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Undahpressurah · 10/11/2026 13:49

Is he next?

thought this could be a good place to discuss his ‘jokes’ about a 15 year old going home with Walliams. He clearly knew far more about Brand and Walliams than he let on.

Repulsive.

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EnjoythemoneyJane · 10/11/2026 15:42

Firesidechatter · 10/11/2026 13:57

I’m not sure you can make him guilty by association, and back when him and Jane got together, this age gap was common and not frowned on.

Ooh, I don’t know about that. I remember there being a lot of raised eyebrows at the time. He was out and about with her when he was an established TV star and she was a schoolgirl, and it was definitely noticed and remarked upon.

FairyInTheMossGarden · 10/11/2026 15:42

Redbags · 10/11/2026 15:34

The idea that a 16yo being with a 26yo was normal in those days is absolutely bonkers. I am exactly the same age as his wife. I went on one "date", as a 16yo with a man of 24. My Dad went absolutely wild and the man's friends told them what they thought of him too.

The Mandy Smith thing got a lot of publicity precisely because it was so weird...and becuase her Mother courted publicity. She later married Wyman's son. The whole things was very messed, up and that's what people thought at the time. It sold newspapers is the reason it got publicity, precisely because no-one thought it was normal.

Totally agree with this. Bill Wyman faced huge criticism in the press and from the public at the time.

viques · 10/11/2026 15:42

Fancynancie · 10/11/2026 14:43

Well it wasn’t an oddity - it was celebrated on the cover of a middle of the road magazine

You mean it was featured on the cover of a magazine because it was a click bait event which sold copies.

MeowDoku · 10/11/2026 15:41

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FairyInTheMossGarden · 10/11/2026 15:39

Dontlletmedownbruce · 10/11/2026 15:30

It's like a witch hunt on this thread. You can dislike a celebrity or think they make inappropriate jokes but that's very different from making serious accusations. People are not automatically guilty by association. Most of the references made here are relating to work colleagues, it's part of working in an industry to mix with people and be public friends especially comedian circles. It means nothing. No doubt there are certain predatory types out there and I hope they are revealed but it's ridiculous to just speculate, not to mention libelous. Many of these predatory type men also had women propping them up and protecting them too. Otherwise they wouldn't get away with it. Delving into people's past and mentioning the age when they met and reading into it is pathetic behaviour IMO and very unhelpful.

Are you criticising the women propping predatory men up or the women calling predatory types out because it seems like you're doing both in the same post.

Undahpressurah · 10/11/2026 15:38

AutumnAllTheWay · 10/11/2026 15:32

This thread should be pulled

Why?

no one has actually accused him of anything illegal. We are just discussing that we think marrying teenagers and making jokes about sexual offences towards children is sleazy and inappropriate. Is that against talk guidelines?

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JustHereForTheShitsAndGiggles · 10/11/2026 15:38

I posted this on the DW thread. A policeman friend told me over a decade ago that Jonathan Ross would be next to be exposed. I can only assume he's another one with a super-injunction.

Redbags · 10/11/2026 15:37

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 10/11/2026 15:30

Is the age gap itself a problem or the age at which they met?

Stephen Fry's partner was mid-20s when they met, not 16. Tom Daley was 18 when he met his husband who was 18 years older.

Plenty of famous women with partners with the same or even larger age gaps:

Joan Collins is 34 years older than her husband but they've been married 34 years now. Holland Taylor is 32 years older than Sarah Paulson. Cher's current beau is 39 years younger.

Let's not forget Caroline Flack was 32 when she dated 17-year old Harry Styles. Age of consent, yes, but...

I think all of those examples, where one party was still in their teens are problematic. Probably the Stephen Fry one too.

Redbags · 10/11/2026 15:34

The idea that a 16yo being with a 26yo was normal in those days is absolutely bonkers. I am exactly the same age as his wife. I went on one "date", as a 16yo with a man of 24. My Dad went absolutely wild and the man's friends told them what they thought of him too.

The Mandy Smith thing got a lot of publicity precisely because it was so weird...and becuase her Mother courted publicity. She later married Wyman's son. The whole things was very messed, up and that's what people thought at the time. It sold newspapers is the reason it got publicity, precisely because no-one thought it was normal.

watchingthishtread · 10/11/2026 15:33

I can't stand him. He has turned my stomach ever since I saw him interview Danni Minogue when she was about 19. He was fawning over her outfit, comparing her to Kylie and said he always prefered Danni because he likes a bit of puppy fat. Who the f does he think he is that he can objectify women like that? She was visibly uncomfortable. He's a lecherous creep.

AutumnAllTheWay · 10/11/2026 15:32

This thread should be pulled

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 10/11/2026 15:30

Sewingbeedamned · 10/11/2026 15:14

And of course, JR started to take off in the 80s when a 30 something man married a 19 year old and we all cheered and called it a royal wedding.

Good grief, that's a reach. Diana was 20 when they married and he was 32. An age gap like that was nothing like as unacceptable then as it is now. Quite a separate issue from older men making vile jokes about teenagers and turning a blind eye to their friends being serial shaggers and predators of extremely young women and girls.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 10/11/2026 15:30

It's like a witch hunt on this thread. You can dislike a celebrity or think they make inappropriate jokes but that's very different from making serious accusations. People are not automatically guilty by association. Most of the references made here are relating to work colleagues, it's part of working in an industry to mix with people and be public friends especially comedian circles. It means nothing. No doubt there are certain predatory types out there and I hope they are revealed but it's ridiculous to just speculate, not to mention libelous. Many of these predatory type men also had women propping them up and protecting them too. Otherwise they wouldn't get away with it. Delving into people's past and mentioning the age when they met and reading into it is pathetic behaviour IMO and very unhelpful.

MagpiesAndJays · 10/11/2026 15:30

TheignT · 10/11/2026 15:18

That was more extreme. She was 14 when they started dating and he was a lot older than 24. I don't know how he got away with that it definitely sent the wrong message.

Came here to say this. It was very different. I think she might even have been 13 and him 47, and they married the moment she was 'legal'. All the press at the time focussed on her and her being a seductress. Nothing about him being a predator.

Very, very different to 16 and 26 as with Ross and his wife. This was a perfectly normal age gap 40 years ago. My parents were 9 years different in age. I recognise that this is not acceptable to younger generations but it was then.

None of this is to say that I think he is a pleasant man. There is no doubt he can be sleazy and inappropriate. That is not the same as being a rapist. Unfortunately, I fear the culture of sleazy jokes having been acceptable is exactly how Brand got away with with for so long.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 10/11/2026 15:30

Is the age gap itself a problem or the age at which they met?

Stephen Fry's partner was mid-20s when they met, not 16. Tom Daley was 18 when he met his husband who was 18 years older.

Plenty of famous women with partners with the same or even larger age gaps:

Joan Collins is 34 years older than her husband but they've been married 34 years now. Holland Taylor is 32 years older than Sarah Paulson. Cher's current beau is 39 years younger.

Let's not forget Caroline Flack was 32 when she dated 17-year old Harry Styles. Age of consent, yes, but...

ThereIsSomethingWrongWithTheLeftFilange · 10/11/2026 15:29

ffoffpls · 10/11/2026 14:02

I have never understood why given he made those horrible calls to Andrew Sachs with Brand that he wasn't sacked by the BBC. How he is still working?

Jonathan Ross is revolting. He has that sort of sleasy air about him - I can't quite put my finger on why but there is something a bit vile there. Maybe it's because he gives an impression of thinking he's ultra actractive to women when he obviously isn't. Or on his chat show sometimes laughs along an inappropriate jokes.

Like this when Aisling Bea takes on an inappropriate question and runs with it to make them all uncomfortable. Romesh Ranganthan also not impressed with Ross. It's grotesque.

I'm not getting this to be honest.

The only fans chat came about because Joe Marler was talking about how much money people can make on there and made a joke about putting his feet out there. Jonathan then asked both others, what they would put out there on only fans if they had the choice. Aisling chose to talk about her boobs. I don't think the question was inappropriate, it was just daft chat. She was the one who started the boob chat and she went too far with it.

I'm not sure what asking people what they would put out on only fans, as part of an entertainment chat show is inappropriate.

Am I totally missing something. Correct me if I am wrong. I honestly am not getting it.

Redbags · 10/11/2026 15:26

Additup · 10/11/2026 15:19

Maybe he didn't actually think they were rapists (RB) not noel fielding. People make all sorts of inappropriate jokes fgs.

If you suspect someone of rape you need to have very solid evidence to report to the police/try and limit their career.

Your criticism is fair enough if he knew brand was a rapist/predator but possibly he didn't know.

No, you absolutely don't need solid evidence. If you have any concerns, especially about the treatment of children, it is your duty to report. You don't need evidence to report it, that's what the subsequent investigation is for.

PigletJohn · 10/11/2026 15:25

Firesidechatter · 10/11/2026 13:57

I’m not sure you can make him guilty by association, and back when him and Jane got together, this age gap was common and not frowned on.

No, I'm pretty sure it was in the late 20th Century.

TheignT · 10/11/2026 15:25

I suppose he has remained employed as his ratings are good. His audience are part of that.

Redbags · 10/11/2026 15:24

CarbootJunction · 10/11/2026 15:12

It's a good job 'trial by social media' isn't an actual thing.

Some of you lot would have innocent men in jail for marrying a 16 year old.

No one suggesring he should be in jail or even that he's done anyhting illegal, only that his behaviour has been questionable over many years, and it's a surprise to some that he has remained employed.

Undahpressurah · 10/11/2026 15:24

CarbootJunction · 10/11/2026 15:12

It's a good job 'trial by social media' isn't an actual thing.

Some of you lot would have innocent men in jail for marrying a 16 year old.

Yeah, those poor innocent men who marry children are the real victims here.

bring back shame, I say.

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Fast800goingforit · 10/11/2026 15:23

Fancynancie · 10/11/2026 14:39

It was ‘normalised’ then. Remember Bill Wyman and Mandy Smith. Their wedding was on the cover of Hello Magazine and their age difference was much bigger.

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Jeez - it wasn't normalised! It was very, very unusual.

Redbags · 10/11/2026 15:21

Thundertoast · 10/11/2026 15:09

Loads of people (including people on another thread about 'Wossy') thinks its perfectly okay she was 16 and he 26 as they are still married. Still not sure how the fact they've stayed together has any bearing on the fact that it was was inapropriate that he got into a relationship with a 16 year old rather than a woman his own age. The idea that a subsequent romantic relationship defends the behaviour somewhat is deeply off. Wouldnt say that about physical abuse. I wonder if the defenders of this behaviour would feel the same if he had dated 4 different 16 year olds and ended up marrying the last one. Or didnt marry any of them and went on to marry someone his own age. What if they married and then had since got divorced?Would that be okay i wonder? Plenty of men managed to get through the 90s and 2000s without saying disgusting stuff on tv about and to women and not marrying teenagers. What else does a man have to do to signal he's a creep! That Aisling Bea interview wasnt that long ago at all!

I always think that when people hold up a long marriage as a success. It might be or it could be that she was unabe to leave or intrall to her "captor"

Additup · 10/11/2026 15:19

Undahpressurah · 10/11/2026 15:07

How is making a joke about his friends being rapists defending her? He’s an incredibly powerful man. He could have ACTUALLY defended women by making sure his pervy mates weren’t given work (particularly highly paid, influential, work) and he could - if he suspected them of being rapists - reported his suspicions to the police. Or his boss.

It’s clownery to think this is defending anyone. The onus isn’t on women to keep themselves safe by ‘avoiding’ rapists. Lily Allen should be able to go to work without coming across a sexual predator - rather than having a patronising man ‘move her out of the way’. Ffs.

Maybe he didn't actually think they were rapists (RB) not noel fielding. People make all sorts of inappropriate jokes fgs.

If you suspect someone of rape you need to have very solid evidence to report to the police/try and limit their career.

Your criticism is fair enough if he knew brand was a rapist/predator but possibly he didn't know.