurgence of fans

peppapiggg · 10/11/2026 17:10

I do understand where the op is coming from, we’ve saw it recently with the Lindsey Clancy story, if that was a man there wouldn’t be any sympathy for their mental health and the help they didn’t get.

Imdunfer · 10/11/2026 17:08

I think there are double standards for women, which I think originated from being so much less able to do physical harm and inability to impregnate, and the assumption that victims would be physically more able to stop a female perpetrator. They do occasionally get prosecuted but certainly not as often as men who do the same things.

Createausername1970 · 10/11/2026 17:06

luckylavender · 10/11/2026 16:52

even Jonathan Ross?! Do you remember the phone calls Ross and Brand made to Andrew Sachs? Ross was the instigator. Time he got his comeuppance,

I don't disagree at all - but I also take it one step further...... To the best of my knowledge, that show was not live, it was recorded. Who at BBC Radio 2 thought it was acceptable to air it?

Yes, Brand and Ross were completely gross and out of order - but someone else allowed it to be aired.

cupfinalchaos · 10/11/2026 16:58

Hopefully will be shingles not singles for her.. vile woman.

LlynTegid · 10/11/2026 16:55

I agree about different standards and could say the same about gay men when they have acted inappropriately or worse.

As for Katy Perry, marrying Russell Brand after the treatment to Andrew Sachs was enough for me to lose any respect for her. Even though Katy Perry was unaware Russell Brand was a rapist.

Anarchy99 · 10/11/2026 16:53

donuttiest · 10/11/2026 16:26

Yes it was hidden but it didn't stop dozens of people gossiping and laying baseless accusations.

So you thought you would make up one of your own?

Anarchy99 · 10/11/2026 16:53

luckylavender · 10/11/2026 16:52

even Jonathan Ross?! Do you remember the phone calls Ross and Brand made to Andrew Sachs? Ross was the instigator. Time he got his comeuppance,

Someone has already started a thread on him and it was hidden by MN

luckylavender · 10/11/2026 16:52

donuttiest · 10/11/2026 14:49

On the back of the whole Russell Brand trial, David Walliams is under the spot light...and now even Jonathon Ross has a thread started (is he next) and it got me thinking...

what about Katy Perry? She has multiple incidences of documented sexual misconduct againt young lads (TV show and music video) where clearly there was a power imbalance.

Ruby Rose reported her rubbing her vagina in her face. I recall at the time mumsnet posters were saying it was 'gross'. Imagine downplaying someone being sexually assaulted by simply saying it was gross behaviour?

I have expected Katy Perry to have been cancelled by now or at the very least for the Brand trial to have thrown light back on to her past behaviour.

However, seemingly her gender lets her off the hook, and she continues to enjoy a fruitful career, but why?

I've seen MN posters display sympathy towards KP during the RB saga but I'm wondering why people are happy to look the other way when it comes to her conduct?

even Jonathan Ross?! Do you remember the phone calls Ross and Brand made to Andrew Sachs? Ross was the instigator. Time he got his comeuppance,

donuttiest · 10/11/2026 16:46

ThaneOfGlamis · 10/11/2026 16:35

Why is it right that she receives criticism for space tourism? The overwhelming majority of space tourists have been male and I have never heard one of them being criticised at a personal level.

I know nothing about any accusations of improper conduct by her for.other reasons, so not commenting on those.

Choosing to stay ignorant. I'm sure you'd educate yourself if it was a male sleb.

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donuttiest · 10/11/2026 16:45

Firesidechatter · 10/11/2026 16:39

You can’t rub your vagina in someone’s face, I assume you mean Vulva?

I couldn’t understand why Katie got with brand, I felt he was seriously punching , but I think she’s a real dodgy taste in blokes, Orlando bloom kayaking naked whilst she was in a swimsuit, Justin rubbing sun tan lotion on her boobs under his swimsuit, it’s all a bit weird.

Perfect example of minimising SA and casually forgving SA and disgusting behaviour to dicuss her past boyfriends.

I guess it's too much to open up a discussion on protecting everyone from SA. Nope female perpetrators get a free pass. Shameful.

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Firesidechatter · 10/11/2026 16:39

You can’t rub your vagina in someone’s face, I assume you mean Vulva?

I couldn’t understand why Katie got with brand, I felt he was seriously punching , but I think she’s a real dodgy taste in blokes, Orlando bloom kayaking naked whilst she was in a swimsuit, Justin rubbing sun tan lotion on her boobs under his swimsuit, it’s all a bit weird.