3 year old - black eye

Definitely report! Might be nothing but how will you feel if worse happens and you did nothing?

My.son.had 2 black eyes like a panda at 3 from falling on the edge of a coffee table.

Surely the nursery is aware of the black eye as they would have seen it on the child?
The parents would have to fill in a form normally.

My 3yo got a black eye from running into a pole at soft play. I'm surprised she didn't get them more often since she never look where she's going.

I wouldn’t mention the black eye because it’s possible that it was caused by the stairgage and presumably the staff have seen it for themselves and asked for an details but I would mention the swearing, this may be part of a bigger picture or it may have been a one off but they’ll know more of the background than you.

If ever you're unsure - report it. Better safe than sorry.

Lots of people, some of whom are parents, swear. Lots of people speak to their children in not a very nice way, the time to report that was then, when it happened, if you felt that strongly about it. Putting two and two together and coming up with 11 now 🙄🙄.

Stop playing detective.

What exactly did you hear?

Yes report that as it’s emotional abuse. The child needs to be on someone’s radar to keep an eye on her. The more informed the nursery is, the safer the child will be. They will build a picture and will report anything suspicious.

Yeah, I’d mention it.

If your gut is telling you that something is wrong, report it. If you're wrong then no harm done except for causing a parent (who was potentially at the very end of her tether when you overheard her lose her cool) a little embarrassment about being called out.
If a little one is being harmed though, your report could (potentially) trigger a series of investigations that really help.

I'm in a similar situation. A child my dc has weekly playdates with strikes me as neglected: only ever wearing charity shop clothes (and not good quality); underdressed for weather; hair appears not brushed;
dirty fingernails; smells unbathed; bad breath as if teeth not brushed; minimal packed school lunch/lacks nutrition. Yet, parents have the child in at least 2 after school activities, mum always seems super happy to get child at pick-up with open arms and hugs, seems really into parent participation and genuinely interested in what dc is doing.🤷‍♀️

Definitely report.

This sounds highly unlikely, I’ve never heard of a three year old walking into a stagnate. If it caused black eyes we’d all know a three year old this had happened to.

I would think they’d have a bruised forehead or possibly cheek, not a black eye.

Oh my, that’s so sad. Definitely report. That is a truly awful way to speak to your child.

Definitely report to nursery

Definitely report what you heard to the DSL at the nursery. Generally, child abusers don’t leave marks as obvious as a black eye though.

Flinging random accusations doesnt keep children safe

When a child has a visible injury the nursery should investigate it, but theres no harm in anyone also also alerting them to the injury, it avoids things getting missed “oh someone else will do it”, which is even more important when it involves an event, rather than something that can later be seen.

Sadly a lot of parents talk to their kids like that, because that is the general vocabulary they use. It's vile but doesn't mean the child is being neglected or physically abused.

Safeguarding children is a universal responsibility, and the injury doesn't sound plausible to me either.

So the question is has it already been raised through safeguarding channels.

Please report.that poor child may well have a awful life at home, being spoken to like that is not acceptable.