It's the classic "DD15 threw an out of control party while I was on holiday" thread. AIBU to be this upset/angry?

Have you reported to the police now?
This is theft even if they were invited in.
you can get a crime number and insurance should pay out.
although more significantly you may be able to get the jewellery back.

Oh OP, that's terrible news. I echo what PP are saying, challenge the insurers.

Your DD didn’t invite them specifically did she? They waltzed in on the back of the rumour mill.

This is awful. I would make her pay for every bit of damage and theft. She needs to learn to respect her home.

Do exhaust the complaints process, get a deadlock letter and take it to the ombudsman. When the took the key was burglary/robbery 1; when they came back is burglary 2.

I'm hoping this has been reported to the police. As it is still theft.
A crime number then challenge the insurers go to ombudsman if needs be.

As it was done on a day they were not invited it does not hold.

Im so so sorry OP. Even if you challenge the insurance company and they pay up, no amount of money can replace the sort of things that have been stolen. What has your daughter said about this? I think I would be sending her to live with her father permanently.

This is the case that I referred to.

An honest jeweller informed the police that they'd received some of the jewellery from the theft, but the owners then found some more of the stolen goods in another shop.

[James Ness and Sons - for shame!]

https://www.professionaljeweller.com/edinburgh-shop-owner-caught-wearing-stolen-ring-by-victims-of-70k-jewellery-theft/

Jesus Christ I’m so sorry OP.

Yes - a local couple found their jewellery when they did a search of jewellers around here and first and then in Edinburgh.

I presume you have let the police know and you will be able to claim on insurance. That is truly awful. I just hope your daughter is truly sorry. I may sound mean but I hope some of her things were taken and she feels the full impact of he actions. Sadly for what it is worth your daughter has been incredibly stupid. I am feeling very sad for you and your son. That was incredibly devastating news but let us hope it has sunk in with your daughter the reason for not inviting random people is purely so things like this do never happen again.

This is vile.

So sorry OP as others have said this is heartbreaking for you, can’t believe that the situation got worse, I was hoping for a medals reunited update from you not this

Fuck, that’s awful! How did you realise they came back the next day?

So sorry OP, my DS did similar when he was 16 had a party when l was on holiday, invited 8 people 30 turned up but he had the common sense of putting stuff away so when l got back from holiday 3 days later him and his friend were still cleaning up and it looked like the place had been burgled but it had not, mainly stains on the carpets and a couple of items broken and he never had a party since ! But like yours it could have been a lot worse
Wishing you all the best.

Oh my word. I am so sorry. How utterly awful for you

@IllBiteYourLegsOff

I was hoping to hear you had got your DS’s medals back but this update is heartbreaking. I am so sorry. 💐

Nothing useful to add above what previous posters have said re insurance, except im so very sorry. Just heartbreaking to lose sentimental items(aside £ worth)

Check prawbrokers, cash convertors, ebay, etsy etc.
Im so upset for you😔

I think her dad is to blame. She staying with him and he was was responsible for knowing where she is and what she is doing. I something similar at her age but not as bad. I had to pay for all the damage and kept away for a few nights as my dad was so angry. I only truly appreciate it now I am older and have my own home.

You need to be a lot more robust challenging the insurance, don"t be fobbed off, DD needs to be told no more money for anything, get a job, and no more house key if you are away, ever. To be fair to her there are probably loads of people who look for SM posts advertising parties and go with the intention of robbing the house.

So sorry. Maybe you neighbours have doorbells that have recorded the little . Fingers crossed they can be caught.

Also, if your daughter didn’t know them, how was she supposed to have invited them in? This whole shit-show came about because of people she didn’t invite coming to the party.

I had a little look and apparently lots of insurers demand a "forced entry" to pay out ...it is scandalous though in these circmstances ...I'd be contacting the press office and naming them on MN if I didn't get a little kindness

I feel so badly for you, check the exact wording on your policy and definitely report to the police. Try again with the insurers as you did take care to prevent this and the dishonesty of others beyond your control (daughter, trespass at her party) caused the problem

Sorry to sound like a broken record but try the consumer pages in the newspapers to add extra lean into the insurance companies 🍀

Challenge this in terms of the insurance. Ask for case law etc. Say if I was invited in to a neighbour’s house, nicked a key at the time and then burgled them the next day I think they’d be insured. Also what about cleaners etc who have keys? I think the insurance company might be on shaky ground.

Do you get legal cover under the insurance policy or any other policy?