To think 26 year old dating 19 year old is weird?

When I was young (long, long time ago). It wasn't unusual to date someone 4 or 5 years older. It seems things have changed, DD thinks it's really odd if there is more than about a 2 year age gap.

Actually this reminds me of an old boyfriend who had a step dad who had the same name as him (who was separated from his mother).

Anyway, they had a business: I'm not going to say what it was but think along the lines that people would refer to the stepdad as 'Dave from the White Lion'.

Anyway, I tell my mother that 'Dave from the White Lion' has asked me out.

She goes mad, ranting on about how much older he was etc.
Im really perplexed by her reaction because he's only 5 years older.
(My ex was 24, I was 19) and after a while we sorted it out and she said, that's OK then.

She thought I meant the stepdad who was in his late forties.

So why start a thread then?
You have decided its disgusting so why ask for opnions?

I shall go and have Mr Monkey retrospectively arrested cos we met and started dating whe I was 27 and he was 36 😆

Surely the life experience you have has at 19 depends on circumstances and upbringing. At 19 I was at university 200 miles away from home living in halls with no parental oversight.

By then I had had a summer/weekend job since 16 that I commuted 30 mins by train to (after a half hour walk to the station), I had spent the summer in London on my own doing work experience with a large media organisation at 17. I lost my mum when I was 16 so at 19 was well versed in cooking, cleaning and generally looking after myself. My dad was an overworked single parent with no experience of university so I managed all the application and finances myself.

TL:DR it is perfectly possible for 19 years olds to have decent life skills and experience.

Yes it’s a bit weird but it’s not dangerous weird imo. I’d just think the older one was immature.

If you are immature enough to be reliant on Tiktok for your dating advice, this will be why you think it odd. It is very much a young person position. Once you get a bit older, you will see that a 3 year difference is nothing.

This topic comes up every other week. A lot of people apply a 'half the older age plus 7 rule', which this barely falls outside. And dependent on when their birthdays are, wouldn't at some points of the year, even now, let alone in a year or two if it lasts.

Is it a 26 year old woman shagging your 19 year old son?

I think it's sad that you see malicious intent in all seven year age gaps, no exceptions. As you'll see from PP, there are many happy couples who met at similar ages as the people you mention.
You evidently don't like either person. Is that the real issue here?

Oh don't be daft. It's not like one of them is 16 and the other 40.

I can’t see what’s wrong with this

You've left the sexes out of it but it changed the way I think about it.
I would I admit think it unusual that a 26--year-old woman was dating a 19-year-old man.
Not the other way around, though.
In any case, I think weird is way too strong a description here. So no not weird.

I mean that they're both young adults. I wouldn't say it was creepy or coercive or any of that stuff.

Is that what you want to hear? Because if it is, the answer is a firm no.

So according to some on this thread I'm predatory as I'm 55 and my husband is 51 😂alert the police !!!

I dated someone who was 28 when I was 19 and we worked together. We are still incredibly good friends 😀

Any age gap over 3 years is predatory? That's absolutely mad. As if Tik Tok is the benchmark for any kind of morality.

All rules are made up.

Tik Tok says................

There we are.

It’s a bit of an age gap but also not ikky, in fact one of my best friends is 7 years younger than her DH and they got together when she was 19/20 and have been married over 20 years now.
I wouldn’t get too worked up about it as long as the relationship is healthy

Very judgmental. She’s 19, not 9!

I had a 24 year old boyfriend when I was 17… I look back now and think WTF. He was an adult, with an office job and I was in 6th form.

My daughter met her now husband on a dating site when she was 19 and he was 25. They have now been married 11 years, together for 12. Two children and are very happy.

Is that a rule you've just made up?

At that age yes does seem strange I would agree. I would not have considered it myself.

but I’m the older one in my relationship by 8 years. Doesn’t seem strange at all this way around. Been together over 20 years.

If you've raised a man child then that's on you.

Maybe less time spent on tiktok would help.

If Tiktok said black was white and white waa black would you be telling people on chat forums that this is so?
Stop with the infantilisation of young people, they need to work out for themselves what they want/dont want.
No bloody wonder so many of them have mental health problems with the "grown ups" policing their every move!!
Just butt out FFS