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To go to a concert alone

71 replies

bob1985 · Yesterday 21:45

Theres a concert I’d really like to go to next year.

However, none of my friends/family are interested in going. I’m tempted to go myself. AIBU..my friend seems to think it would be crazy

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notthatoldchestnut · Yesterday 21:45

Do it!

PinkyFlamingo · Yesterday 21:46

Why do they think it's crazy? That's weird.

Sofuckingsad · Yesterday 21:47

Why wouldn’t you?

Tiptoethroughthehallway · Yesterday 21:47

I’ve done it. I had a great time.

LuckyHazelFox · Yesterday 21:48

Went to one on Saturday with my partner and on our row, a man and a woman were both there, each on their own. We all got talking to each other. Go for it.

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · Yesterday 21:48

DH does it at least once a month, loves it.

SquashPenguin · Yesterday 21:48

Done it loads of times. Why should you miss out because no one else wants to go?

Catza · Yesterday 21:52

Did your friend elaborate on why it would be crazy?
Either way you do t need theirs or our permission to go. You are an adult and can do whatever you like. And yes, I go to concerts alone all the time. Also theatre, cinema, international travel, multi-day hikes, restaurant meals and pretty much any activity that I fancy.

FairViewRosie25 · Yesterday 21:56

Been to loads on my own, my oh doesn’t share my obsession with Springsteen so it’s a needs must. First was Roundhay park in the 80,s when I was 17

Flamingojune · Yesterday 21:58

Is there an app for finding event mates? There should be

LydiaTheTattooedLardarse · Yesterday 21:58

Do it, OP! I did for the first time a few years ago when I decided I was sick of missing out just because my friends didn’t share my musical taste. It felt weird at first, but ultimately I decided that it really wasn’t that important if a random stranger thought I had no friends 😝

(Actually, I did run into someone I knew at a concert once and she said “Have you come on your own?” in a tone that suggested it was only slightly less weird than if I’d eaten a lump of shit. But I basically just said “Yes - no one else wanted to come, so I thought why miss out?”. It was unanswerable.)

AutumnOakTree · Yesterday 22:01

FairViewRosie25 · Yesterday 21:56

Been to loads on my own, my oh doesn’t share my obsession with Springsteen so it’s a needs must. First was Roundhay park in the 80,s when I was 17

Have you seen the ‘Sound of Springsteen’ tribute act? Really good when I saw it a couple of years back.

LoveheartBear · Yesterday 22:02

As others have said, do it! I quite often go off and do things by myself, and even thought the other day that I would attend a concert by myself.

I was at a concert on Saturday, and there were quite a few people there by themselves. There will be plenty of other fans to talk to if you wish, but you can also just keep yourself to yourself if you prefer. No one will judge you.

Beekman · Yesterday 22:02

I would miss out on so much wonderful stuff if I didn’t go alone to some things. Films, concerts, theatre, museums. I even enjoy dining alone these days

Of course it is nice to do stuff with other people too but enjoying a day/ night out on your own is something special. Do it, OP!

Pumpkinsaregrowingnicely · Yesterday 22:03

Who are u seeing op ?
I've been to 2 on my own. Same singer a few years apart !

Cheeringmeup · Yesterday 22:03

I did it a month or so ago. My husband wasn't really interested, so I didn't see the point in spending £65+ on him not really caring. I didn't want to miss an artist I'd been a fan of for over 40 years. Had a great night - go for it 😊

MarshmallowsOnToast · Yesterday 22:04

I’m quite shy & I’ve done an arena show alone. Even went to a festival on my own for the day. Had absolutely no regrets and could do exactly as I pleased 😌

Gengha · Yesterday 22:04

My husband went to one on his own recently as I was sick and couldn’t go. When I went to see lady gaga years ago there was a young guy sat next to me who was not only on his own but had flown in from Canada to Glasgow for the day just for the show!

thisismeithinkorisit · Yesterday 22:08

it's weird people think it's weird.

why shouldn't you go to things you want to just cos your mates aren't into it?

Original poster
bob1985 · Yesterday 22:10

Ok you’ve convinced me i’m not mad! I’m doing it!

They said it’s a social thing so most folks would be with someone. Said they would feel out of place

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Denim4ever · Yesterday 22:11

Been going to the theatre on my own since I was a teenager. I also recommend exhibitions and museums for solo visits. I'm not a hermit, I also go to concerts, theatre and exhibitions with friends and family.

BippidyBoppety · Yesterday 22:14

Yeah, do it. I go alone to concerts, theatre and cinema - I used to buy two tickets and take a friend but she became poorly and more often than not I'd go on my own with a wasted ticket / wasted £££. I'd love to see it be the normal thing to do - why miss out on something you want to see because someone you don't know feels pity for you ....

Mercedes45 · Yesterday 22:15

Please do it. Ive missed out on so many great gigs in the past because my friends have different tastes. I really regret it.
You wont regret going but you might regret not going

SlushMountain · Yesterday 22:15

I couldn’t do it, so agree with your friend

CandidLurker · Yesterday 22:16

Once you get used to going to things on your own you might find you prefer it. I often go to things in my own as I don’t like to be constrained by other people’s budgets and timetables.