To ask for a virtual hug

I keep thinking of you and sending you virtual hugs, I haven't sent any messages because personally, I found it quite hard when everyone kept asking how I was. I was devastated upset angry hurt. & none of those things were gonna change quickly, so it was a very hard question to answer.

Just wanted to drop by and let you know you haven't been forgotten 🤗🥰

Hi Apricot,

It just goes that way sometimes. Our beloved dog died one day after his walk, when he had been running around. An hour later, he got up and died on the floor. And my friends dad out is coat on to go out, sat in his chair and died then.

I think you are in shock still. And you didn't get to prepare did you, or say goodbye. It just happened as it did, one minute there, the next no longer there.

Are you off work? What are you doing today?

How're you today? I'm teary reading your post OP. What a terrible shock x

So sorry, Apricotsocks, sending huge hugs. Be kind to yourself, don’t expect too much of yourself.

It’s such horrible shock for those left behind but I hope you can take some comfort that your lovely Dad passed peacefully and was unaware.

Sending hugs. So sorry for your loss.

Sending you the biggest virtual hug , sorry for your loss ❤️

Big hugs OP. You was there with him, it was quick and painless. It doesn't seem possible right now, but these facts will be a big comfort to you soon. You need to take some gentle care of yourself now. Whatever you feel, its all valid.

A big hug from me. It is hard to make sense of death even if the person was very ill. I think it is the finality of it. If it is any comfort it sounds like he wasn't in pain and that you were with him. I hope you get love and support in the coming weeks and months. It is hard to lose a parent even as an adult ((((((( )))))))

Aah sending you a big hug OP . My darling Mum died suddenly a few years ago and I was absolutely heartbroken. Now I am so thankful that she died that way ,no pain,no suffering and no loss of dignity. The next few weeks will be surreal but eventually the shock will diminish and you can remember the good times. Xx

It’s such a shock, even when you know the person is unwell. Sending you a hug. x

Love and prayers are always with you xx

Oh sweetheart, those feelings make perfect sense, of course they do. Even those of us who have a long time to prepare find it a sudden shock at the end. I honestly think however much we try to intellectualise it, we cannot imagine how we will feel when it actually happens and that overrides everything. It's the sudden wrench - I've always said that grief is love that has nowhere to go because that person isn't there anymore. I don't know if that helps at all right now, but we're here for anything you want to talk about, and I hope it goes without saying that I am so very sorry for your loss. Talk about any and everything that will help you right now and definitely don't be in a rush to push past any feelings, everything you feel is valid and I am so sorry that it's so hard.

Sending hugs and I'm so sorry for you loss.

I lost my dad through an accident. He went to work and didn't come home. From my experience take time to accept what has happened. You will be on autopilot of planning and preparing without taking time to reflect and eventually grieve.

Do you have friends and family around?

Sending hugs.

Sending hugs too🫂

Hugs from me. Such a hard time for you, I hope you have a friend around in case you need to talk. Message if you want my support.

🤗🤗🤗🤗

lots & lots of hugs.

what a massive shock for you. That's a lot to get your head around.

But honestly what a fabulous way to go. Dinner and a chat with your daughter, and fall asleep and just not wake up again. I think it's what most of us would choose if we could. Try to take some comfort from the fact that he didn't suffer with his illness any longer and didn't suffer at the end.

I lost my dad suddenly too. I had had breakfast with him and he seemed totally fit and healthy, but instead of my dad coming home later that day, I got two policeman knocking on the door. He was only 65

Personally, I wouldn't say I've ever got over it, but you do learn to live alongside it 💕💕🤗

Sending hugs

This just shows your lovely nature, you are thinking of how it was for him first and foremost, and you're right because it's much better to be quick and painless. But your shock is equally important and that's the world you are living in for the moment, shock gets into all the parts of your body and takes time to dissipate, you're living in a bit of a limbo land at the moment where you know logically what has happened, but the rest of your body is taking time to catch up. How are you doing tonight? Can we do anything?

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you love and a hug ❤️🫂💐