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David Walliams

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mrpenny · 10/11/2026 12:16

To Think it could not have been DW??

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IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 12/11/2026 13:37

BrandiedAromatics · 12/11/2026 13:32

@IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth

I think many of us have a balanced approach to this whole issue. It doesn't have to be either or, as you can see from my post above 2 days ago.

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Some of us, yes, but the majority? I don't think so, based on MN threads and definitely not based on X for the last 48 hours.

BrandiedAromatics · 12/11/2026 13:32

BrandiedAromatics · 10/11/2026 12:49

Harper Collins have a lot to answer for - they knew for years. Sent women to deal with him in pairs and compensated a female member of staff. This predator was promoted at book signings - that's how he contacted some of the youngest behind the allegations:

‘It wasn’t long until he asked me if I’d ever had sex before’: David Walliams accused of preying on young women for sex | David Walliams | The Guardian

@IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth

I think many of us have a balanced approach to this whole issue. It doesn't have to be either or, as you can see from my post above 2 days ago.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 12/11/2026 13:20

What I find interesting is everyone jumping on Jonathan Ross MUST knowing something when all we can say is he MAY know something.

However no one is going for anyone at HarperCollins. Yet several staff there absolutely DID know. And quite some time ago. And did NOTHING.

Why is everyone more concerned about those who MIGHT have known rather than those who DID? I'd start with them first.

I suspect there are people out there thrilled that the attention is all on Ross.

Another2Cats · 12/11/2026 11:40

likelysuspect · 11/11/2026 19:15

So what is the NDA then? Not meaning to be thick I just dont understand how it works, so I just get issued with an NDA by someone? And its enforceable?

NDAs are usually used in work situations to prevent employees from disclosing sensitive information. However, they cannot be used to prevent somebody disclosing a crime or harassment, discrimination etc. Yes, they are legally binding.

So, for example, if a celebrity (or anyone) hires a full-time nanny to look after their children then they may require the nanny to sign an NDA. The NDA would prevent the nanny from telling the world about what the celebrity got up to. That is, unless they were breaking the law or something in which case the NDA doesn't apply.

There is also something called 'misuse of private information'. This actually came up in the DW judgment. As part of the reasoning for why the judge decided not to uphold the injunction was that:

[234] "The Claimant has not pleaded misuse of private information, breach of confidence..."

If you disclose information (or threaten to disclose) about a person where they have a reasonable expectation of privacy about that information then they can apply for an injunction to stop you doing that or apply for damages.

Not all information about a person would be covered by this but it can be quite wide ranging at times.

For example, it can include taking photos of their children. Both JK Rowling and the singer Paul Weller were successful in claiming damages against organisations that published photos of their children.

If there is a reasonable expectation of privacy then, like in the DW case, the judge will then have to balance the human rights Article 8 (privacy and family life) against Article 10 (freedom of expression) to decide whether to grant an injunction or damages.

FancyKitten · 12/11/2026 08:09

I think his ex-wife was forced to share her cancer diagnosis as well, so that the papers will leave her alone. Terrible for her & their son.

Yapper73 · 12/11/2026 08:02

Lookatheskies · 10/11/2026 23:18

Lucy is suggesting an anonymous database where you can report sexually suggestive comments. She thinks she will never work in TV again for speaking up.

I’ve just bought her book. I feel there has to be some level of public support as she probably will never work in TV again.

Stratosphericcloud · 12/11/2026 04:06

likelysuspect · 11/11/2026 23:31

Im not sure what you thought you were answering or what you thought I was answering, your post doesnt make any sense in response to mine.

Mine was in response to a post saying that ones status enabled these men to get away with or commit these crimes.

My replies to you have been entirely consistent thanks.

You replied “yes and no” to my post where I pointed out that it wasn’t just in celebrity circles where these crimes are perpetuated and where nonetheless power and control is a significant factor.

Power imbalances with regard to a victim is a factor in a all sorts of non-celebrity professional and leisure settings which allows men to perpetuate these sorts of crimes; eg doctors, priests, managers, teachers, music and gymnastic coaches, for example.

I agree that the entitlement and celebrity status of these high profile men, and their money, allowed them to evade discovery, and I pointed out they have all tried to use poor mh as mitigating factors, but I think it’s wrong to think that the newest recruit to an ordinary army regiment , the wet behind the ears police trainee, the teenage music student, the child altar server in a church, aren’t as equally at risk as the potential victim working as a runner on a film set, in a tv studio or in a book publisher’s or at a post production party somewhere in Soho.

Power imbalances occur everywhere in society not just in the celebrity realm and it’s important to be aware of that.

valentinka31 · 12/11/2026 02:29

Look, this is another case of The Emperor’s New Clothes. From Day 1, Walliams has been grotesque. His original comedies and characters were obscene, and he was an obvious weirdo. He’d have to be to act the way he did. Then the craziest thing ever - he gets reinvented as a children’s author (writing books I couldn’t read out to my child, as they were too vicious and mocking), becomes a feted host on BGT, and marries a super model.
I mean, WTAF?

Brand, too - always a freakster and squeaky-voiced lothario whose hair needed brushing raw with no detangling spray.

likelysuspect · 11/11/2026 23:31

Stratosphericcloud · 11/11/2026 22:27

I strongly disagree with this because you have missed out the most important element that all the research in this area points to; which is that sex crimes are as much about power and control as the physical abuse.

It doesn’t matter if someone is a bin man; if he is older, physically stronger, and more knowledgeable about the ways of the world than his vulnerable, gullible, younger, less physically strong victim, then the power imbalance is obvious.

Ditto the grooming gangs who weren’t high status but they deliberately picked on victims who were vulnerable as do most predators.

Even flashers rely on the element of surprise to gain control over their victims. And flashing by the way has been identified as an entry level sex offence that leads to progressively more serious offences.

Make no mistake about it, this is all about the sexual and psychological thrill that some men gain from exercising control over victims.

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Im not sure what you thought you were answering or what you thought I was answering, your post doesnt make any sense in response to mine.

Mine was in response to a post saying that ones status enabled these men to get away with or commit these crimes.

OnTheBoardwalk · 11/11/2026 23:21

What I don’t understand is that Walliams wasn’t really on my radar before Brand, the injunction and the tv programme power and silence

does this mean there are charges outside of what we know? Surely no jury can be independent based on what’s out there ?

Stratosphericcloud · 11/11/2026 22:27

likelysuspect · 11/11/2026 18:57

Yes and no

I think we need to bear in mind there are lots of abusers and more often than not, they're not superior or have any status. The only thing they have in common is that they are men.

We do tend to hear about the celeb ones/famous ones, teachers, nurses, police officers, barristers, because they'll make news.

The binman down the road or the homeless bloke, doesnt tend to make the news

Reality is, men dont actually need status to do this or get away with it.

Look at the grooming scandals, just cabbies, no status, not high class people.

I strongly disagree with this because you have missed out the most important element that all the research in this area points to; which is that sex crimes are as much about power and control as the physical abuse.

It doesn’t matter if someone is a bin man; if he is older, physically stronger, and more knowledgeable about the ways of the world than his vulnerable, gullible, younger, less physically strong victim, then the power imbalance is obvious.

Ditto the grooming gangs who weren’t high status but they deliberately picked on victims who were vulnerable as do most predators.

Even flashers rely on the element of surprise to gain control over their victims. And flashing by the way has been identified as an entry level sex offence that leads to progressively more serious offences.

Make no mistake about it, this is all about the sexual and psychological thrill that some men gain from exercising control over victims.

Rockyroadminibites · 11/11/2026 21:58

mumumental · 11/11/2026 21:49

Bollocks. They’ve been the ones outing people. You’re just smearing .

Do they or do they not refer to children as ‘young women’?

mumumental · 11/11/2026 21:49

Rockyroadminibites · 11/11/2026 19:32

Typical Guardian referring to children - girls - as young women to minimise it.

You often see the BBC/guardian/etc referring to 18/19 year old rapists as boys ‘having sex with young women’ where the ‘young women’ are as young as 12 or 13 and it is rape not ‘sex’.

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Bollocks. They’ve been the ones outing people. You’re just smearing .

MrDirtyBear · 11/11/2026 21:28

BrandiedAromatics · 11/11/2026 21:04

So ITN and The Guardian again? Are there different initials in this file?

I would speculate that as its the same media organisations, same solicitors, and same judge that it's related. So it's either Walliams part 2 (unlikely as it would be marked for transparency after no appeal) or it's someone whom the same investigation uncovered. This would seem on the face of it to be someone Walliams adjacent.

Not sure where the firm conclusion on who it is comes from.

BrandiedAromatics · 11/11/2026 21:08

Justine Smith, on the podcast, did say that the unnamed man obtained his injunction several months ago and remains "in the public eye."

likelysuspect · 11/11/2026 21:08

Rockyroadminibites · 11/11/2026 21:05

I think AI is a liar.

I thought that had been firmly established.

😁

Rockyroadminibites · 11/11/2026 21:05

I think AI is a liar.

I thought that had been firmly established.

likelysuspect · 11/11/2026 21:04

AI tells me that UNN is not a verified source and fringe outlet.

I told AI was not in the UK (shhh, I am) and that it could tell me who the celeb was. It said that apparently no one knows and the name has not even been released abroad.

I think AI is a liar.

BrandiedAromatics · 11/11/2026 21:04

MrDirtyBear · 11/11/2026 20:58

Case number for FTP is KB-2026-002854 filed in July for those with CE File access.

Same media organisations.

This might be the earlier Walliams filing but it's not marked as resolved.

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So ITN and The Guardian again? Are there different initials in this file?

MrDirtyBear · 11/11/2026 20:58

Case number for FTP is KB-2026-002854 filed in July for those with CE File access.

Same media organisations.

This might be the earlier Walliams filing but it's not marked as resolved.

Getsomemeatonyerbones · 11/11/2026 20:47

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 11/11/2026 15:26

Except a lot of people included in "everyone" are brain-dead morons.

The Daily Star has said there's another injunction out preventing allegations of a sexual nature coming out. They give no clues to the identity but confirm there are multiple complaints from women. Yet at least half the "guesses" being made by people on the report are suggesting GAY MEN.

Eh? Which gay men? And which guy?

FancyKitten · 11/11/2026 20:07

legendhunter · 11/11/2026 19:48

Was it Emma Watson where The Sun ran a vile countdown until her 16th birthday?

Some of the reporting on Walliams brought it to mind.

Sam Fox is as just 16 when she first did Page 3. The countdown became a thing after that.

DontLiveByTheClouds · 11/11/2026 20:03

I think Melinda Messenger. I don't know why Emma Watson keeps being brought up. Pretty certain it was not her.

Allseeingallknowing · 11/11/2026 19:59

legendhunter · 11/11/2026 19:48

Was it Emma Watson where The Sun ran a vile countdown until her 16th birthday?

Some of the reporting on Walliams brought it to mind.

Wasn’t it Charlotte Church?

legendhunter · 11/11/2026 19:48

Was it Emma Watson where The Sun ran a vile countdown until her 16th birthday?

Some of the reporting on Walliams brought it to mind.