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Jonathan Ross

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Undahpressurah · 10/11/2026 13:49

Is he next?

thought this could be a good place to discuss his ‘jokes’ about a 15 year old going home with Walliams. He clearly knew far more about Brand and Walliams than he let on.

Repulsive.

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KidsDoBetter · 10/11/2026 16:36

Redbags · 10/11/2026 16:06

Did he joke very publicly about West burying young people under the patio, you know like Ross did about 15yos going home with Walliams?

Touché !!

ByKindOpalPoet · 10/11/2026 16:36

MeowDoku · 10/11/2026 15:41

You can't seriously be that rude

How was that rude? It wasn’t

i pointed out something you clearly couldn’t handle

the fact is there is a difference between your parents at 20 and 30 and JR and his wife at 16 and 26.

the fact that you can’t see that is on you

And yes using it was different times is a sick excuse

it wasn’t different times at all, it wasn’t acceptable for a 16 year old and 26 year old then just like it isn’t now

honeybeetheoneandonly · 10/11/2026 16:33

I quite liked that Johnathan made those jokes. Brand and Williams were open secrets in the industry but very untouchable. They may have been shit jokes but it still drew attention to the fact RB/DW couldn't be trusted around women/girls. JR could have very easily not said anything and toe'd the line. Nobody else seemed to say it out loud. Can't get much closer to calling them out without calling them out. I can think of very few male celebrities who openly called them out.

LastChristmasI · 10/11/2026 16:08

I agree op.
He clearly knew a lot.
He was in a position of power.
Yet he gave these sleazy rapey men a platform instead of using his power for good

BeaRightThere · 10/11/2026 16:07

Undahpressurah · 10/11/2026 14:25

Why should we give him the benefit of the doubt?

That wise old mumsnet saying of ‘when someone tells you who they are, believe them’ would serve us well here.

Sure, I’m not saying he should be locked up (at least not without a thorough investigation and a fair trial) but do we have to suffer these rich and powerful men being given extremely well paid jobs? Can we just…stop enabling them by showering them with money and fame? When will they be held accountable?

What do you want him to be held accountable for? Having told jokes that are distasteful? Being friendly with two very famous men who turned out to be creeps? What about all his friends who haven't turned out to be creeps?

disorganisedcrow · 10/11/2026 16:06

ffoffpls · 10/11/2026 14:21

He's just so gross. He says here "I was just backstage at THE URINAL chatting to Miranda Hart". That's so nasty, cruel and denigrating of women - implying that a noted and successful comedic actress and writer is a man in drag just because she is tall. She just laughs along no doubt to show she can take a joke. One minute in here:

The whole thing is pretty unpleasant so called comedy mainly insulting people just after he makes another supposed joke denigrating women (Saying they in their finery they all look like "the one you'd definitely sleep with on the apprentice") at about 2:50 Patricia Hodge is in the centre of the table looking very unamused.

That is so disgusting!! What an absolute nasty idiot Jobathan Ross is.

I’m not in the UK but just watched Traitors, and what a genuine and nice person Miranda Hart seems to be.

Redbags · 10/11/2026 16:06

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 10/11/2026 16:04

A previous work colleague used to regularly drink in the same pub with Fred West. He must have known what he was really like.

Did he joke very publicly about West burying young people under the patio, you know like Ross did about 15yos going home with Walliams?

Additup · 10/11/2026 16:06

Redbags · 10/11/2026 15:26

No, you absolutely don't need solid evidence. If you have any concerns, especially about the treatment of children, it is your duty to report. You don't need evidence to report it, that's what the subsequent investigation is for.

But there is no evidence either RB or Noel Fielding have ever had a sexual interest in children.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 10/11/2026 16:04

Redbags · 10/11/2026 16:01

I don't think guilty by association but questioning what they must have known about the people they associate with.

A previous work colleague used to regularly drink in the same pub with Fred West. He must have known what he was really like.

zanahoria · 10/11/2026 16:04

TheignT · 10/11/2026 15:18

That was more extreme. She was 14 when they started dating and he was a lot older than 24. I don't know how he got away with that it definitely sent the wrong message.

I know how he got away with it. Mandy Smith wrote about it in her book. Wyman got the Rolling Stones lawyers to threaten Mandy Smith's mum that if Wyman got sent down they would make sure she did too for child neglect. I doubt it would have happened but it was enough to put the frightners on them

Sartre · 10/11/2026 16:03

Redbags · 10/11/2026 15:00

I saw that, and at the time thought it was a jibe at the unattractive Brydon and Mitchell.

I actually thought that was a really entertaining show at the time. I clearly remember watching it with DH and enjoyed the nonsense of Brand and Fielding, which is shocking to me now.

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It was an incredibly funny show at the time and I also don’t think Ross came across poorly in that particular skit. He was indeed having a jibe at the other four men there - two more sexually appealing than the other two who are clearly “sexless” dowdy sorts. Obviously Lily looked incredibly uncomfortable throughout which is important.

I’m not defending Ross on the whole, he has selected interesting company over the years shall we say. I hope nothing comes out about Noel Fielding.

ThatFinchWhoForgotHerLogin · 10/11/2026 16:01

I recall him making a ‘joke’ about implying he’d had sex/anal sex with his wife while she was unconscious due to medication. Bleugh

trapdooragain · 10/11/2026 16:01

Redbags · 10/11/2026 15:34

The idea that a 16yo being with a 26yo was normal in those days is absolutely bonkers. I am exactly the same age as his wife. I went on one "date", as a 16yo with a man of 24. My Dad went absolutely wild and the man's friends told them what they thought of him too.

The Mandy Smith thing got a lot of publicity precisely because it was so weird...and becuase her Mother courted publicity. She later married Wyman's son. The whole things was very messed, up and that's what people thought at the time. It sold newspapers is the reason it got publicity, precisely because no-one thought it was normal.

You were lucky my mom encouraged me to date older men as I was immature she thought they would mature me faster again i was 16

Redbags · 10/11/2026 16:01

Willwetalk · 10/11/2026 15:55

People have suggested he’s guilty by association. They were also posts here yesterday about Noel Fielding. As I said, I can’t stand Ross although I do like Fielding and if either of them are found to be guilty of a crime, put them away - I wouldn’t give a shit about them. I don’t like people casting aspersions at people because they don’t like them, or they’re weird’. There are people who make my skin crawl; it doesn’t make them perverts.

I don't think guilty by association but questioning what they must have known about the people they associate with.

Fancynancie · 10/11/2026 16:00

TheignT · 10/11/2026 15:18

That was more extreme. She was 14 when they started dating and he was a lot older than 24. I don't know how he got away with that it definitely sent the wrong message.

I don’t either. It’s so weird now that this was deemed acceptable by a mainstream magazine

Motuihe · 10/11/2026 15:58

Undahpressurah · 10/11/2026 13:49

Is he next?

thought this could be a good place to discuss his ‘jokes’ about a 15 year old going home with Walliams. He clearly knew far more about Brand and Walliams than he let on.

Repulsive.

DM says Ross didnt write the joke, 'only delivered it. Well!

trythisforsize · 10/11/2026 15:56

ffoffpls · 10/11/2026 14:21

He's just so gross. He says here "I was just backstage at THE URINAL chatting to Miranda Hart". That's so nasty, cruel and denigrating of women - implying that a noted and successful comedic actress and writer is a man in drag just because she is tall. She just laughs along no doubt to show she can take a joke. One minute in here:

The whole thing is pretty unpleasant so called comedy mainly insulting people just after he makes another supposed joke denigrating women (Saying they in their finery they all look like "the one you'd definitely sleep with on the apprentice") at about 2:50 Patricia Hodge is in the centre of the table looking very unamused.

What a talentless C.

Trying very hard to be Ricky Gervais and failing miserably.

Willwetalk · 10/11/2026 15:55

Redbags · 10/11/2026 15:50

No-one one's said he's guilty of anything , except things that are on the public record

People have suggested he’s guilty by association. They were also posts here yesterday about Noel Fielding. As I said, I can’t stand Ross although I do like Fielding and if either of them are found to be guilty of a crime, put them away - I wouldn’t give a shit about them. I don’t like people casting aspersions at people because they don’t like them, or they’re weird’. There are people who make my skin crawl; it doesn’t make them perverts.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 10/11/2026 15:53

JR's judgement doesn't seem to be great, that's for sure. The Wikipedia article about his wife says she and JR are personal friends of Neil Gaiman. Maybe that should be 'were' now.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 10/11/2026 15:51

ffoffpls · 10/11/2026 14:02

I have never understood why given he made those horrible calls to Andrew Sachs with Brand that he wasn't sacked by the BBC. How he is still working?

Jonathan Ross is revolting. He has that sort of sleasy air about him - I can't quite put my finger on why but there is something a bit vile there. Maybe it's because he gives an impression of thinking he's ultra actractive to women when he obviously isn't. Or on his chat show sometimes laughs along an inappropriate jokes.

Like this when Aisling Bea takes on an inappropriate question and runs with it to make them all uncomfortable. Romesh Ranganthan also not impressed with Ross. It's grotesque.

I feel exactly the same about JR.
Never liked him but can’t explain why, but you have summed up pretty much how I feel.

Redbags · 10/11/2026 15:50

Willwetalk · 10/11/2026 15:48

You got there before me. If Jonathan Ross, or anyone else, is proven to be guilty of a crime, then throw the key away. I think it’s awful to start implying criminal behaviour, without evidence. I can’t stand him, but that doesn’t make him guilty of anything.

No-one one's said he's guilty of anything , except things that are on the public record

FridayPieday · 10/11/2026 15:49

In the 80s Bill Wyman crossed the line, Jonathan Ross was borderline:

Bill Wyman met Mandy Smith in 1984. He was 47 years old, and she was 13 years old.
When they met in 1986, Jonathan Ross was 26 years old and Jane Goldman was 16 years old.

Plenty of my friends in sixth form (16-18) had boyfriends in their 20s.
Different times now.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 10/11/2026 15:49

MrsTerryPratchett · 10/11/2026 14:30

You're on the Walliams thread defending him too, aren't you?

No she isn’t defending him.
She was correcting inaccuracies.

Willwetalk · 10/11/2026 15:48

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 10/11/2026 14:07

I don't like Jonathan Ross. I've always found him annoying. The Andrew Sachs thing was disgusting. And he clearly chose some dodgy mates.

However, I don't think it's fair to suggest that he has done anything wrong unless there is actual evidence of this. We don't actually know what he did and didn't know about Brand.

It is possible to be a wanker without actually being a criminal, and it's important that we maintain that distinction.

To be clear, I'm not saying that he hasn't done anything wrong. Who knows what may come out in time about anyone in the public eye.

I just think we need to be careful about throwing out allegations based on gut feeling alone.

You got there before me. If Jonathan Ross, or anyone else, is proven to be guilty of a crime, then throw the key away. I think it’s awful to start implying criminal behaviour, without evidence. I can’t stand him, but that doesn’t make him guilty of anything.

HolidayHattie · 10/11/2026 15:47

Firesidechatter · 10/11/2026 13:57

I’m not sure you can make him guilty by association, and back when him and Jane got together, this age gap was common and not frowned on.

It really wasn't. It wasn't the 1600s.

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