Has the Russell Brand stuff affected your relationship/dating?

Yes this would put me off, if you like him and don’t want to leave tell him firmly.. I said no, I’ll let you know when I’ve changed my mind until then stop!
His reaction will tell you what you need to no, as in it should be, sorry and of course that’s not a problem.
They do all get it though, don’t fall for the wide eyed Bambi.. I didn’t know I was doing anything wrong nonsense.

When dating my now DH 12 years ago I said no let’s wait. Weeks later- he said I’m glad we waited. I’m sure you can do better than be pestered for sex by a man you are dating. No means no - not try and convince me. As PP said he needs to be told not to ask again. He might be thinking you are playing hard to get -to cover all bases tell him that you are not.

How quick are you talking op? And how is he approaching it? I mean it's quite normal for being that are dating to fancy each other and to have sex. Plenty of one night stands end up in long term relationships and it can be part of flirting for some people to 'try it on' - you know, make it clear they want to fuck, strong flirting, being overt etc. Some people even enjoy it!
How long have you been dating?

'I'll let you know when I've changed my mind!'

We're all so different. I can't imagine this is any dating scenario I've been in. Flirting - physically, emotionally, intellectually - is all part of the dance and fun for me.

What do you mean by trying again? The same evening or next weekend?

If he's not taking a no as not today and leaving it at that, I'd be gone like a shot. I don't think its unreasonable to make it clear he would ultimately like to sleep with you.

I think most men would be pushing more boundaries if they thought they could get away with it tbh.

selfish entitled and pretty grim - sums up the majority of men I have encountered and I’m in my 50s .

If you are giving out clear physical messages as well as words, he is pressuring you, and that's obviously wrong.

You describing him as “persistent” is a bit of a red flag to me. You’ve told him clearly that you’re not ready yet. He needs to respect your choice and he seems to be ignoring that. That would be a dealbreaker for me.

No not at all

My daughter was saying they lack respect these days. She is 21. Some nice ones in friends group but some are awful she says!!

That’s good because you shouldn’t have to say this, I gave it as an example of what op could say if she didn’t want to end things.
I remember years ago explaining to my teenage son.. if you’re kissing a girl and you then touch her bum or instigate something more and she says no or pushes your hand away it means she wants to stop at kissing, it doesn’t mean keep trying until she gives in.
Do you enjoy that, is that what you mean?
I feel like I spent most of my teens/twenties trying to not have dates sticking there hand up my skirt/top just because we were snogging, no way would I be putting up with it now I’m 44, luckily I’m happily married and don’t have to date anyone.

So about 12 dates. Obviously it's up to you but I would have had sex a long time ago and I don't think it's unreasonable for someone to make it clear they'd like to shag you by this point. I would dump someone by this point if they were rejecting my sexual advances. Long before actually

You're incompatible. He wants sex, you don't.

He is overstepping, but maybe you are not being clear enough.
Slow down doesn't mean stop in his eyes.

Same. I would assume they werent really into me/had low sex drive/were asexual and just looking for a companion.

12 dates and no sex is very very slow. Why so long OP? Do you not fancy him? Dont you want to know if you are sexually compatible?

It would put me off but nothing to do with Brand. I just hate men being pushy for sex. Men who want to jump into sex quickly but drag their feet on getting into committed relationships are just annoying and I block them.

I would genuinely be put off by a man who didn’t make the first move and try to have sex with me. If I’m dating, I want a man who is sexually interested in me, otherwise what’s the point?

Forceful and disrespecting consent? Absolutely not. But making the first move and playfully testing boundaries? Perfectly fine. I actually quite like to be seduced / persuaded to have sex, not for the man to wait until he was 100% certain I am up for it. I enjoy the push and pull.

I’m late 30s btw.

His behaviour sounds perfectly normal to me. Exactly how slow is he supposed to go?!

Offensive trying to compare a bloke you're dating trying to touch your leg to Russell Brand and violent anal rape