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Perimenopause at 35?

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isitorisntit1 · 09/11/2026 20:39

I am 35, nearly 36. Cycle has gone from 28/29 days to 23 days. Debilitating exhaustion. So grumpy and irritable. No energy. Want to sleep all the time. Weird dreams. Feel a bit detached and like I don't really give a shit anymore. Wondering if it could be peri menopause or something else...

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Muffsies · 09/11/2026 20:48

It certainly sounds like a hormonal shift of some sort. How long has it been going on for? Do you wake at night, get sweats or anxiety without trigger for no reason? What contraceptives do you use?

It's hard to say if it's peri specifically unless it carries on for several months and your symptoms worsen, GPs may take extra convincing bc of your younger age, although it's certainly very possible it might be peri.

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isitorisntit1 · 09/11/2026 20:50

Muffsies · 09/11/2026 20:48

It certainly sounds like a hormonal shift of some sort. How long has it been going on for? Do you wake at night, get sweats or anxiety without trigger for no reason? What contraceptives do you use?

It's hard to say if it's peri specifically unless it carries on for several months and your symptoms worsen, GPs may take extra convincing bc of your younger age, although it's certainly very possible it might be peri.

I have developed severe anxiety but no sweats or waking at night.

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Muffsies · 09/11/2026 20:53

isitorisntit1 · 09/11/2026 20:50

I have developed severe anxiety but no sweats or waking at night.

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Are you on the pill (combined or mini pill) or other hormonal contraceptives? Depending on the type you take it could be masking some of your symptoms.

How long has it been going on for?

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isitorisntit1 · 09/11/2026 20:55

Muffsies · 09/11/2026 20:53

Are you on the pill (combined or mini pill) or other hormonal contraceptives? Depending on the type you take it could be masking some of your symptoms.

How long has it been going on for?

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I have the mirena coil. But have had it for years and years and my periods are always clockwork even with the mirena.

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isitorisntit1 · 09/11/2026 20:55

Muffsies · 09/11/2026 20:53

Are you on the pill (combined or mini pill) or other hormonal contraceptives? Depending on the type you take it could be masking some of your symptoms.

How long has it been going on for?

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Theyve been getting shorter over about a year

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Muffsies · 09/11/2026 21:07

isitorisntit1 · 09/11/2026 20:55

I have the mirena coil. But have had it for years and years and my periods are always clockwork even with the mirena.

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The mirena coil only releases progesterone. Peri symptoms are mainly caused by erratic oestrogen levels, so it is possible your cycle changes are due to peri.

I'd advise keeping a note of all your symptoms to take to your GP. Things like dry eyes, stiff joints, changes in migraines, problems finding words, UTIs, balance problems, nasal congestion, the list goes on..

You should also get full bloodwork done, including iron and vitamin B and D levels.

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isitorisntit1 · 09/11/2026 21:35

Muffsies · 09/11/2026 21:07

The mirena coil only releases progesterone. Peri symptoms are mainly caused by erratic oestrogen levels, so it is possible your cycle changes are due to peri.

I'd advise keeping a note of all your symptoms to take to your GP. Things like dry eyes, stiff joints, changes in migraines, problems finding words, UTIs, balance problems, nasal congestion, the list goes on..

You should also get full bloodwork done, including iron and vitamin B and D levels.

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Problems finding words is a massive one. It is awful. Desperately dont want to be in peri as I want a child.

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isitorisntit1 · 09/11/2026 21:39

I have also been having panic attacks and palpitations over the last year or so.

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Catza · 09/11/2026 21:40

isitorisntit1 · 09/11/2026 21:35

Problems finding words is a massive one. It is awful. Desperately dont want to be in peri as I want a child.

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You are still ovulating during peri so that is fine for now. I'd book in for a blood tests with your GP to start with as there could be a number of reasons for your symptoms. For what it's worth, my cycle changed in my early 30s in the exact same way and I got pregnant at 37 with no problems. I am actually only just investigating peri at 42 due to other symptoms like vaginal dryness, increase UTI etc.

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isitorisntit1 · 09/11/2026 21:42

Catza · 09/11/2026 21:40

You are still ovulating during peri so that is fine for now. I'd book in for a blood tests with your GP to start with as there could be a number of reasons for your symptoms. For what it's worth, my cycle changed in my early 30s in the exact same way and I got pregnant at 37 with no problems. I am actually only just investigating peri at 42 due to other symptoms like vaginal dryness, increase UTI etc.

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That is reassuring. Thank you.

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Muffsies · 09/11/2026 21:55

isitorisntit1 · 09/11/2026 21:35

Problems finding words is a massive one. It is awful. Desperately dont want to be in peri as I want a child.

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Even more reason to get blood tests to rule out other causes, you don't want to get pregnant whilst deficient in anything and feeling like shit.

It's a hormonal shift, but all the signs are that you're still ovulating. It doesn't have to be peri, but even if it is you can still get pregnant whilst you're having cycles. Just make sure you're as healthy as you can be, you don't want to go through pregnancy, etc, with all these symptoms.

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