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To find it inappropriate to describe your children in this way?

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Snoopy104 · 07/04/2024 18:54

A friend of mine (well, more of an acquaintance) has 2 young children. Her partner is very active on social media and frequently posts pictures of them, but he always captions them with swear words.
It's seemingly meant in an endearing way, however it just feels uncomfortable. He posted a picture of their 3 year old daughter and wrote 'Happy birthday to this cheeky little bitch!'

And called their son 'A little shitbag'.
Like he uses words like that about his children publicly, nobody seems to comment about it on the posts. It just seems very odd to me, or am I overreacting?

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Whatifthehokeycokey · 08/04/2024 09:29

That's gross. There's a woman at the park who calls her toddler "maggot". I think she thinks she's being funny.

genericbrunette · 08/04/2024 09:29

SIL constantly refers to nephew as little bstard or little tat

I hate it.

Velvian · 08/04/2024 09:18

I hate the word bitch, it is by far the biggest insult anyone can direct at me. I never forget when someone has used it against a woman or girl. He sounds seriously messed up and I would be avoiding him like the plague.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 08/04/2024 09:13

Horrible.
A friend used to work in a nursery and one day she asked the children what their mummies called them - most came back with e.g. ‘honeybun’, ‘my little soldier’, etc.

One little girl said, ‘You little cow! That’s what she calls me - you little cow!’ 😱

mumofoneanddone82 · 08/04/2024 08:38

It's really gross! Calling a little girl a bitch for everyone to see on social media (and if she does it there what does she call them behind closed doors)! Maybe next time you're with your friend take a selfie of her, post it on social media and use the same words!

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 08/04/2024 08:36

AngieRosess · 08/04/2024 03:56

I blame Breaking Bad

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It happened before Breaking Bad

A whole demographic of young women call each other "bitches". "I'm one bad bitch" etc

Noicant · 08/04/2024 07:40

I’ve definitely muttered “little sod” under my breath a couple of times. But yeah it’s a pretty awful way to refer to someone you love.

SevenSeasOfRhye · 08/04/2024 07:36

Distasteful at best.

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 08/04/2024 07:30

That is just awful and should not be doing that at all and using those words in front of their children. Feel sorry for the children and parent sounds like a right chav.

thebestinterest · 08/04/2024 06:19

He sounds like trash, and yes, that’s very odd. Why don’t you say something?

AngieRosess · 08/04/2024 03:56

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 07/04/2024 20:34

Those are used as affectionate terms amongst friends as well

"Hey Bitches whats up?!"

I think it shows an age/class difference

I blame Breaking Bad

Princessfluffy · 08/04/2024 01:57

Name calling is abusive in my book. I would distance myself and my dc from anyone who does it.

LongLaneLove · 08/04/2024 01:30

But there are certain things I never ever encounter in real life and only read about on Mumsnet. These include people referring to their children as bitches, shitbags or crotch goblins, or referring to their children as "sexy"

This. It's completely outside norms for me. It's awful. Those poor children.

misszebra · 08/04/2024 01:26

SleepPrettyDarling · 07/04/2024 23:08

Someone I know refers to her youngest child, a boy, as The Thug. Horrible. And stereotyping.

brilliant 😂

misszebra · 08/04/2024 01:25

😂😂I think its hilarious. my mother had some great names for myself and my sisters.

ticktickticktickBOOM · 08/04/2024 01:22

well I guess as long as these adults don't mind being referred to as stupid cunts, all is good in the hood.

HiCandles · 08/04/2024 01:10

Appalling and I'd be stopping contact if at all possible. I don't want my children hearing that kind of language. I've heard several parents refer to their offspring as little shits or little bugger almost affectionately, I don't get it when there are unlimited options of nicer words to use.

SleepingStandingUp · 08/04/2024 01:04

ShiteRider · 07/04/2024 19:46

I wouldn’t do it personally but I don’t find it any less disturbing than crotch goblins, bean, bear or any of those names

You genuinely find no difference in being called a bitch or a bean? Or a shit or a bear?

Frangipanyoul8r · 08/04/2024 00:36

So rough and tacky and disgusting. Block and keep your distance. I’ve never met anyone in real life who’d call their child such awful names.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 08/04/2024 00:17

I am not the queen of Sheba. I live in East London, I work in the NHS, my son attends the local state primary school.

But there are certain things I never ever encounter in real life and only read about on Mumsnet. These include people referring to their children as bitches, shitbags or crotch goblins, or referring to their children as "sexy". I don't know anyone skanky enough to do these things, and if I did I would drop them like a hot brick.

Katemax82 · 08/04/2024 00:08

I find it awful

Cornishpasty342 · 07/04/2024 23:45

I distanced myself from a friend that made these types of comments on social media about their children. Though never as extreme! I don’t think it reflects well on the type of person they are and I would feel uncomfortable around them.

RM2013 · 07/04/2024 23:42

I’ve seen people do it but it’s not something I would do

Biffbaff · 07/04/2024 23:41

Oh no, you can't use the word bitch about a child, especially not your own! How dreadful.

Sunnytwobridges · 07/04/2024 23:38

I’m no prude and I curse like a sailor but this makes me cringe. For some reason it makes me uncomfortable although I have a friend who will call his kids “lil shits” and it makes me laugh.

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